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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

One day he's really attentive, the next day he ignores me! What's up with this guy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5427 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I have absolutely no idea what to think about this guy. This guy is the co-owner of a bistro that is next to my work, a place that I eat at when I work (I started because there's nowhere else to eat over a 30min. break in the area!) I'm 18 and I would say that he is probably in ... (452 words)

What in the world is this guy doing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

Insecure about my Vagina's appearance! Help!!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - okay big time help needed! i have really really really low self esteem when it comes to men. Not about meeting them, but 'otherwise'. Whenever i am getting intimate i never allow a man to go near my bottom half because i have a vagina that has the inner lips bigger than the ... (119 words)

How do I find a good strong man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age - How can I find a good, emotionally strong man for a shoulder to cry on, hold me, listen, etc? I'm 5oish woman in southern California, USA.... (26 words)

I don't like the person I've become since I've gotten married

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

31 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - Let me set the stage for anyone who's reading: I've been married for 10 years with children. My wife and I got married at a very young age because of our first child or should I say, I married my wife because of our first child. After that we had another and now after som... (581 words)

Speedo watcher

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in love with a guy at the gym who wears speedos! I can't take my eyes off him when he gets in or out of the pool. He is tall and thin but looks incredible in those skimpy speedos. When he gets out of the pool, I have asked him some questions about proper swimming techniqu... (92 words)

I just found out that he has a girlfriend, I'm distraught, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ive been talking to this guy from ireland on msn for about 7 months and im really in love with him. He told me he really wants to come see me and that hes saving up to see me. I never btw pushed him to come visit me it was all him and his idea. I thought he was serious because ... (815 words)

I'm 16, and my 20 year old boyfriend has 3 kids, am I in over my head?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I am sixteen and seventeen in under a month. I am with a guy who i've been with now over a month he is 20. And even though it's only been a month i am really falling for him, he is amazing when i'm with him he makes me feel happy. The only problem is he has three kids. 1 with ... (320 words)

Lovers or Bestfriends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5414 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - hey evrbdy , im writing cause i need help , im deeply in LOVE with my bestfriend and we will call him MIKE , well me and MIKE have been friends for 2 years and he has a baby and the mother of his child we'll call her LIZ doesnt like me , and i dont care for her. but me and M... (164 words)

My little sister missed a period, but she has never had sex. Could something be wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5430 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey i was wondering if some one could help me help my little sister. Shes 14 but all most 15 and shes never had sex. But she hasn't had her period this month and shes never missed one before and she hates talking about it so she came to me.I was wondering if it could be serious ... (64 words)

Its been a year of unrequited love, now my teacher seems to be deliberately avoiding me?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 5243 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - OKay, I have written on this before, but decided to stay anonymous, some people may recognize the story. I am in year 12 studying A Levels. I am 16 year old girl. I have had feelings for a teacher at my school for a year now. He was my former Head of year and obviously is... (1520 words)

He told my ex he likes me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - theres a new kid in my school and i really like him, my ex was talking to him and said he liked me, what should i do?... (27 words)

Emotional affair with your boss

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi. I filed a HR report against my boss. THis is a retail environment. We previously had an 'emotional affair', as is called these days. He actually wanted to be friends in spite of my HR claim. He tried being my friend again, but he keeps doing hurtful things to me. So... (168 words)

I don't know what to say anymore after texting all the time!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - hello, well wen ever i text mt girlfriend in the morning and i really enjoy it but wen we get later in the day , say about 6ish, things kinda slow down and im tired of texting her. every day since Christmas ive been texting her, dont get me wrong i really like to text her. ... (108 words)

He wants to be with me 24/7

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5430 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I need some help my boyfriend follows me every were evan if I go in the kitchen or to my bedroom iv evan spoke to him about it and he's says he's wants to be by my side 24 7 but I need my own space and can't evan have that I think he's obsessed and we keep arguing about silly ... (82 words)

Lost my virginity I need help please

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ok i lost my virginity yesterday early in the morning around 1 or 2am in the morning me and my boyfriend want to have sex again but will it hurt worse the second time or not?and will it be hard for it to go in even though i already had sex once?... (52 words)

I don't like my husband's best friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - So my husbands best freind is somebody who I dont care for. When i first met him, he bragged about how he was cheating on his girfriend to me and my husband. So I dont HATE him, I just wouldnt trust him if i were a girl. Well he has a fiance now and I also dislike her. She ... (304 words)

