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reader, Glacier  +, writes (9 April 2012):
Old thread but I really had to respond to this, even it's just for the record...
I couldn't disagree more that fingering has to lead to sex. That's just nonsense.
They guy will surely get aroused and there's an easy solution for that: jack him off afterwards or let him do it himself. How hard is that to understand? And 16 certainly isn't to young for fingering, not even 13. Hell, lots of girls don't even remember when they first started masturbating. But of course fingering by someone else is totally different. I'm sorry but that's so hypocritical.
Oh and fingering doesn't necessary mean a finger up there. Most girls prefer indirect clitoral stimulation.
As long as the girl has experience masturbating, she tells or shows him how she likes it, he has clean fingers and he is gentle, then all will be just fine.
PS. My gf and I were both only 11 at the time (yes eleven). She asked me to watch her and asked if wanted to try it on her next time (clitoral only). No wonder because she came easily.
I realise she was probably an exception to the rule but this shows you that some answers here are way too black and white.
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (3 April 2010):
 many people act very differently when they 'finger' their girlfriends. it is rare that you will bleed when getting 'fingered',however some woman act differently to others.however make sure you feel 100% comfortable with your boyfriend 'fingering' you, it may hurt a little bit so lube could be used if you wish.just relax and enjoy just remember dont do anything that you are not completely comfortable with.good luck.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Be prepare for sex, think first if this is the guy you want to loose your virginity to. I advise you not to let him finger you wait till your ready and do not let him pressure you.
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reader, Kenneth +, writes (31 March 2010):
Don't do it. It would lead to real sex - Penetration. Are you ready for that? If so, use protection.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 Id steer well clear of it all unless you are ready and legal to have sex because he is leading you up to full sex. If you dont want that to happen yet then dont let him do this to you.
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reader, Anne3 +, writes (31 March 2010):
Make sure his figers are clean and make sure you tell him were you like it best. I know it is a long time ago that I was your age but it realy feels good just make sure he takes is time you could bleed a small bit. Being as it is your first time you could find it better if you got some J.Y Jelly and before you let him feel of you put a litle bit in side your private lips it will make it feel better his figers will slip better
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reader, 2Honest2010 +, writes (31 March 2010):
I think that the other 2 answers had some good points to them but i just don t like the idea of u being sixteen. first let me say that i think that u should wait to have sex or touch n play action with somebody. but anyways how older is this boy? and is this his first time? Has he done it before? cause i find it very hard for a guy to do this to a girl and not want to have sex afterwards. So what im saying is if u do this u will open an whole other door. so are u really ready for this to happen? is the question that u should be asking. Take your time u have all your life to wait!
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reader, ChristineAvril +, writes (31 March 2010):
 You do know that penetration by his finger(s) isn't necessary to give you great pleasure? He needs to know where your clit is and how to manipulate it (gently!) in order to bring you off best.
The key here is to go slowly - no rush - and for him to use light and gentle strokes. As you get aroused (as no doubt he will be too) he can go faster and a little more firmly, but not too roughly for your first few times.
Relax and enjoy it!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 You may bleed a bit depending on the size of his fingers. Tell him to start off slow and work you up before he starts fingering. Also he should probably only start with one finger, then you can judge it from there. It will be tight to start but within a couple time it should start to feel really good and I'm sure that you will enjoy it as long as he has you in mind while he is doing it. As for after he is done he will probably just go wash his hands or wipe them off depending on the type of person he is.
I hope it goes well for you and that he is caring to you and the fact that this is a big deal for you.
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