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writes:im a young 42 and recently started a relationship with a 23yr old, looks bit older! sex great and txt each other every day! is this wrong lust or do you think anything can come ov it! i havnt had sex for nearly 2 years so.. but i do find we get on really well and have things in common, to me the age thing worries me, by the way he gorgous looking but he doesnt have much confidence. please let me no what you think!!
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Have fun. Enjoy it. Younger guys are attracted to older women all of the time. He's enjoying you so do the same thing. I wouldn't expect this to be long term, but if you understand that early on in the relationship it can be great.
Is it wrong? No. In fact, you're both luck. :-)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 March 2010):
I'm dating an older woman and to be honest I'm having the time of my life, and so is she. And that's all that matters. We're both happy. But be aware that he might only be looking for something short term (fun), because one day he might want children. so if you're looking for fun with a young man who really will treat you well and give you lots of fun, then go for it. If you're looking for something serious, be aware.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): Hi. I was married for 23 years to a man 2 years older than myself. It was a disaster. We were too different and neither of us were happy. So the marriage ended. Then i met a man when i was 50 and he was 34. We hit it off straight away and had a lot in common but the age thing worried me. I am not a cougar. I was fresh out of my marriage and not interested in chasing men. I was happy to run away from them to be honest! He chased me and convinced me age was just a number and there was nothing wrong with us being together....if we made each other happy. And we did.
That was a few years ago. Im 54 now and not an old lady as one of the posters suggested. Nor do i have lines. Im still with my partner. We love each other and take care of each other. Ive not seen any signs of the menopause yet but he gets hot flushes so we`ve decided hes probably having it for me. He wants to get married but im still telling him im taking it a day at a time. My advice young lady...... do what makes you happy xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): If you two love each other. Who cares?
You are both adults and you both know what love is and are old enough to handle any rpoblems that may arise some day, like any couple.
In reality damn near every coupling of adults has an age difference these days. There are not so many who are the same age.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): Dear Middle aged lady,
My take is bit practical in the situation.
My feeling is that it will not last longer any way.
1) Soon you will reach to Menupause and then how he will father the child from you?
2) in next 10 years, you will be old with wrinkles and he will be looking like your son.
3) There is a possibility that he too is not taking this relationship seriously other than fun and time pass.
there will be many more problems any way..
so i would say think practically and then decide for you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 You are what they called a cougar.(Google that word) It is pretty common these days for older women to date younger men.
There are no rights or wrongs. If you are happy , do not worry about what others think.
Like everything ,there are pro's and con's .
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 I am one to believe that love can be found no matter what the ages are. So yes I think that it could work out for the two of you but it worries me that maybe he will look for younger love after the thrill of being with an older women has passed and his confidence is up. You would really have to get to him to see if he would stay with you. I might be best to look for someone closer to your own age but this experience no matter how long it lasts may be great for the two of you. Sorry I'm so indecisive but it really depends on what you two are looking for.
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