Am I just someone who occupies his time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - i've beendealing with guy for 5 yrs but he has a girl who he lives with and has a 14 yr old son . he doesnt trust me but he doesnt want me around other guys or even talkin to guys. what i want t know does he hav feelings for me or am i jus someone that occupies his time. nothin ... (96 words)

What do you do when you really like someone but you can't tell them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - what do you do when you really like someone but you cant tell them. please dont say just forget because i cant. this guy started my job a few months ago and ever since day one ive had a major crush on him. i like everything about him. the weird thing is hes also said hes neve... (230 words)

I think she loves me, but I don't know?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - Okay so there is this girl that was having problems with her boyfriend and was really sad all the time so I talked to her and gave her some advice on what to do. Then we started talking all the time and then we started flirting with each other, keep in mind she still has a ... (239 words)

I love her but her behaviour and mood swings are making me question it all, please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 December 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - I need some really good advice. Please... My fiance and I have been engaged for about 6 months. We met one year ago. I realize most people will think that was way too soon to get engaged. It was a little fast but i don't regret it. I love her dearly and truely believe s... (507 words)

Problematic choices and I don't know which one to pick!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5435 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, i'm looking for some guidance. The scenario involves 2 guys; lets call them Nick and Andy. I've known Nick for over a year, me and him have got very similar personalities and get on like a house on fire! Although, we have drifted apart in recent months as we aren't in... (735 words)

His kids are preventing us from moving forward

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - Stats: I have full custody of my child. We have known each other from school, over 20 years ago. We reconnected almost one year ago. I’ve been divorced for nearly 10 years and have one young daughter. He has been divorced for one year and legally separated for 3 years. ... (747 words)

Her parents are keeping her from me but I love her, please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5436 days ago

31 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - my girlfriend's parents are against the whole idea of having a relationship. Recently, they saw my relationship status on facebook with her and caught us. Her cell phone has been taken away, and she has been locked up in her own house. Things have gotten worse now, even her ... (79 words)

I want my cake and eat it too. Why not he has!!!!!!Help

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5426 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I got married young and Iam very confused about what to do at this point. My husband and i have been married for 7 years and its been a ride. He has hurt me in the past in which i forgave him.Now he is giving me his all (i think) Now I have a lover on the side for the first ... (159 words)

What deos it me when a guy says he doesn't want a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ive been talking to this guy i met on plenty of fish.. on his profile it says hes looking for dating.. he calls me alot even though hes on holiday.. he have good conversations and make eachother laugh.. but he says hdoesn'tnt want a relationship and doest like ge... (165 words)

She says shes tried to be friends but just doesn't understand me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I have recently fallen out with a female friend. I've known her for around 8 months. I did like her as something more, but she rejected me. Since, it's been a bit difficult being friends, but it was working out. We got on great the last times we met, but last weekend, I got in ... (337 words)

Unsure what to do...pregnant at 15!!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - well without a doubt im pregnat. 15 years of age thats the bad thing about it. with me being sexually active i had only one partner wich is my boyfriend. we have been together for two years now, and we always used a condom. i just dont know what to do. i refuse to tell my ... (68 words)

Just friends when he thinks the woman is sexy?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5019 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Can a male and female just be friends if he thinks the women is sexy?... (15 words)

We had sex, he pulled out, but could I be pregnant?!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (?) age 30-35 - i had unprotected sex last night and he pulled out onto my backside... i was wearing a thong tho (he jus pulled it aside when we were having sex) and he got his cum on it. i didnt take my underwear off until about 30 mins later. i jus had my period a little over a week ago. ... (66 words)

Attracted to another guy, but I love my boyfriend, help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5169 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help. I have a boyfriend who i have been dating for 11 months. i love him so much and i really don't want to lose him but a few days ago i went to my friends birthday party and there was this boy there who i have met a few times and have really got to like. he tried it ... (232 words)

Happy New Year!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

- HAPPY NEW YEAR to all readers, Aunts, etc.! It's been a very good year. Please don't be in agony if your New Year's eve love dream doesn't happen tonight-- it's just one long evening, and I get nervous, too, but try to be philosophical. Just relax. Everyone at As... (131 words)

Small sharp pain in my left ovary, is this a sign of pregnancy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have this sharp small pain in my left ovary similar to what I used to get at the beginning of my last pregnancy that ended in a miscarriage last June.. is this one of the early signs of pregnancy? Has anyone experienced a similar pain b4 finding out you were pregnant? And ... (62 words)

Can I get an abortion at 14 without my parents approval?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5272 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - hello... 3 weeks ago i lost my virginity but we didnt use a condom and i went and got the morning after pill. but now i am sore and red and itchy in my virgina and i have white liquidy stuff coming out my virgina, it drips out when i use the bathroom,i am very worries bec... (116 words)

