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writes:Hello allMy ex split from me 2 months ago after a 3 year relationship. Since then I have not contacted her at all to try and heal. In that time it was her birthday and i still stayed strong and didn't contact her to say happy birthdayToday, i have received an email saying 'i would like to call to chat, it would be nice to catch up'How do I handle this? I still care and miss her. Part of me doesn't want to hear her news without me. On the other hand i am wondering maybe she wants to get back?what does she want?If anyone has been in this same boat I would appreciate advice Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): Don't break contact unless you are ready to be sent back to square one in your healing if she doesn't say the things you want to hear.
It's been about 9 weeks since my ex broke things off. We had a 2 + year relationship....60 days TO THE day of the break up after absolutely no contact from either side I received a 6 word email and I was SHOCKED! never thought he'd break down and contact me. "Would you like to meet somewhere?", is all he had to say. I think not. Once someone lets you know that you and the relationship don't mean anything anymore and they chose to end things that when WE have to start not wanting them either. Won't go thru the pain and misery of the last 2 months and i hope that you stay strong and do what is BEST for you in the long run as well! good luck!!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (26 February 2010):
 I knoe getting back together with her might seem like a good idea but its better for you to continue the healing process and keep her out of your life. As for her motives it's really hard to say. She honestly want to hear from you or depending on how the break up went she might want to show off her new life without you. I can't say for sure and don't want to be too quick to judge.
What kind of break up was it and did she say anything else to you when she tried to contact you?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 February 2010):
I am a firm believer that ex's should be left in the past. There are too many emotions and too much history here to make it worth your while. First of all, she may not want you back at all, in which case you'll end up hurt. Or, she does want to get back but you'll end up breaking up again because nothing will have changed. The best thing you can do is continue to cut contact. You've done so well already. Don't fall into the trap and get hurt again.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 February 2010):
I am a firm believer that ex's should be left in the past. There are too many emotions and too much history here to make it worth your while. First of all, she may not want you back at all, in which case you'll end up hurt. Or, she does want to get back but you'll end up breaking up again because nothing will have changed. The best thing you can do is continue to cut contact. You've done so well already. Don't fall into the trap and get hurt again.
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