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anonymous
writes:ive got a question am seeing my ex boyfriends brother ive got 2 kids with my ex and now the ex boyfriends brother wants a child with me is this the wrong thing to do please help thank you.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (5 April 2010):
If you're in a serious relationship, get married THEN have a child. Getting knocked up because some guy wants an anchor to attempt to hold you down is a STUPID idea...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): First of all it all depends how serious/stable you are with each other and whether you intend to cement your relationship in any meaningful way.Even then it depends on how stable the first two children feel ad are ready for another sibling. Remember children are human beings and take lots of love, stability and committment to bring them up to take their place as useful and well adjusted citizens. They are not commodities that fulfill a whim or fancy. Both of you need to understand your life long committment to ensure these innocent little souls have the best possible chance of success in their up bringing.If you feel you might be serious, give it time, check to see how you both connect, get to enjoy the first two children. Get to understand what they need and how they relate to their new prospective 'step father', then you might be in a better positon to answer that question.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 I would say that this is a bad idea unless you two are planning on staying together. Just think of how hard it would to tell those kids how this whole situation came to be. I wouldn't have that kid without a commitment and even them it's kind of questionable.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 April 2010):
This is going to turn into a rather serious mess. Your children will be cousins as well as sibling, which may confuse them, and worse still this has the potential to blow the whole family apart. I'm not even sure you should be seeing your ex's brother. I think you're walking into a mess.
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