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writes:I've been suffering from depression and was seeking help and support from a friend of mine.I have second friend who i have feelings for, but she doesn't feel the same way. She never emails me first, but when I send her friendly stuff every once in a while, she replies happily and always cheers me up. She already turned me down and I have no intention of being clingy toward her, pressing my problems on her, or trying to "force" her to change her mind about me.I emailed her to see how she was doing and she started being really really nice and emailing me all week. It felt really good. I tend to over-think things, so I asked my first friend if she had mentioned the depression to the friend I have feelings for. She admitted she had done so with good intentions.Now I feel horrible. I thought she was emailing me because she had wanted to talk to me, but it was just because she heard I was depressed and wanted to cheer me up. Is it stupid to be sad about this? I can't be mad at either of my friends. They just wanted to help me.I'm also humiliated because I was trying to act happy toward my friend and acting like everything was okay, but the whole time she knew I was actually in bad shape. I didn't want her to know I'm messed up. I thought she was starting to like me.
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reader, ccccc +, writes (18 December 2009):
Its ok it feel hurt sad or angry. But also understand that your friends where only trying to help you out. Maybe you might want real professional help so you can talk to someone without it coming out how you feel. Also if the second friend started worring and trying to cheer you up her feeling could change, but if not understand she loves you as a friend, and cares in her own way.
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reader, imperfectedbeauty +, writes (18 December 2009):
Hmmm now are you sure she doesnt like you because sometimes wen girls start talking to guys we tend not to be the first ones to txt, email, or call you know what i mean. But if you know its forsure she doesnt like you then move on dont let those things get you down. I tend to overthink stuff too and its not healthy but really talk to other girls and meet new people that'll help alot trust me!
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