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female
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30-35,
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writes:*MOD NOTE: Question asker's own title*I think I'm in love with my best friend's ex-boyfriend, and I am almost sure he's got a crush on me too. We've been talking a lot lately, and we seem to connect somehow. But last year, my friend B. was dating him, and I don't know if she still has feelings for him. Should I tell her I'm in love with him, or should I just be quiet and don't say anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): you should talk to your friend about this. if she feels upset about your situation then you need to think who you'd rather have in your life. Do you pick the guy? or do u pick your friend?
If u pick the guy your likely to lose your friend if she doesnt like the idea of you and her ex being together.
however, if she is a close friend, can you just stick with having the guy in your life but staying friends with him rather than taking it further?
after all is it worth losing a friend to a boy? with it saying you're only 13-15, it's unlikely you'll be in a relationship with this boy forever. whereas true friends are forever
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 Go and talk to her first and see if she would be ok with you dating him. Sometimes friends are but sometimes it a big problem. Don't do anything behind her back, that is a quick way to kill the friendship. If she is ok with it then go after him all you want but if she isn't then you will have to decide whether to keep your friend or take the chance with the boy. I hope your friend would be the choice you make.
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