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writes:So, my ex has done me wrong--undeniably. I broke it off. She cried and still wanted to be friends. I said no. She got angry.It's been 4 days. Why hasn't she called me back begging? I don't really (only kind of) want to talk to her, but it sure would be satisfying to listen to her cry into my voicemail.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (22 December 2009):
 Mate, your attitude is all wrong. People aren't computers. You cannot figure out a way to "get" her to chase you. Most importantly thinking like that in the first place means you are playing games.
That's why you won't get her back. If you do well its going to be rocky for you, after all once you break up that's it you've experienced the climax of the relationship ... By breaking up.
So if you do get back together things will likley repeat itself untill you or her Pretty much realize you've just wasted that part of your life.
Just move on and learn to live with it. You make mistakes tak it knthe shoulders an move on.
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reader, Garm +, writes (20 December 2009):
Garm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, she got me. I woke up to a ringing phone and answered it without checking the caller ID (nobody but my mom ever calls in the morning).She was frantic because I have been avoiding her calls and she knows it. She wants to be "my friend," because she "wants me in her life." She thinks I'm with this other girl that posted on my Facebook (I'm not), which seems to be driving her crazy because she kept blabbing about how this other girl doesn't know me like she does. I told her she violated my trust, and she's unreliable, both of which are qualities I need in my friends. She told me (vindictively) that if I didn't want to talk to her anymore she could easily arrange that. I said ok.I kept trying to get off the phone, told her I had things to do. Told her to call me sometime next week. She wouldn't get off, and I didn't want to hang up on her. She is insane.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): She is testing you! Girls are ten times more perceptive than any guy when it comes to this.This is a game to see who can hold their breath the longest and you are starting to gasp.Don't try to get satisfaction that will undermine your sucess.It will show her you still care that makes you a BIG Loser.
My wife cheated (stock pile of evidence).I asked her to leave, she left.After divorce and 7 years she still denys the affair.Has NOT begged to come back.
WHEN YOU SHOW THAT YOU CARE IT SUPERCHARGES THEM WITH POWER AND SHE'S WAITING FOR IT.DENY HER THIS POWER.
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reader, Garm +, writes (18 December 2009):
Garm is verified as being by the original poster of the question(I haven't bought the farm yet, but I'm sure negotiating prices with my real-estate agent!)
So, she called twice this morning and left a message with a friendly, bubbly, girlfriend tone, as if nothing ever happenned. She asked me to call her back, she'll "be available all day."
I'd better keep ignoring her, huh? she's just not upset enough...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 December 2009):
 I think you've bought the farm, Garm.
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reader, Garm +, writes (18 December 2009):
Garm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes.
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (18 December 2009):
You're a cruel man. What do you take her for? Your slave?
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reader, Garm +, writes (18 December 2009):
Garm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes, I realize how pathetic it sounds. That's why I say it only behind the anonymity of a message board.
I want her to chase to prove she really cares.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): Just forget about the whole thing! She's not going to chase you, so that's that. Let it go.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Maybe because she realized you are a petty guy not worthy of her time?
Do you realize how pathetic you sound?
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reader, Garm +, writes (18 December 2009):
Garm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was calm when i broke it off. So calm, in fact, that she was offput by it (she said so).
I want to make her chase after me, how do I do that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): You're anooyed because she wronged you in some way and now you want the "pleasure" of having her humiliate herself by leaving a tearful message on your voicemail.
Did you not express your anger at her when you broke it off? That was the time to let her know how you felt.
Now you need to let it go.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (18 December 2009):
Don't play this trick with a girl they almost always win. It's because you hurt her feelings and now she's probably moving on. You will probably end up chasing her begging for forgiveness and she will enjoy make it tough on you.
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