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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 It may seemed unfair to you but that is life . He has his reasons not to want to have a relationship with you at this moment. I don't know why . I can only speculate the reasons.
1)He is not ready.
2)He is taken.
3)He is intimidated .
You still have a great friendship . Keep it that way and who knows your status may change somewhere down the road.
Sometimes we go out of our way to make someone love us in return, but suddenly fate intervenes and says "oops, wrong person".
I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in...LOL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts unfair isnt it. You find someone you really get on with, on every level, and they only want to be friends, so they dont ever lose you. Ironic. :(
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reader, The Gentle Man  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 It could be he isnt interested.
It could also be that the risk involved is too high. He could try to move beyond the friend barrier, but as everyone knows, once you cross that line, whatever came before is gone. Sometimes it is better to have someone you care about for a lifetime rather than risking it all.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (18 February 2010):
He was sugar coating those rejections as he did not want you to feel hurt.
Maybe another time and another place.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Enjoy your friendship but don't expect anything more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies. They don't make me happy, but I guess I just have to face the truth.
He hinted that the timing wasn't right at the moment, as opposed to never.
Was he really just trying to let me down gently?
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reader, Angelica9104 +, writes (18 February 2010):
I was in the same situation with my best friend. Relationships can sometimes be scary. Especially, if in the past you have had failed ones...it becomes an issue that you dnt want to mess something special with a friend up, because there is always that part in your head thats like I dnt wana lose them...I d rather have them around as my friend then mess things up and not have them at all. Its a risk that you have consider carefully...
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (18 February 2010):
Most guys would be delighted to have a relationship with girls but are afraid to commit because they are not ready for it.
Having a relationship requires more sacrifices of their time and money which they are unable or unwilling to accept.
"What does he really mean when he says that he values our friendship too much to be in a relationship?"
That is just a polite excuse boys used to say no to a relationship.
Either they are not interested in a relationship or they are not into you.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 I'm sorry we have to tell you this but also it is up to you if you want to risk the frienship and say its dating or nothing.
Coping with this is always tough because you will be jealous of the girls in his life. Your best bet is to keep the thoughts of everything you two have together as friends in your head to try and block out the what if thoughts if you two were to date. Another guy to focus on would be a big help as well.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (18 February 2010):
 He likes you as a person and a friend, but doesn't see you as a girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIguess that isnt the answer I want to hear. How do you cope with just being friends?
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reader, The Realist +, writes (18 February 2010):
He sees you as a friend and if you two were to date he knows it would not last and then the friendship would never be the same if it lasted at all.
He is motivated by wanting to have friend were the whole relationship drama isn't a factor, it's something everyone needs eventually.
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reader, Cowboy255 +, writes (18 February 2010):
Oh no because I do know people who would love I
To date some of there friends but won't because if something happened and there was an arguement they'd be devastated to lose them from their life. Don't be offended by it he just wants to be a friend and hats ok maybe one day he will want to try but please respect his decision
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 February 2010):
You're in the friend zone. He loves you as a friend, but nothing more.
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