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My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
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She hasn't invited me to her friends' wedding?
Q. My girlfriend has been invited to one of her friend's wedding next month (an ex, but they're still friends, which is totally fine with me by the way). It's in the middle of a week we both have off on holiday. Anyway, she told me that it didn't come ...
A. 4 September 2013: ...Which means that you have let it go officially, while still steaming inside about it.
I wonder why. Is it really such a big deal ? That's not your brother's or best friend 's weddong you have been excluded from. These guys did not invite you ... (read in full...)
She forgot that I'd booked a trip for us and made other plans
Q. In March I booked a weekend away for me and my girlfriend, as a gift for her birthday. Now, she knew about it when I booked and apparently wrote it in her diary, the weekend away is next weekend...she's just told me she is now going out that weekend ...
A. 31 August 2013: Right. Calling OP . OP, before taking the discussion any further we'd need you to clarify : did you tell your gf that she had doublebooked ? If not, why not ?
I had assumed that the OP had told her gf about the doublebooking, just beca... (read in full...)
She forgot that I'd booked a trip for us and made other plans
Q. In March I booked a weekend away for me and my girlfriend, as a gift for her birthday. Now, she knew about it when I booked and apparently wrote it in her diary, the weekend away is next weekend...she's just told me she is now going out that weekend ...
A. 31 August 2013: Let's agree to disagree ,Chigirl. Obviously there are several ways to skin a cat and several ways to see any issue - which is good, otherwise DC would get very boring.
But, as for me, it will take eons before I am convinced that " hey that's the ... (read in full...)
How could she move on so quickly?
Q. My wife and I had a six week break before we got back together and got married. She was 19 at the time. During that time she was living with a family member who had a male roommate who was the same age as her father. She had a sexual relationship ...
A. 31 August 2013: There you have it. She did not actually " move on so fast ", she was under the false impression , due to lies spread by her family , therefore by people she probably trusted , that you had betrayed her, and maybe she wanted to sort of get back at ... (read in full...)
She forgot that I'd booked a trip for us and made other plans
Q. In March I booked a weekend away for me and my girlfriend, as a gift for her birthday. Now, she knew about it when I booked and apparently wrote it in her diary, the weekend away is next weekend...she's just told me she is now going out that weekend ...
A. 31 August 2013: Parents who forget their kids at school ?! ...No, I don't know any. Not that's impossible. I have read , at times , of parents that forgot their babies in the coffee shop of some highway service area , or stuff like that . Once , a guy forgot ... (read in full...)
She forgot that I'd booked a trip for us and made other plans
Q. In March I booked a weekend away for me and my girlfriend, as a gift for her birthday. Now, she knew about it when I booked and apparently wrote it in her diary, the weekend away is next weekend...she's just told me she is now going out that weekend ...
A. 31 August 2013: @ Chigirl, not to be contentious, and no disrespect meant to you or your relationship, but, naaah, I don't buy it.
People , unless they have some health problem, like a rampant , savage ADHD, ... remembers what they put their energy/ attention on, ... (read in full...)
Why do people assume it's just for a green card?
Q. Why is that a foreign guy leaves his family , his country , where he has spend his childhood, his friends and everything for American wife and relocate to US but still he will get this taunt of getting married for green card? Why American girls ...
A. 31 August 2013: @MsSadie : I respect your opinion, but... it is an opinion, not a general, absolute rule ( same goes for MY opinion, of course ). For each immigrant who's heartbroken to leave their country, there's another one ( or maybe two or three ) that are ... (read in full...)
She forgot that I'd booked a trip for us and made other plans
Q. In March I booked a weekend away for me and my girlfriend, as a gift for her birthday. Now, she knew about it when I booked and apparently wrote it in her diary, the weekend away is next weekend...she's just told me she is now going out that weekend ...
A. 31 August 2013: If she has been reminded once a month, plus last week too, - and the trip was to go and see her favourite band !- she can't just have " forgotten ", unless she has some severe mental disability. She uses this excuse as a passive - aggressive ... (read in full...)
