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writes:Right, Where to start, This is mainly for the women to answer, I know not a 100% answer but a females opinion would be appreciated..I've been talking to this girl, shes 16 and shes really nice, really good heart, not manipulative or anything...She likes to go on dates first n stuff we go for walks n stuff, going cinema soon etc she said she doesnt want to rush things and wants to take things slow..so last night i asked "so how do you feel? Friends or if i be a good boy then we can be more than friends?" and she replied with "We will see but lets just be friends for now and see then :) x x" should i be reading more into that and be positive and happy that im not going to get hurt or if you said that to a guy would it be because you didnt want to say "no we will only be friends?" just your opinion would be nice...it might soothe the Paranoia im begining to get! and some tips or advice on how i can approach the situation better would be great if you have any ;) thanks!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the comments, I'm trying to be patient but it's hard, All i can think about is her, She's come at a time in my life when i was at my lowest and picked me up and made me the total opposite to low..When we're walking and shes giggling and smiling i just want to grab her and hug her, but i just cross my arms to prevent me from doing that, Which may give off wrong signals to her lol she will be impressed by her christmas present, i think it's really nice and will be somethin noone has ever done for her before!
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reader, semperfidelis  +, writes (18 December 2009):
Okay, since the first person to answer this was a guy--which I find weird--I'll introduce the female point of view. First of all, think back to the day she said those words to you.
Did she look you in the eye and tell you? If she did then I say take her advice. She's being careful and trying to make sure that neither of you gets hurt while she figures out exactly how she feels toward you.
She's being smart, not impulsive and that's something to admire. Just be observant, take things as slow as SHE wants, don't rush her. Let things unfold because, really, only time will tell.
I can tell you from first-hand experience, if she says "take it slow", it's for good reason so just bear with her, watch how things go.
Bottom line: be patient.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): She sounds to me to be a nice girl and I suggest you do as she says and take things slowly. As a man, I know exactly what your feelings are but try to understand a girl's view. She does not want to get pregnant and she may want her feelings for you to develop further. If you try to force her too quickly, you will most assuredly drive her away and you do not want to do that do you?This situation can be very difficult for a man especially if your friends keep asking you how you are getting on and pulling your leg etc. but your alternative is to date a flighty girl who will probably be with you today and with someone else tomorrow and may play you off against other chaps and tease you and nag you into spending on a good time. If you want that, then try another girl but it sounds to me that she is a very nice girl so my advice would be to be kind and attentive towards her and to let things develop along and see what happens.Anyway, I wish you well and hope things go to your satisfaction.
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