My boyfriend appeard to throw up after I told him about my past! Why??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so last night i was on the phone with my boyfriend and we were talking about something, and he asked for a pic of me in a new shirt i had told him about wearing it and a thong only, i told him maybe then asked for one of him in boxers and asked with my d**k out? i hate when ... (155 words)

I'm in love with twin brothers

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - okay...so listen please, i am 15, and i am practically crazy over these twins. They are my age and i have known them since pre-kindergarten, or since i was four. so one of them is absolutely crazy over me and we are always looking for chances to see each other. we have gon... (159 words)

I recently found out that my boyfriend is married with kids...and dating other women!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - well i have a big prob i don't know what to do. I have been dating this guy for nearly year and a half now, About 8 months in the relationship i found out he is married and had kids. I was so upset. I asked him about it which he denies at first and then we started talking ... (330 words)

Am I overreacting about my boyfriend's eagerness for a threesome?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Am I overreacting when my boyfriend is overly enthused about a threesome? I mean, I brought it up, but I just wanted to see what he would say. Now its all he can talk about, and he wants it with my best friend who is prettier than me and has bigger boobs. He's so excited and I ... (74 words)

Would you treat someone differently if they had acne?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5427 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Hiyaa. Another question coz I am very self conscious. As you know, I'm 13. Be honest with me. If someone had acne, would you treat them differently, and would you notice they had it? :/ xx... (46 words)

My boyfriend keeps souvenirs of his ex

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5088 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Months ago, i found in my boyfriends room, cards and photos from his previous relationship. I asked him why did he keep them and he said "to remember the good memories". This hurt a lot but he eventually threw them away. He reasoning later was that he was scared of us not ... (158 words)

My boyfriend's mum interferes with our relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help you guys, im 17 years old and my boyf is 21. He lives at home with his widowed mum due to money issues (ie. she has none because she retired very early and now needs his). Over xmas he came to us on boxing day while she went to a mates and then told him to back for ... (256 words)

I lost interest in a lady fast

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Please i dont know what to do or say to make a girl say 'YES' instantly for a relationship.I usually lost interest when she decide to play hard to get.... (30 words)

Leaving for the army! Should I marry him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of about 3 months told me an hour ago that he was leaving for the army in a few hours i dont know what to do he also asked me to marry him but im scared that he will get hurt im 15 and hes 19 anyone know what i should do? ... (54 words)

He is sweet to me but his friends call me bad names

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Helo I'm Chloe. I'm 13. I've got a boyfriend. Me and him have been fine. Getting along perfectly. We have been together for nearly 7 weeks. Not a single argument. But his friends are always calling me spotty and ugly. I do have a major spot problem, but I don't know how to... (94 words)

After 10 years should I contact him and try to get closure?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Bare with me this a long one. I met this man (DB) when I was 15, I am now 29. He was my teacher my sophomore year in high school. There was a ton of chemistry between us but we never acted on it besides lots of flirting, occasional hugs, and "accidently" brushing up against ... (1275 words)

A mini period?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5435 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I am due on in a few days but i've been having little period like cramps. At first i just thought that meant i wasn't pregnant but then i read about women who do have cramps during the first couple of weeks of pregnancy. I had sex right in the middle of my cicle - two weeks ... (152 words)

I think he might feel the same way, but not sure?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5194 days ago

31 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - im still very much in love with my first. by my first i mean the guy i lost my virginity to. it happened in the summer 19 days after my birthday. after our experience we hit it off very well and i was in high hopes that we could end up in a relationship, but then along came his ... (171 words)

I can't have without it hurting so much!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 December 2009 (F)

- I am 21 years old and my bf and I of 9 months have just started to have sex for the first time in our relationship. The problem is everytime we try I just clamp up and therefore when he tries to enter me, it hurts like hell! The pain is so bad. I am not a virgin, I had ... (205 words)

Why is my girlfriend lying to me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay, so I have a situation where I can hardly ever trust my girlfriend. We've been together for almost 2 years and I still findit hard to believe her. Sometimes she'll tell me she's busy at work, but then if I call her up 5 minutes later, I can hear her brother in the b... (314 words)

Am I right? Can this guy really be gay or bi?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5421 days ago

31 December 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Here's the story a little bit better explained. Two fridays ago, we were placed in groups and tasked the writing of Christmas cards to a chosen person. Luckily I was paired with him. During this time, he once again looked into my eyes and said "nothing" turning away. This time, ... (560 words)