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writes:Hi. ok i've known dis guy for 4 yrs n we've gone out for 3 n half of them. i had started lying a lot to him regardin Oy health n stuff jus to get more attention from him. he always loved me n believed me. however i started turnin into a compulsive liar. kept lyin to him repeatedly wi new stories all d time. i dunno why i did what i did. he always gave me Everythi. but i kept wantin more. its as if d power to manipulate him had consumed me. this carried on for a year. 2 weeks ago he dumped me sayi dat i have screwed up our relationship too much. i agree. my life had become a lie. he said he can't bear me cuttin myself n all every time we have a fite. truth is i never did. but i always told him dat i did. now here's d problem. i am crazy bout him. love him so much. i can do anythin to go back in time n take back d lies but i can't. i need help. i know he still cares a lot bout me. please tell me how to get back wit him. n pleas give me answers other than tellin him d truth. i cannot ever tell him d truth. pleas help me. please
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 I thin you should see out some therapy to address the compulsive lying before you ruin your next relationship.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 If you truly want a chance to get him back, you have to tell him you lied about cutting yourself. He broke up with you because of this lie. Nobody wants to be the reason somebody does this to themself. I'm not saying he will take you back after you admit lying to him but at least you will have removed the reason for the break up and will be able to have a honest footing for any relationship with him.
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 You're not going to like hearing this, but he is a lot better off without you! He does not deserve to be with someone who can't tell him the truth! A relationship is all about telling your partner the truth, and trust, and no one can trust a liar. I really think you need to grow up and stop living a lie! And if you can't do that, I think it's best if you just stay single.
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