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anonymous
writes:This is my first time on the site and it is mostly because I don't want my friends to judge me. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and I feel that he is taking me for granted and does not love me. He has gone through some tough times with his job in the last 2 yrs and during that time I have stayed at home with our child and did not go to school for financial reasons I did not work because he wanted some one at home. He has not had sex with me more than twice a month in years. He wont marry me because he has told me he doesn't have money but I have come to find out he had 40k saved up and spent it on starting a business, which caused us to face bankruptcy. He has also told me he did not believe in it but I have recently found out he wanted to marry his ex. He has not bought me a present for any occasion. Lastly I caught him looking at naked photos and asking to have sex with a girl online when our baby was 2 mo old. I dont want to be selfish and burden him through these tough times of having no job and every time I bring it up it is never the right time and if I do he verbally abuses me and throws things at me and blames me for doing it. He will then say I choose this life and I should have got an abortion. I feel so empty, hopeless, and lost.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 December 2009):
You don't want to be selfish!! Read what you've written! This guy doesn't care that you exist. He won't marry you, he said he did't have money, then it turned out he did. He doesn't give you presents, he looked at naked photos and asked to have sex with another women, and then verbally abuses you and throws things at you. Your confidence has been destroyed by this man. You MUST leave him. He doesn't love you, he's a selfish nightmare who only loves himself. You can do so much better than this man. Get away from him, get counselling to help yourself and build up your confidence, and find a guy who will love you, not hurt you like he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): I think you are being mistreated and that you are right to feeling unloved as it appears from your account that he is not attracted to you at all but just going through the motions.Perhaps, it is better for you to seek another man that will be into you 100%. Your present catch could be dumped back into the sea.
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