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writes:Recently, i've been ignoring the guy i like because we got really close and then suddenly turned on me one night and started talking really nastily....I am right in doing so? Should i just walk away from it now to save more hurt or should i stay and see if he's going to try and win me back? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): Thanks so much for your responses guys!! I now know what I have to do and learn to be able to rely on myself. I shouldn't have to take crap off of him, even if it was meant as a joke!!
Thankyou for making me see sense :)
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 I agree with irish49 he's playing bad boy the wrong way. And your not that desperate right? Anyway he's doing it wrong: a real bad boy is never mean to his woman. He's tough on the outside and nice on the inside not the otherway way round.
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reader, Beyoncefan01  +, writes (18 December 2009):
Gurl trust me you dont wanna be around people who change on you! If he changes one thing who knows what else will change about him. Dont waste your time. You can be friends but dont be no more than friends. Dont get yourself caught up in a trap. Move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): Dating is a selection process, especially at your age. You are learning who is and who isn't good for you, as all dating relationships are based on a healthy dose of respect for each other. This guy is not a nice guy...you said yourself he turned on you. He knocked you off balance just to see what you would do. Which means
he's cruel enough to be playing a mean head game with you or he's a wuss who's not into dating you anymore and he hasn't the balls to tell you, in an kind, honest way. Either way he's a loser in my books.
Now, what about you, girl? I am wondering why you would even say, "should i stay and see if he's going to try and win me back?" Why would you even stick around to see if he does this. Really..who cares? He's treated you like crap..his behaviors have told you something 'creepy' about him. He doesn't deserve a nice girl like you but more importantly, you need to learn to not be so desperate for a bf, that you'd settle for this horrible guy. Learn from this experience and never, ever allow any fellow you date to treat you like this. You know you can do better...you are young, vibrant and you have 'a wonderful life' at your feet. Now, go out and find a guy who treaures and respects you..not one who plays hurful mindgames and will treat you like a doormat. These guys are a dime a dozen..go find a gem. Good luck, hun and take care of YOU.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 December 2009):
My personal rule is:
If someone is not nice to you, then don't speak to them any more.
If people on here could just follow that then there would be no more domestic violence and a lot less unhappy people in the world.
Stuff him. If he comes back and apologises then you can make a judgement on if he's worth having around.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Griffo +, writes (18 December 2009):
You could face him and explain in a nicer 'adult' way that you didnt appreciate him speaking the way he did to you. I would if I was you. Other wise he'll be led to believe thats the way you'll react in future, thus he'll likley think he can do it again not only to you but to someone else.
If he arcs up over that, forget him forever. He will learn.
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