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writes:I was wondering what people talk about when they go to a bar. I just got back tonight and a swear I cleared out the place. I had nothing to say. It's weird some nights I am easy going and talkative and other nights I am so shy I can hardly speak. I just want to know what I can do to make myself more interesting. I hate putting that way but I think I am boring at times. Any advice please.Second question, I am bipolar and I recently started taking medication to treat this so I can no longer drink alcohol. When I went to the bar I felt so out of place. I am in my late twenties and I feel like a need to get in with a new group of people. How can I go about meeting people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your advice. When I wrote this last night I was feeling really bad, but I did not even think about a coffee house. This was the first time I went to a bar and wasn't able to drink. I thought I would be okay but apparently I need a few drinks to relax me so I can talk to people. At one point in my life I actually did hang out at a coffee house so I will give that a try again. I was thinking about joining a biking club if I can find one in my area in the spring.
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reader, Soja Exiles +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Yea, that's a difficult one. I also have a similar problem. However I'm not bipolar, and I do great in bars, but I suck at clubs. Everyone wants to go to clubs, but I really suck in them. So, I stay away from them.
Take into account when you are talkative, does it happen when you ask the question, or when they ask the question? what kind of music is playing, is it loud, maybe the music is subconsciously putting you in a negative mood. What about the people? Lot's little? mostly guys, or girls?
A lot has to do with your own confidence, and if you lack, or if it fluctuates, maybe that's the problem. Seems like a trait in the bipolar. Maybe you are suppressing it, I'm not saying to get off the medication.
If meeting new people is your priority, then I suggest you experiment with the venues. Doesn't have to be a bar, you can go to a sports club, take a part time job as a waiter, go on hiking trips with random groups that meet up though online camping sites.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (18 December 2009):
 I go to the bar with friends for food and drink, we usually talk about the events of the day and tell stories from the past and even if its not funny when your drunk everything is laughable, we also try hard to get each other drunk trying all kinds of diffrent mixtures of alcohol. thats about it every now and then some one will get lucky and a girl will give them a number but all my friends are involved so its basically just to hang out with the guys and wash away the day with booze. so my question to you is why do you go to the bar i go into random bars by myself because i want a drnk and i cant walk down the street with a bottle of coors since you cant drink maybe you should try a coffee house,
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