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writes:I need help.. ive been dating this guy who is 28 for about 3mos now, I am a couple years older the problem is he is constantly talking and obsessed with feces and wants to be humilated by this his mis happenings. The main talk is this situation. He appears to care and does do what he says he will do but its just this constant fetish! Advice? I dont know what to do, he has a great job, nice home and says he really cares im just confused am i there for this fun he says 'no' but im not so sure. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): That would realy give me the shits. Sorry, I know that's no help but someone had to say it.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (19 December 2009):
 umm he needs to get over that tell him thats something he and you can go through life without. we all have things as crazy as they may be in life that we want to try but normal commonsense usually gets in the way. this guy needs to get over this realism he has a good woman and try to have a typical sexual relationship. if he cant get over this i think you should move on
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (19 December 2009):
 And? It wouldn't be my cup of tea, and it may not be yours, but you are the one who has to life with it or do without him.
So, is it something you can accept or not? Are you going to hate every minute being with him because of it, or is it just that you think "oh well, if it makes him happy". I would suggest that you need more then just a house and income. The world love is not mentioned by you at all. Why is that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): If his fecal fetish has you retching I would take that as a sign he is not for you. I take it you don't really enjoy defecating on him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 December 2009):
 That would so be a no-no in my book. Not sure if he has a fetish or is jsut really immature and liked to talk about crap a lot though, your post isn't very clear.
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reader, jc2008  +, writes (18 December 2009):
If your having to ask yourself this question you are at a stage where your thinking, is this guy right for me and can I tolerate the things I don't like (e.g. fetishes) for the things I do like (nice house, money etc). You need to decide if the pros outweigh the cons, remember a leopard never changes its spots and if you are already having some doubts, don't ignore your gut instinct. Stand up for what you want in a relationship and don't put up with controlling ways either. At the end of the day, do you want to spend potentially the rest of your life feeling uneasy with a partner?
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