He can't respect that I'm sensitive
Q. I'm posting here because I would appreciate someone's input on this. My boyfriend and I have been dating for several months now. I noticed this before but recently it's been bugging me a lot more. I'm pretty sensitive and emotional at tim...
A. 31 August 2013: You are who you are, and you should not change to please anybody else than yourself, so if you don't feel there's a problem with being very emotional and very sensitive - accept who you are, and the needs and wants you have.
But, he is who he is t... (read in full...)
How could she move on so quickly?
Q. My wife and I had a six week break before we got back together and got married. She was 19 at the time. During that time she was living with a family member who had a male roommate who was the same age as her father. She had a sexual relationship ...
A. 31 August 2013: I think it is unreasonable that you STILL married her if this bothered you so much. That must have happened maybe 10 years ago, or more, and after all this time you still haven't got over it- imagine how negative you must have felt about it at the ... (read in full...)
I am afraid I am wearing out my older boyfriend with too much sex! What do I do?
Q. Hello all. I have a situation I need advice on. I am not sure if it is a problem or I am making it into something that it isn't. I am 45 and my boyfriend is 15 years older than I am. He is very sexual and passionate and there are times h...
A. 30 August 2013: Simple : do not pressure him to have sex twice, if he does not volunteer himself. What do you expect, that a 60something guy should have the same sexual performances of an 18 y.o. ?
Do you know that at 18 the average refractory time ( the inte... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's adult son moved in, uses my car, doesn't contribute
Q. My boyfriend let his 23 year old son move in with us 3 days a week. He has a place with his girlfriend but instead of going to junior college near where they live he picked a college that is 25 miles north of us. We live 70 miles north of them. The ...
A. 30 August 2013: The legal angle was stressed just to confirm how, unluckily, you have no practical tools to assert your " rights " on the car and you should come to terms with it.
There would be of course the tools of persuasion: pleading your case, reas... (read in full...)
Holiday with ex-girlfriend in attendance
Q. I have recently been asked if I would like to go to Florida next year with a group of friends and my god children. The only problem is that my ex-girlfriend will be in attendance as she is god mother to the same children. My ex's attitude towards ...
A. 30 August 2013: I would go- unless I still were quite hung up on that ex. Otherwise, who cares if the ex waves, does not wave, blows kisses or salutes military-style ?- an ex is an EX ! As long as the ex can stay a bare minimum civil, and abstain from lunging ... (read in full...)
Guys are attracted but never want to date me or have a relationship. Could this guy be different?
Q. I just recently got a text from a guy who I use to chat with online. We use to talk all the time. One of our conversations led to phone sex and he told me that we would look good together. One day I noticed that he had closed his account. So I ...
A. 30 August 2013: I don't think there's anything particularly " negative " in stating the obvious :
" sexy " and " pretty " refer to your physical appearance , which he likes ( as he could like that of dozen of other women ) and do not necessarily imply any deep... (read in full...)
I hate this job but don't want to be seen as a quitter
Q. Would you quit a job you've been at 4 months if you hated it? I know it hasn't been long but I feel myself wanting to give up and walk out the door some days. I work with infants who are very demanding at a daycare. The crying babies, high ...
A. 30 August 2013: Why a quitter ? You gave a try for a reasonable time - 4 months - to something that you had never done before and had no idea how it would have affected you, and you find out you are not cut out for the demands of this particular job, which ... (read in full...)
Why do people assume it's just for a green card?
Q. Why is that a foreign guy leaves his family , his country , where he has spend his childhood, his friends and everything for American wife and relocate to US but still he will get this taunt of getting married for green card? Why American girls ...
A. 30 August 2013: ...Because for many people ( not all of course ) from many countries ,it's not such a big sacrifice at all ,it is in fact exactly what they want and desire : leaving places where they don't have or can't get any work, money, modern conveniences, ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with my family? Why can't they be happy for my result?
