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writes:My questions is why do attract more attention from guys when I am travelling, but not when I am in my country? I travel a lot:3 months out of the year. Sometimes it's for work but also for pleasure. I am always looking forward to my trips because it's a change of scenery, and I get ussualy lots of attention from guys It's not just a little difference between how many guys approach me in my country and how many when I travel. It's pretty dramatic. I just came back for vacation and I went out with handsome men 7 times out of 9 days that I spent in one country. Everywhere I went guys came up to me. Why? I look the same, even wheni travel I don't put that much make up, and don't do my hair as Ido wherei live. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 August 2013):
 To anon female..:)
Yes, even with red hair and freckles, that is not what most people consider exotic :) But I think "exotic" comes down to what is NOT the norm where you live.
So, in the Southern Europe a red haired girls with freckles stand out from the crowd. Same as a black haired girl would in Denmark/ Norway/Sweden.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 August 2013):
 - Because you look different from the local beauties, and a novelty is always intriguing to some degree. It happened the same to me, I am Italian and, way back then :) I was a reasonably attractive girl, but ,in my country, I looked similar to tons of other reasonably attractive Italian girls, so I can't say I remember having to fend off men with a stick. Then, I go to USA. I enroll in an acting class, where everybody else is 10-15 years younger than me, - and I DO have to fend off young hot guys hitting on me like crazy. You'd have thought Monica Bellucci had arrived or something, and for a long time I could not figure out , if I looked so good, ... then why my Italian countrymen hadn't particularly noticed.
In time, I realized that " exotic " works in your favour a lot - not only the most blatant traits like an unusual hair or skin colour , but subtler things, ... the accent... the way you dress, your make up, your gestures...everything that says " different " sparks interest.
In your case, then, since you are just passing by all these places, another obvious , very simple reason is- that you are transitional , therefore low risk and low maintenance. If they can get you interested, they can have some pleasant times NSA, without effort, persistence, committment ,monogamy and all that stuff that a local girl could have in mind in view of a future relationship.
I'd like to add ,in an attempted defence of my shameless countrymen ( yeah they are pretty indefendable I know ,LOL) that yes, they can be pretty forward and straight to the point... and that's what 's expected from them- living in a touristy place I see it happen every day. It's about a couple of centuries already ( since when the Grand Tour came in fashion for the moneyed classes ) that enterprising foreign ladies visit my country with an eye for a bland form of sexual tourism. It's not as brutal and straightforward as going to Cuba or Jamaica and paying a beach boy for sexual services, but deep down the romantic/ erotic fantasy of a little fling with your stereotypical Latin lover holds very firm. Which explains ,say, why local lifeguards or bartenders are literally assaulted by feisty foreign ladies, - probably the same ladies who, in their countries, would never even dream of hitting on THEIR lifeguards or bartenders.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2013): Even with red hair and freckles, honeypie?, that's my favorite brand!
I agree with Soveryconfused, when you are happy it shows in your face, smile, even how you walk. Guys can sense it. You are on vacation or just in a foreign land and you are in for an adventure. It makes you glow with that vibe, and men sense it right away. If in addition to that yu are also pretty, this is why it's happening with you outside the country.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 August 2013):
My guess?
1. you are attractive and "exotic" even with your red hair/freckles :)
2. you aren't there for long, which means... you are a "safe" flirt/date/ONS since you won't expect a relationship.
3. you are well traveled, which can mean you are entertaining, interesting and probably great company.
My last trip to Rome left me with a bruises butt, I have never in my life been pinches so much by young and old.. it was rather annoying. Portuguese men I have found are more "romantic" and polite then Italians lol
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 August 2013):
 when you are home you exude a different persona than when you are away from home.. they probably pick up on your relaxed feelings (no cooking, no cleaning, travel is fun)
and go for it. you probably put off different vibes when you travel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2013): This is OP. I am red hair and have freckles also. I am from eastern europian family. I travel all over Europe, the countries that I had the most so called succes were Italy, but mostly south of it, Portugal , Spain, Germany, Greece. In northern countries not as much such as Denmark and Switzerland but still more than at home. I traveled to US quite a bit, depends on which states, men approach me but not as much as in Europe. In US men are more reserved, unless you are in a bar where people drinking. In Europe they come to you on a street, caffes,stores, everywhere.
Most of them though not tourists, but locals. For some reason I was very much liked in Portugal , may be because I do look very different from Portuguese girls, though I find them very beatifull. in Italy guys offer sex after literally exchanging few frases, which was really funny.
Portuguese guys are shy, and I never had an agressive approach from them.
Thank you for the smart answers!
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (26 August 2013):
 It could be that the men who approach you are also travelling for work or on holiday. I'm sure a lot of men try to meet women when they are away from home. Some may be married and looking for a casual fling or something.
The flag says you are from the UK. I am part British and lived in England for many years and I found the same thing. I look and act the same here as I do abroad, yet in the UK men generally don't approach me much, only a few male friends I'd known for a while who wanted more. I basically feel quite invisible when I'm here. I've lived in other countries and men were much more forwards and flirtatious there. It could just be a difference in culture, or perhaps your look appeals more to men in the places you visit. I have fair hair and freckled skin so I stand out more in southern countries. It could be something like that.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (26 August 2013):
 i would be curious to know your ethnicity and what countries youve been to.
i think it could be because the guys think because your a foreigner your more open to a date and not taken.
actually i have experience with this lots of foreigners come to my city and they are much easier to date and deal with then the local women.
when tourist visit they are there to have fun and create new experiences going out with a local guy with a different culture and custom could be apart of that.
i was once on the train and got asked out by a french girl she was actually really gorgeous but only here for a few weeks...ive never been asked out by a girl from my own culture or city.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 August 2013):
Because you're "exotic" when you travel to another country, and a lot of other travelers are trying to make the most out of their trip so they be more likely to approach you.
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