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writes:Hi i'm 17 and have just come back early from my first visit to my girlfriends house. This was an interesting experience.I've been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months now and she's been round my house a lot and we've been out on a Friday and Saturday nights and things. But today i went round hers for the first time, now there family dont usually have guests round there house anyway. But i got there and her parents weren't in and we went in and started watching a film. About 30minutes in her dad came home. There was a knock on the door and she went to the door and he straight away asked he questions like whose are those shoes, who's here. He then came in to the living room where we were and sat down, not talking or anything making things very awkward and watched the film. There was no talking between any of us. We then went to go upstairs but he stood up and told us to stay downstairs and wouldn't let us. So we sat there for a while in silence watching tv until i decided i had enough i went home.I dont get what hes doing, does he not trust me or jst not like me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Frenzotic +, writes (18 December 2009):
 I think you and her dad should begin the first point of contact...TALK.
You should make the effort into saying hi to him, introducing yourself, asking general questions such as "How are you?" when it looks like he won't begin.
I've been through a similiar situation though it was to do with my friends. I have two best male friends, lets call them A and B. A comes over all the time but never talks to my mum and dad when he's over and my parents being the way that they are, don't talk back so it's rather awkard when they see him in the living room or kitchen. It feels like my parents don't like him. However when my male friend B comes over he always says hi to my parents, ask how everything is going etc and my parents will perk up and talk nonstop, even joke about.
It all comes down to the building a conversation. Maybe her dad felt awkard or was unsure of how to deal with the first-meeting? It's never too late, start talking to him and build a good friendship.
By preventing you guys going upstairs I think that was his fatherly protectiveness showing. He needs to know you as a person for a while to be able to trust you with his daughter. I don't think he has anything against you, you guys just need time to get to know each other.
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