Q. HI! A year ago a started the toughest job selection on the planet dreaming I would get my dream job. The firm said they would hire 12 people: 6 in Sept 12 and 6 in Sept 14. The competition was ruthless- I had to undergo 3 super selective exams an...
A. 29 August 2013: What ? Yes, there's something wrong with them.
7th over 900 is a fantastic placement ! Heck, even 12th would have been great ! , considering that it still would have put you within the scant 1,5% of the total who made it, and considering that... (read in full...)
My g/f makes me wait hours between texts. I don't like her behavior!
Q. hi guys. a few nights ago, my girlfriend came home after spending the night with one of her friends. she texted me "heeey" with a smiley face to let me know she was back. and i replied in about 10 seconds or so. then she disappeared for ...
A. 29 August 2013: " If the poster was leaving messages on her answer machine and she failed to get back for a day or two would that be acceptable ?"
In terms of etiquette, certainly yes. One or two days is perfectly acceptable. Unless it is time sens... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pushing me to have a baby with him, but I don't feel for him.
Q. Hi everyone. I've been with my boyfriend for a little under 3 years (I'm 25 and he's 28) and things haven't been too good of late. I say of late, probably about a year..! From the moment we met he made it clear to me that settling down and sta...
A. 29 August 2013: Oh gosh , this is going to sound so bitchy... I have it on the tip of my tongue... I can't hold it in... OK, I'll say it :
for someone who apparently had such an happy , idillic upbringing, you sure exhibit quite a bit of abandonment isues and ... (read in full...)
Creepy Guy: Ignore or Confront?
Q. Almost all of my friends are males. Most of them also work in my department at work. Usually this has never, ever been a problem. However one of my male friends just... can't take a hint. I'm not interested! A few months back he told me that he ...
A. 29 August 2013: I'd be generous and just ignore him, hoping that eventually my indifference will take the wind off his sails. Unless he does something REALLY stalkerish- creepy, like sitting in his car in front of your house all night... be magnanimous : the ... (read in full...)
What physical act counts as cheating in a relationship?
Q. Hey Just wondering what you guys would consider cheating in a relationship? E.g. A kiss? Oral? ...
A. 29 August 2013: I think SVC's and Honeypie's definition is excellent. It's not just the "what", it's the how. Any interaction of yours with another person, which implies keeping secrets, telling lies , going behind your partner's back very possibly could be ... (read in full...)
Battle of the exes! What do I do about this proposal from my ex?
Q. Dear Cupids, I'm at a major crossroads.. I was seeing a guy for 10 years..We broke up and remained friends..Great friends..No bad feelings.. I adore him and our friendship. He was an emotional boyfriend-always saying he loved me etc,still makes ...
A. 29 August 2013: Not being emotionally invested, I can't say I see any massive pros in either guy.
Funnily enough- to quote you- you had to break up with the first guy because he was always partying, leaving you alone a lot, and not being there for you when you ... (read in full...)
I found a pair of women's sunglasses in his hotel room. Is my b/f cheating on me?
Q. My boyfriend of four years is staying at a hotel for work for a month and this is the second time I've come to visit him while I can't work (rain). Today I arrived at the hotel and found a pair of womens sunglasses under one of the bedside tables ...
A. 28 August 2013: If you have no other reason at all to be suspicious, I would not sweat it over the sunglasses. It is quite possible they belong to some previous hotel guest.
I have forgotten a sweater in a hotel room in Leeds... a skirt in San Francisco... a pair... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's adult son moved in, uses my car, doesn't contribute
Q. My boyfriend let his 23 year old son move in with us 3 days a week. He has a place with his girlfriend but instead of going to junior college near where they live he picked a college that is 25 miles north of us. We live 70 miles north of them. The ...
A. 28 August 2013: Yes, unluckily as other posters have remarked, you have no legal rights concerning the use your BF does of his belongings ( car and house ). But, I'll stretch it a bit further : while I can understand your frustration and annoyance, then again I ... (read in full...)
