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writes:Is it possible, once a women says she doesnt feel in love with you anymore, to ever feel in love with you again? the relationship was rocky for the last year, I got to comfortable, and didnt really pay much attention to her, as we rarely talked, she got involved with another guy, and I found out, and told her it's me or him, she said she wanted to work on us, but never fully did, I found out she had been fooling around with him, and I tried to end it, she begged and pleaded and cried, and like a pussy, I cared about her feelings, I didnt feel anything for her, but I knew if I thought about the good in her, it would eventually come back in time, and it did, until I found out she's still talking to him I flipped my wig, and broke up, then I started to calm down and feel bad, I didnt talk it out first, but she said she doesnt feel it anymore, this pisses me off, because she never really tried working on us, she kept in touch with him, I understand that Ive screwed up(as well as she) but I just recently found out, from her freind, that this guy, for some strange reason??? has ignored her ever since we broke up, I think she just wanted to try him out and not sneak around to do it, but she doesnt want to get back with me, I was very destroyed, and tried to talk to her, and ask, and beg, but now, I just dont have the strength to keep hearing no, so I stopped talking to her all together, it's eating me up, and alot of the reason is cause I know she's destroyed that he dumped her after she walked away from me, and a part of me is cheering, but ive been with her for 8 years, and I truly do love her she seemed very confused and unlike herself through all of this, and I just don't have the patience to wait for her, when I don't know what it means to not be in love with someone anymore, because I thought I didnt love her either after that fooling around incident, but thinking of the good in her worked, so do I not know what real love is? am I just playing mind games with myself, or her, can someone take what ive just posted and make sense of it all? id be forever grateful? thanks
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (2 January 2010):
DeadEyeDick is verified as being by the original poster of the question Im just all over the place, okay, so, I got realizing, I had the idea when we me and my girl broke up, that "i wasnt going to beg her" but as times gone on, it's actually gotten more diffiuclt,I havent begged, Yet, but how can she act so cold, like it doesnt even bother her? she says if we got back together she would just hurt me more, I don't understand womens thinking or emotions I guess? I mean when I was leaving after she cheated, and she threw her arms around me and physically prevented me from going, and begging and pleading and crying, I couldnt bare to hear the desperation in her voice, I stuck it out, cause I knew I could find it in me to want her again, why is it, she doesnt even seem to mind, she said it was like a great big weight being lifted off her shoulders, when we broke up, why is it this girl has almost seemingly gone out of her way to move through a checklist of things that will hurt me, got to the end and I still want her? Im not an ugly guy, Ive never had a bad girl friend, in looks or personality, so it's not like I don't believe theres more out there, but what does she have to do to give me the message? i dont get it, and why would it be so easy for her?
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (18 December 2009):
you're not getting any younger. You deserve a stable and happy relationship. Let her go and move on.
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