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writes:ummm this guy i just met wants to have sex and i want to but i am scared because he will be my first and i dont no how bad it hurts? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): guys will tell you all kinds of things to get in your pants. Baby it a fact that once it gone you'll never get it back. Hold on to your innocense use your common sense. You'll worst waiting on. Please wait until you're older, wiser, and possibly married before having sex.
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reader, help heros  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 well hun your only 13 and only been together for a little time maybe you should wait a little longer because you n him are still young and sex isnt or shouldnt be an issue at your age. dont feel pushed into it just tell him your not ready and if he a true boyfriend he will wait untill you are because hun sex isnt anything special and can hurt if it is your first time but then again everybody is diffrent and there bodies are. but just be carefull and if you do decide to have sex make sure you are protected. dont feel forced though xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): Dont do it, he is just into using you and you will get hurt. Explore your sexuality in other ways and find someone who cares about you enough to not walk over your heart. This boy you barely even know yet. NOt to mention the possibility fo getting pregnant. I personally do not think that people should have sex unless they are prepared to get pregnant, because accidents DO happen. If you get pregnant at your age it will ruin your life, your body and your family. Dont do it.
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reader, advice angel +, writes (5 April 2010):
 hunny you have a long life ahead of you,dont rush into things when youve just met him,your boyfriend should respect you for that! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): 13 seems awfully young to be rushing into sex. In fact, at any age, rushing into sex is a bad idea. It's normal to have sexual feelings and urges at your age, but there are other ways to explore them. You have to keep in mind that sex has A LOT of emotional complications attached to it. Things that can be very hard to deal with at any age, especially a younger age. Really think long and hard before you do this.
With that said, I'm going to go ahead and answer your inital question. Sex will most likely be painful the first time (and a few more times following that probably). It is likely that you will even bleed. Chances are that it won't be an enjoyable experience.
You should really consider waiting until you are older. You should really consider waiting for someone that you are deeply in love with and that is in love with you. Someone that will take care of your feelings and take you into consideration. Sex should be something you do to express love to someone, not just to satisfy an urge.
As marieclaire said, your first time is something you're going to remember forever. You don't want to have regrets. How would you feel if, when you're older, you fall in love with someone and you have to tell them that you're no longer a virgin and you lost your virginity to someone you just met? If this boy loves you (& you love him) sex can wait. Sex will always be there. You don't need to rush into it.
As you can see, I'm strongly discouraging you from having sex at such a young age & with someone you've just met. If and when you do decide to have sex, do it safely. I would even highly suggest talking to a doctor or planned parenthood before you do it. They will help you understand everything you need to possibly know beforehand. & not just related to physical complications, but emotional ones as well.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 Give it more time before he gets that if he is going to at all. It will hurt the first time and you need a guy who is going to be understanding and take it easy the first couple of times. Lube will help and make sure you have protection. Its not going to be like porn like he may be thinking. Give it lots of thought and only go through with it if there is nothing in your mind saying know. Even if your first time is not with someone who you're going to stay with it would still be best for it to be with someone special, atleast at that moment.
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