Why do men go to men caves unannounced, go no contact, leaving women worrying?
Q. I posted an issue on the site a few days ago. The link is provided. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/we-are-soulmates-but-now-hes-ignoring-me.html If you are unable to access it through the link it is under the archive of August 19th and i...
A. 28 August 2013: Personally , I don't believe the whole " men withdraw in their cave when they are stressed " thing- oh yes, some do, but not because they are men,- because they are selfish ,rude, inconsiderate , " all about me " people.
It's a JERK thing, not ... (read in full...)
My married man is too busy for me but I don't want to let him go!
Q. Im in love with a married guy, 6years older than me. He lives about a 5hour drive away from me and he comes once or twice a month to oversee his projects (he's a building contractor). Last weekend was a long weekend and we chilled from thurs to ...
A. 28 August 2013: What should you do ?... Maybe change job , since you don't sound cut to handle yours professionally. I am not being snippy or condescending, I am genuinely surprised that you are in this dilemma and you wonder what you could do to make this guy ... (read in full...)
I don't want to use my mom just to babysit while I have a baby!
Q. Question for mothers and Fathers. I'm 22 weeks pregnant with my second child who I have been with for 4 years. Me and my partner 'Jay' got into a huge argument last night about the when the time comes for me to have this baby. He obviously wan...
A. 27 August 2013: Yeah I wonder too why exactly whatever Jay thinks or wants needs to be taken so accurately into account in this particular time of your life. Who is giving birth, you or Jay ?...Who should feel safe, comfortable, serene and not have to worry about ... (read in full...)
My g/f makes me wait hours between texts. I don't like her behavior!
Q. hi guys. a few nights ago, my girlfriend came home after spending the night with one of her friends. she texted me "heeey" with a smiley face to let me know she was back. and i replied in about 10 seconds or so. then she disappeared for ...
A. 27 August 2013: @ Shawncaff :objection Your Honour. The " stay connected 24/7 " mode IS ( alas ) a way of communication FOR KIDS ( and not all of them ). I don't know if the OP, with his 22-25 age range, still qualifies as such - maybe, since apparently adulthood ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll move in with boyfriend but end up spending most of my time alone
Q. Hi everyone, I'm looking for some second opinions on my situation if that's ok? So I'm 28 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. He is 26. He has just asked me to move in with him but I'm not sure if I want to or not. The main re...
A. 27 August 2013: I think that you are a smart girl and you have smelled a rat, consisting in the fact that living together would perhaps benefit him, but not you. In the sense that you probably would end up playing wifey, doing chores,keeping everything tidy, ... (read in full...)
My g/f makes me wait hours between texts. I don't like her behavior!
Q. hi guys. a few nights ago, my girlfriend came home after spending the night with one of her friends. she texted me "heeey" with a smiley face to let me know she was back. and i replied in about 10 seconds or so. then she disappeared for ...
A. 27 August 2013: ... Pardon me, but it serves you well for making such an inappropriate , invasive and intrusive use of text messaging. Text is not a proper way to have a real conversation, for that you set apart a specific time and see your girl in person, or ... (read in full...)
Why do I attract more attention from guys when I am travelling, but not when I am in my own country?
Q. My questions is why do attract more attention from guys when I am travelling, but not when I am in my country? I travel a lot:3 months out of the year. Sometimes it's for work but also for pleasure. I am always looking forward to my trips because...
A. 27 August 2013: - Because you look different from the local beauties, and a novelty is always intriguing to some degree. It happened the same to me, I am Italian and, way back then :) I was a reasonably attractive girl, but ,in my country, I looked similar to ... (read in full...)
Nothing has been said since I reminded her of her sexual past, should I bring it back up?
Q. I am upset over something but don’t have the right to be. I posted last hear on Dear cupid and got some good feed back. Let me explain and get your reaction. I have suffered from retroactive jealousy for a number of years. I realize the p...
