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writes:My life is just crazy I guess. I have low self esteem very low I think I am so ugly. Everyone tells me Im beautiful and that I have a pretty smile and pretty eyes, I just don't believe. So I like this guy well love actually I have known him forever but Im scared to go out with him cause I think I have to many flaws. I wish my breast could get bigger I think thats one of the reason my self esteem is so low. Anyone have any tips on how I could get them bigger anyway, I really like this guy but Im afraid of what he'll think of me. I known him forever but I think he'll be freaked that I like him and go away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone your comments made me very happy.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 March 2010):
The guy will be more worried about your low self esteem. It's hard having a girlfriend who has low self esteem because no matter what you say, she hates herself. Then it makes the relationship worse and after a while it breaks down. The problem isn't your breasts. They're fine. The problem is your esteem. A guy will like you as you are. But he will find your low esteem unnerving.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Beleive it or not, most guys care less about the size of your breasts. If fact, some guys even prefer small breasts. People come in all shapes and sizes. Listen to your friends. Your low self esteem hurts your chances with guys way more than your bra size.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Only a very shallow guy lets the size of a girls boobs affect whether he wants to go out with them or not. Same goes for looks in general. In most cases, a guy won't care much. I mean, some of the most hideous people have found love. There are also beautiful people who have really bad luck with relationships.
You're still a teenager, and your boobs can continue to grow until your twenties. When you are in a relationship you might decide to go on the pill, and in some, but not all cases this can increase your breast size a little.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Chill girl. Your breasts aren't your problem. Whatever is there, the right guy will worship them. A-cups can be *very* fun.
There is a whole lot more to you than meets the eye. What's in your head is *way* more important that what's on your chest. Ya, big boobs can get you a first date. They won't get you a second date if you're not an interesting person.
If he's a good guy, he's interested in your personality, in how much fun you can have together.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (30 March 2010):
 If you get surgery on your breasts, and you still have this low of confidence, the surgery won't help at all. It'll just be something else that you're upset about. Your face, your nose, your curves (or lack of)... You are just using your breasts to focus all your negativity of self body image on, because it's easy to do. Instead of doing things that you could do, you focus on things that you can't really change, because that way you have an excuse not to.
Breasts are but one drop in a rather large bucket. Sure guys find them really sexy when they are bigger (some do anyway), but there is so much more that girls can bring to the table. Confidence being the first thing. Any girl can have big boobs just by luck of the draw when it comes to genetics, but confidence is a rarity that girls have to EARN and CHOOSE to have. I think these qualities are a lot more respected than big boobs. And heck, some guys even like the smaller variety believe it or not.
The bottom line is, there are so many other factors that come into play as far as attractiveness goes. You need to stop focusing on this one thing you can't change and start focusing on the things that you CAN willingly change, like your self esteem and view of yourself. This is much more productive and will yield more results than any surgery. Be proud of who you are! :)
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reader, kandykane +, writes (30 March 2010):
dont do anything to them
some guys dont mind it at all
i promise
you will be fine
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reader, old_moses +, writes (30 March 2010):
 If it's your breast size that's going to make him like you, you don't want him.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (30 March 2010):
 There is the option of surgery but that should only be your option if this really is causing you emotional stress. If thats what it takes to boost your self esteem then go for it but I think that you can find a way to build it up on your own. I think he'll like you for who you are and you shouldn't need to change for anyone unless you want to for yourself. Your friends are right and they're trying to help you out. I don't know if this matters but I'm a guy who does not find large breasts attractive. Smaller ones look so much better throughout your entire life. Just go and ask him out, your beautiful smile as said by your friends will win him over far more then breast size.
Hope you can work it out.
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