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writes:Hey guys, I hope you can give me some opinions on this. I met this guy last year and he asked me out. We hit it off really well but he had to leave town for business right after our first date. While he was away for about a month, he called me every second night, texted me during the day and so on. When he came back we went out again but he was acting a bit different. We talked about going out that weekend but he was very vague. When I didn’t hear from him by Friday I messaged asking if we still had plans to go out. He ignored me for a few hours and then sent me a text saying he wasn’t ready for a relationship but wanted to stay in touch because I was ‘so great.’ Whatever.I know that was an excuse and he didn’t want to see me anymore. I texted him back and told him that if he wanted to stay in touch he could call me. I never heard back from him and I deleted his number.It’s been about 7 months and I’ve now got a wonderful BF. But this whole thing still eats at me and I can’t get over it. I fell quite hard for this guy even though I didn’t know him at all. I think I can’t let go because I don’t know why he ‘dumped’ me like that.I know that I shouldn’t waste my time wondering about this but I can’t help it. I know that none of you can tell me what happened with him…but does anyone have any opinions on what could have happened so suddenly? He was all over me and he acted so interested…and then nothing. I think he met someone else and didn’t know how to drop me but who knows. Any thoughts?I don’t want to think about this anymore but I don’t know how to stop!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): just be thankful that it ended swiftly. There's nothing wrong with you. Some men just don't open up easily and it might be good for you not knowing the reason.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Sounds like he's got some issues of his own. I wouldn't let it bother you. Live your life, be happy with your boyfriend. I seriously doubt it was something you did. You didn't even have time to do something wrong. :-)
Good luck with your new relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): Thanks for the answers guys.To answer your question tmama, no I did not sleep with him. We only had one date and then a month of phone calls before we went out again. We only kissed.
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reader, tmama +, writes (25 March 2010):
I had to read your blog twice because i didnt get it. I dont know if you sleep with him or not heres what I think Ive been married for 26 years I was married in high school and still married to the same man. Who can figger out a man they say the same thing about us. Let it go it will eat at you untill you do. I havent been married this long if I haveent just let things go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): You'll stop being bothered by this in time. I've had this experience and so have many of my friends. How can a guy go from acting so into you to nothing? When you don't know him very well, there could be a whole host of reasons. For example, maybe he wasn't completely over a past relationship, or maybe he met someone new. Timing is really important in starting a new relationship.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 You should forgive him and move on with your life. Whatever the reasons he ditched you is no more important. It does not matter anymore .
The usual reasons people get dumped is because
1) They found a better one
2) They saw your flaws and could not accept them
3) Something you said or done which could have turn them off. It could be some careless words.
4) They are not into you and have lost interest.
5)They are players.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (25 March 2010):
 He probably found another girl but didn't want to lose contact with you just in case things didn't work out between the two of them. It had nothing to do with you, he probably found some girl who was all over him and easy and he took that route instead of a real relationship. Try to focus on your new bf and this event will just slip away from your mind until you forget about it.
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