A. 26 August 2013: ..But why rather than suffering in silence with your obsessive retroactive jealousy, don't you try doing something to cure it ? So that you can stop suffering- and your wife as well, because this must be no picnic for her either ?
RJ is a form of O... (read in full...)
Should I just not talk to random girls?
Q. I am the type of guy who can easily have a friendly chat with strangers, both male and female. Once in a while, after it, I may ask a female out. The other day, I was waiting for a bus, and there was an older lady and a young girl there. As I was ...
A. 26 August 2013: I don't think you should take that comment literally. Probably the older woman ( or the younger one, if the older was only reporting what the younger had said ) meant it jokingly . I refuse to think that a normal woman can be "heartbroken " or ... (read in full...)
He said he needs space because of all these problems! What do I do?
Q. Dear agony aunt i have a problem with my current boyfriend. We started dating 1 month ago. Everything was a sea of roses in the begining however one day he told me we had to talk and he told me about recent problems that had all showed up at the ...
A. 26 August 2013: " Everything was a sea if roses in the beginning " ? Op, you have been dating ONE month, one month IS the beginning !, so what you are actually saying is that things were looking good- of course- at the very beginning of the beginning, like what, ... (read in full...)
She hasn't invited me to her friends' wedding?
Q. My girlfriend has been invited to one of her friend's wedding next month (an ex, but they're still friends, which is totally fine with me by the way). It's in the middle of a week we both have off on holiday. Anyway, she told me that it didn't come ...
A. 26 August 2013: I'd say , just shrug it off. And , contrariously to what many posters say, do NOT get upset with your gf, she has not been inconsiderate, she has just been well-mannered. One never ever fishes out for wedding invitations, - whatever the bride ... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to feel jealous if my on-and off bf sleep with another girl?
Q. Hello, So technically my boyfriend broke up with me a year and half ago (in Jan 2012) but he still keeps me around. He said long distance isn't for him but I still love him and have a hard time letting him go. So, every break when I get a chance, ...
A. 26 August 2013: Well,no. Of course not. Since you are not together, and you broke up quite a while ago, then you do not have any "right" to feel jealous and hurt.
The problem is, with or without the right, you DO feel jealous and hurt so... why are you doing this... (read in full...)
Am I prudish for not wanting to ejaculate in her mouth?
Q. I have a girlfriend for the first time in my life. We've been together for almost 6 months. She told me before we committed to a serious relationship that she was very sexual since she was 15. I was a virgin but lied and told her I had a few sexual ...
A. 26 August 2013: Yes you are prudish. Puzzlingly so. Some women feel uncomfortable swallowing because of their own hang ups, or becaus they genuinely dislike its taste or smell- but if your gf is not among them, does not have a problem with having you ejaculate in ... (read in full...)
Been single for 2 months, met someone nice. Is it too soon to be venturing into something new?
Q. I am 16 years old and I think for the first time in ages I have met someone nice. So far in my life I've been in two relationships both of which have been violent, abusive and I've just been cheated on and been stupid enough t...
A. 26 August 2013: At 16, age does matter and has got nothing to do with drinking age. My son, 23, is a teetotaller, he does not drink at all, ever- and yet, he could munch on ANY 16 y.o., gobble her up and spit out the remnants with no effort- and he's far from being ... (read in full...)
I tried so hard to protect her but she left me because she was scared of me.
Q. My ex was diagnosed with PTSD. I did everything in my power to try to be her protector. I knew logically that I couldn't save her from all she was dealing with, but I always, always was there for her. If she called in the middle of the night, I'd ...
A. 26 August 2013: You don't stop loving people overnight, but I think you can stop overnight wanting them in your life when you realize this love, regardless of the best intentions and motivations, for some reason does not fit in your life at that moment in time and ... (read in full...)
My married lover's wife knows about us but he still wants to be in contact with me. Why doesn't she just stop him?
Q. I don't know where to begin, I am asking for an opinion, maybe some advice, no cursing or calling me names please. I am already in a lot of pain as it is. I was having a relationship for 6 yrs with a married man. We spoke everyday, saw each other 2 ...
