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writes:My boyfriend is always playing games on his xbox live and him ad his friend are attached to the hip, the sit around all day playing xbox or somtimes they watch movies. I never get to spend alone time with him because I can never pull him away from his xbox or his friend! The only time I get alone with him is when we r sleeping and or having sex. What can I do? I hint to him and try to talk to him about it but he always gets mad at me and always tells his friend and he gets mad at me about it too! His friend leaves for the navy soon but Im still scared that we r drifting apart! I feel like the only time he wants 2 be alone with me if when he want to have sex. What do I do?
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reader, whythegames? +, writes (18 December 2009):
If he thinks his xbox is more important than you, then you are with the wrong man... Does he have a job? A stable/well paying one? Or is he a loser? Because you don't want to be with someone like that for the rest of your life...
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (18 December 2009):
 you need to talk to him mayb hes just getting in quality time before his friend leaves you should sit down and have an adult conversation with him if he wont make an effort then its probably time to move on
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reader, Soja Exiles +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Yea, I have the xbox bad habit, but I usually keep it for after my wife sleeps, I learned to schedule around it better. but its not nearly as bad as what you are stating. I watch movies that my wife wants very often, and we go out all the time, dinners and lunch's.I also use my xbox to try to have my wife play with me, such as use my xbox as a dvd player and we watch Dexter together, or play music from my xbox my wife likes, I even showed her how to rip music and to activate it whenever she wants, so the whole apartment plays the music she likes.Bottom line, he is ignoring you, sure he needs to have his own activities, but that does not mean he can be on his xbox every second of his life and use you as a blow up doll at night, it does not work that way. You should just move on and tell him that your not a dog that is waiting to be played with.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (18 December 2009):
Since you have tried to talk to him, the solution is not to sit around watching him have fun at your expense. Next time he gets busy with his toys and friends, get dressed up really sexy and smile and say "see you later" very sweetly. If you are nasty then he will think you are just trying to pay him back and he will just laugh it off with his friends. So when you are looking nice and you leave, go hook up with your friends or even by yourself to a movie or to a bookstore and come back home very late. Don't sit around at home steaming with anger. Don't revolve your life around his. Get on with yours! For a guy this age, the thrill is in the chase and if all you do is sit and wait for him then he will never make an effort to keep trying to please you. Every time he does this, make immediate plans and leave the house. 95% it will work. If it doesnt and he still doesnt care, then maybe you need to make a permanent plan to move out; you can't babysit someone so childish forever.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Leave him, dont get stuck in this sort of bad cycle, find somebody who will value you, who has some sort of life besides x box and movies - dont they work?
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