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*lways_diving
writes:Dear Cupid,I'm a 28 year old man and I think I'm addicted to making women orgasm. When I'm with a woman I'm intimate with, I just crave making her cum. It really turns me on, but I actually feel almost compelled to do it. I love, LOVE going down on women and making them cum, but also love making them cum using just my fingers and during sex. So much so that when I'm going down on them and they've already orgasmed, I don't want to stop! I've even had partners tell me to take a break, which I usually do until they are ready for more. My desire has made me a really good lover, but I can't help but wonder if this compulsion is strange. I tried searching online to see if there is some kind of addiction like this, but couldn't find anything on it. Is this normal or am I weird? Is there a term for this? Please help!
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reader, StraightTalker  +, writes (19 December 2009):
As long as you dont force women to do stuff they are not comfortable with and know when to stop then i think you are just a considerate lover :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): Dude thats always our goal.I love to see her "O" face. oh oh oh oh.Your as normal as me.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 December 2009):
 I think most women here are wondering if you're single right now... (just kidding) But seriously, we all have our turn-ons and favorite things in bed. When my boyfriend cums it honestly gets me so turned on I usually finish with him. So no, watching your partner orgasm and loving it isn't unusual at all. It's a good thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): i wish mmy bf was like you!
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reader, always_diving +, writes (18 December 2009):
always_diving is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGreat answer, DoubleM, and really good advice. That takes a lot of time to do properly, but definitely worth it!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Well, you may not really need any instruction at all, but you might learn something additional from reading the following:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-advice-do-you-have-about-giving-and.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): No it's not strange. You sound like a normal, healthy, considerate guy who loves to make his partners happy. Awesome! Keep doing what you're doing. But take note of when a female asks you to stop. You stop. Let her relax and allow her to bask in the afterglow. And then allow her to pleasure you too. That's the wonderful beauty of lovemaking is when both partners are considerate, and caring with each other and really want to give to one an other. Just enjoy!
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reader, always_diving +, writes (18 December 2009):
always_diving is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do appreciate all the answers and certainly agree with being in tune with what my partner wants. In fact sometimes I think I’m too in tune. Because I always want to make my partner cum, I’ve learned to become extremely in tune with what she is feeling and I respond accordingly. I never pester my partner in this respect, but more often than not I do end up tiring them out! And no, DoubleM, I haven’t read any of your articles (just found this site), but I might have to start! I am still somewhat concerned about my compulsion, but I guess you’re all right in that so long as it isn’t a problem, I should just enjoy it :) However, I’d still like to know if there is a term for it, as there seems to be a term for everything else.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 December 2009):
Well certainly, up to a point, you are what I would call way above normal. It's sounds as if you have been reading my articles about pleasing women, but I do not intend to come-off boasting. My suggestions are archived here. It is simply that - what works . . . works! So, don't push beyond what a woman enjoys, but be happy that you can be one man who provides pleasure for the ladies lucky enough to know you. Based on the postings, very few men ever get it.
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reader, lostbird  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 there is nothing wrong with that at all. If there is one thing in the world that is the best feeling is going down on a woman. I too have been told come up for air! lol I love the taste the smell the shear exxxcitment of being there. try spelling out the alphabet with your tounge. I love doing that. nothing wrong with you man. might sound bad but keep lickin' away!
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reader, dazey  +, writes (18 December 2009):
as long as this doesn't rule your life when you're not with a lover, or rule the way you relate to your partner
(s)- and by that I mean make sure you treat your woman properly in all areas of life, and not just see her as an orgasm waiting to happen- then it shouldn't be a problem.... i think making women cum when you're at it is kind of the idea isn't it?
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reader, LUFC +, writes (18 December 2009):
 You could be a possible sex addict...or just really enjoy making a woman feel pleasured. Either way i would go to a GP to check that you are okay.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 December 2009):
Yes you are strange, you should put yourself in a crate and post yourself to the Natural History Museum in London as the "World's Best Boyfriend."
Chill out!!
If you wanted to go round stabbing people then you would have a problem.
This is not a problem... this means you are going to get a reputation with the ladies for all the right things.
Good Luck!! xx
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