A. 6 August 2013: OP : balderdash.
You are saying, you politely asked him to stop, and he said no, I am not giving up. It figures : he is having fun, and getting eactly what he wants , - while you are suffering and cryng , and not getting what you want ( a man ... (read in full...)
Should I text my friend on his birthday?
Q. One of my friends is having a birthday soon. He doesn't generally tell people his birthday but he told me once and I have a good memory for birthdays. I sent him a happy birthday text last year, too. Thing is, this guy is kind of a self-absorbed ...
A. 6 August 2013: That you can spare yourself the trouble.
You can't qualify this as a friend, he's not , since he does not care about the friendship, blows you off if you contact him, and only resorts to you if he needs something. More like an acquaintance at best... (read in full...)
Is there a "polite" way to find and pursue casual sex?
Q. I'm not sure what this community thinks of "casual sex", but let me start by clarifying about myself. I'm a 28 year old guy, never had sex, never had a girlfriend, never gotten anywhere with a woman. What I always REALLY want(ed) was to find a ...
A. 5 August 2013: @ anon male, I am not totally sure I feel your pain... I mean, I do , but, are you surprised ?... sex, and the distribution of sexual resources ,is not a democratic and equalitarian process , it does not come from a place of " equal opportunity ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of me finding a man who has never had a one night stand or casual sex?
Q. What are the chances of me finding a man who has never had a one night stand or casual sex? No offence to anyone here but I find that kind of behaviour revolting and it makes me see them as a lesser. I'm 26 now and this worries me. I was appalled ...
A. 5 August 2013: I would not be as pessimistic as the other posters, personally I know quite a few men who do not believe in casual sex and do not ever practice or pursue it NOW.
That does not mean that it has never ever happened in their past. Growing pain... (read in full...)
One white lie and my boyfriend ended the relationship. How can I fix this mistake?
Q. So recently I told my boyfriend a white lie, take in mind we've been together over a year and this is honestly the first lie I've ever told him, we've usually been open books with each other. It was something so stupid on my part and I take ful...
A. 5 August 2013: OP, thanks for the update , and pardon me for being pushy, but , I admit I am curious... your update still makes no sense, insofar it does not explain how that irrelevant drink even come to be talked about ( did he ask you : how much did you ... (read in full...)
My married lover's wife knows about us but he still wants to be in contact with me. Why doesn't she just stop him?
Q. I don't know where to begin, I am asking for an opinion, maybe some advice, no cursing or calling me names please. I am already in a lot of pain as it is. I was having a relationship for 6 yrs with a married man. We spoke everyday, saw each other 2 ...
A. 5 August 2013: Why does not she put her foot down and makes him stop ?
I have a better question : why don't YOU put your foot down and tell him to stop ?
See, she is willing to pay a high price, too high in my view, but at least she gets something back, sh... (read in full...)
One white lie and my boyfriend ended the relationship. How can I fix this mistake?
Q. So recently I told my boyfriend a white lie, take in mind we've been together over a year and this is honestly the first lie I've ever told him, we've usually been open books with each other. It was something so stupid on my part and I take ful...
A. 4 August 2013: Like everybody else, I feel there is some piece of info missing.
Had you solemnly sworn to never touch even ONE drink ? And for what reason ? ...
Without knowing that, it's hard to understand why he'd make such a fuss over ONE drink, in fact ... (read in full...)
Is there a "polite" way to find and pursue casual sex?
Q. I'm not sure what this community thinks of "casual sex", but let me start by clarifying about myself. I'm a 28 year old guy, never had sex, never had a girlfriend, never gotten anywhere with a woman. What I always REALLY want(ed) was to find a ...
A. 3 August 2013: Call me crazy, but I think that for an average Joe without particularly good looks and social smoothness, it's actually more difficult to find casual hook ups than a proper relationship.
First, because like anon male reader says, many women find... (read in full...)
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