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writes:I met a man this summer and i fell for him really quickly, we had sex after a few dates and then i found out he was seeing someone. I carried on chasing him and slept with him a few more times until he stopped calling.I recently bumped into his brother in Town and we ended up sleeping together, we have slept together on a few occasions now, although i feel that he doesnt respect me either.This has all been a big mistake, i feel dirty and used, and i think i was only meeting his brother to feel the connection i felt with him, it was almost the next best thing.I am now going out with all my friends for new year and I am worried about seeing these 2 men, I am 10 years younger than them and I am worried they will laugh at me, i have no interest in either of them.How shall I handle the situation if i do see them? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Just hope they don't have any more brothers! Sorry, couldn't help myself.
Let it go, you made a mistake sleeping with them both, I guess it happens. But, in the future, if you don't want to have embarrassment or drama, take your time getting to know a guy before you jump into bed with him.
And yes, it is kinda too late to worry about what those two guys think, but in the end.. WHO cares what they think?
I'd be distant but polite around them but otherwise stay the heck away from both guys. Enjoy your time out with your friends.
Shit happens.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 So, you fall for one guy, then have sex with his brother because...
Don't you think it is a little bit to late to worry about how they think of you?
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reader, Charleybabes0811 +, writes (18 December 2009):
Be in control. You had both of them! And good on you. You may feel used but you should just think of it as fun. You're young! It's what young people do! :).Don't worry about seeing them. I'm sure they will be pleasant and if they're not then just walk away. I'm sure they're aching for a repeat, but just ignre that. Enjoy life and dont worry about the trivial things in the meantime. Hope it works out :)xx
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reader, Yos +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Just be friendly and 'normal'. What happened happened, but there's no reason not to be back to business as usual now. Don't feel the need to compensate with them, you don't. And especially don't feel the need to get some kind of reaction / validation out of them. That would be very messy.
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