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writes:I have been in a relationship for three years,my boyfriend has four children and was seperated from his wife for 18 months before we got together,they were divorced two years ago.I can truly say that he is the love of my life and is everything a partner should be ... kind caring fun (great sex)...and a million other things that make me feel loved and happy....But I have never met his children 3 years on,we recently purchased a house together (4 months ago)that needed renovation and the work will be completed this summer.I have a six year old son and my boyfriend is after 3 years very much a part of his life.I have never met his children and they stay at his house every other weekend and he spends wednesday and monday evenings with them at the house that they live with their mum.Over the past three years he has said that he is just worried about upsetting them and periodically tells me that he will "talk to them soon".His children are now age 17 15 13 11.His children are aware that he has a "girlfriend" and as much as he makes me truly happy i feel deep down that i am cheating myself to pretend that the children situation does not upset and worry me.PS whenever i bring this up we end up in a big row and hays i am causing an argument.Please can you help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone for taking time out to express your thoughts on my situation.
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reader, called Steve +, writes (18 December 2009):
 When you first embarked on this relationship did he mention he has children? If so then he wanted you to consider the thought that one day you will meet them. If not then he has something to hide...I doubt he is just being over cautious...Steve
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Where do you stay when his kids are over at his house? Is that the house you bought?
And why is it okay for him to be with your kid but not the other way around.
What is he hiding and from who? Something very fishy going on here.
Unlike anon, I would push the issue. What is being hidden from who?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): After three years that's pretty weird, especially as he obviously plans on staying around if you've bought a house together. There could be numerous reasons, but if he gets argumentative when you bring it up I'd guess he's hiding something. I wouldn't push the issue though because once you're in your house together he'll have to introduce you. Good luck :)
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