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writes:how do i feel better? i feel guys only wanna date me to prove a point to their friends im 19 nd a virgin. my very first bf broke up with me cuz he said the relationship got boring. then he lied about sleeping with me. then i met another guy who i used to like when i was younger but he recently started to like me but he is a cheater. and he has also called me boring his little bro nd his cousin and some of his friends tried to date me but i havent and i didnt sleep with any of them and they would say things to each other "like give up(his name) you not getting it. im thinking they mean sex when they say it. i find that very disrespectful. but the boys im talking about are like 19,20 do men ever grow out of the phase of impressing their friends?
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (22 December 2009):
 Prince charming will come right when you least expect him. Your still very young so there's plenty if time ;)
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 [Looks at the small electric remote controlled helicopter that is charging up]
No.
But serious now. Some boys never grow up in the way that you mean and you are finding out who they are the hard way.
You do know the saying "a girl has to kiss a lot of toads to find her prince". Well it is true and unlike a lot of girls, you are indeed sticking to just kissing them, rather then updating the saying "a girl has to have a lot of kids with random toads before she settles for a random toad if any".
If I were you, I would take it more slowly. Watch a guy a first, before you get to involved. See how he acts, NOT so much to you (he wants something from you) but to others. To ex girlfriends, to those who are in a serving role. This way you can get a clue as to what he is really like.
Tell me, these guys you dated, if you think back, how were they to other people. Kinda disrespectful to any one that they could?
Some guys mature.
A better question is, do girls ever stop being attracted to immature guys.
Because there is one thing all these ex'es got in common. You fancied them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): We do mature... Although we are never going to get over the fact that bodily functions are funny:) It seems like you are dealing with guys that are rude, not immature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): You aren't describing immaturity. You're describing guys being assholes. There's a difference. People are usually either assholes or they are not. They rarely "grow out of of it" at any age.
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reader, Soja Exiles +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Do boys mature, I think there is always something within every guy that never matures. That does not mean that ever guy is a loser.
Unless you are looking for the same sex as he is, then you got to stay away.
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reader, Alice Wonders  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Short answer is, NO.
About your dates, they just wanted sex with you. If there's more you wanted from them, then they're not good for you. Forget them!
You'll find what you look for, I'm sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol thanks i will try to keep that in mind. i feel like if i answer to him that is what he wants to get a rise out of me. cuz i dont get angry easily. or do i continue to ignore him? i jus feel like ive been waitin on prince charming forever and im starting to give up hope in believing theres someone for me what to do???
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reader, lovelife1437 +, writes (18 December 2009):
Age does not define maturity. Maybe you're hanging out with the wrong crowd so all the boys are feeding off each other so they're acting in a similar fashion. Stay focus, you're doing the right thing by standing tall and sticking to your decision. The right one will eventually come through and you'll feel it in your heart, no need to rush into a relationship. Be friends first and get to know them before dating them. Good Luck! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): No They don't they just get bigger toys the older they get.More money always trying to impress.For us it's about status we want it because it makes us feel specialabove the rest.The higher the status the better looking girls we can get too.I know sounds shallow but from now on I want to say it the way I see it.
I could ask will women ever stop worrying about their looks?
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reader, Griffo +, writes (18 December 2009):
Your not boring they just have expectations of you which aren't what you want to give. So they try to hurt your feelings because they can't
get what they want ... Sex.
If you really want to piss them off you could say to your friends that it's because once they dropped their pants and it was so small you freaked out and almost laughed. Guys hate that. If their gonna play you you might ad well play them for a fool.
To make it simple your just going for the wrong type of guys. Maybe you should date an older guy who will wait for you if he likes you he will understand. or go for a funny good looking computer nerd for a change. Then annoy the guys that when he droped his pants you were quite impressed.
I know this sounds a little immature myself but hey why let them get away with treating you like crap???
Otherwise just ignore them and be prestigious.
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