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I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).
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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
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Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 4 March 2009: So, what's going on. Seems like you have a lot of anger built up. You're a nice lady, and I enjoy chatting with you, and I believe during that time you've been warned time and time again to stay clear of this person.
The thing about people chan... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair which resulted in the other woman falling pregnant. The child is almost due, what is the best way to handle this?
Q. This is complex - and difficult to write about succinctly...I'll give it a go! My husband had a year long affair. He tells me he tried to "end it" many times prior to me finding out - but felt guilty and like he owed the OW something. To make mat...
A. 13 May 2008: The fact is, when court establishes maintenance, her rights to dictate if she wants the child around you run out. Courts set up visitation plans on the best interest of the child, not necessarily reasons parents may have.
If she violates the cour... (read in full...)
Mother's Day blues...is it selfish to want to be by myself?
Q. Hey guys. Its mothers day, and I have 2 very young kids. Is it selfish of me to just want to be by myself today? I mean, I made the kids and my husband a big breakfast, but now, I just want to be alone, play guitar all day. Is this "holiday" really ...
A. 12 May 2008: Glad you had a good day. I did. Slept and played guitar. Had to get a song ready for recording today. That will be a good time as well. Have a wonderful week.
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I support my boyfriend financially and also lend his Mum money too now. I don't know what to do, any suggestions?
Q. I've been supporting my boyfriend financially for three years now, to the point I lend his mom money because she can't manage her own money. I don't want to break up with him because he stuck with me through very difficult times, but when I tell him ...
A. 12 May 2008: You do deserve better. If he really loved you or at lease respected you, why would he be angry when you ask him to assit financially?
Because you feel as if you have no one, you're willing to live a compromised life? This falls within how you feel... (read in full...)
Why is all the good not remembered, just my inadequacy?
Q. many years of being loving and loyal in a marriage, does it really matter? being disabled leaving me lacking in the intimacy department, so it is not as often as it use to be, i thought i was living a life of love,but now she says it is not enough. ...
A. 12 May 2008: To her the inadequacy outweight the good. Emotions are like a bank account. Make deposits, and take withdraws. When more withdraws are made than deposits, you fall in the negative and your pareners brain beings to call it quits.
I know what you'... (read in full...)
Does my jealous ex want me back?
Q. please help? I was going out with this guy i broke up with him cuz of his jealousy and anger problems. however he never stopped calling until one day i met with him and i had a friend with me who he is a guy.. my ex started getting mad tell...
A. 12 May 2008: I don't think he's over you. I think he's someone you should try to stay clear from. He's showing controlling behaviors. You really don't want to be around someone who's desires to control you will increase. ... (read in full...)
Is 21 too young to know if you've found 'The One'?
Q. is 21 too young to know if you have found "the one"? I spent my whole life thinking I didn't believe in marriage, or I didnt want kids. Now I have been in the most amazing relationship for a year and a half and that has all changed. I don't want ...
A. 12 May 2008: You're not too young. It can happen at any age. There is nothing that says love has to be postponed until you reach a certain age. ... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair which resulted in the other woman falling pregnant. The child is almost due, what is the best way to handle this?
Q. This is complex - and difficult to write about succinctly...I'll give it a go! My husband had a year long affair. He tells me he tried to "end it" many times prior to me finding out - but felt guilty and like he owed the OW something. To make mat...
A. 12 May 2008: I believe the father should have contact with the child. He's the father and it would be not proper to request he do otherwise. This is a child. Working with couples, children grow up happier knowing both parents, even in separate households.
I... (read in full...)
36 year-old woman sleeping in the same bed as her uncle?
Q. what do you think of a 36yo woman sleeping in the same bed with her uncle? yes she lied to me, she said she's living with her uncle in separate bedroom, but when i went to their apartment it was just a studio and they're sleeping together in one ...
A. 12 May 2008: It sounds like she has issues past your realization. Some people have difficulties, that although we wish them the best and hope we can help, their issues are too deep. If she's taking pills. How much of her income has to go to supporting that ... (read in full...)
Mother's Day blues...is it selfish to want to be by myself?
Q. Hey guys. Its mothers day, and I have 2 very young kids. Is it selfish of me to just want to be by myself today? I mean, I made the kids and my husband a big breakfast, but now, I just want to be alone, play guitar all day. Is this "holiday" really ...
A. 12 May 2008: It's your day. You deserve a day to yourself. I'm a single father. My kids were gone with grandparents for the weekend, I missed them, but really needed time to relax without obligations. ... (read in full...)
I am so sexually frustrated and all the masturbating in the world cannot help me!! Can you??
Q. Hi everyone. I have a major problem with my marriage. Although my relationship with my husband is great in every other way, the sex is so lame that i cannot take it. It´s pretty much the usual 2-minute missionary intercourse under the covers w...
A. 12 May 2008: Tell it like it is. Sex in a marriage is about pleasing the other person, not just to gain relief. It's a way of really becoming one and showing the other person how much they mean to you. Just jumping on and getting off is disrespectful. You don't ... (read in full...)
He told me the all the other girls he's had sex with, even with out a condom, never got pregnant
Q. Ok...so i'm 15 and my boyfriend is 14, we've known each other and been with each other for a long time...and my boyfriend isn't a virgin. He says he lost it when he was young and has had sex with other girls ever sence...but he wants to have sex ...
A. 12 May 2008: I'm going to help you in a different way. Don't do it. I'll tell you why. This individual seems as if he may be one of the young players in the making. Tell you what you want to hear until they get what they want, then move on to the next. They're ... (read in full...)
I think I may have been date raped by my boss.
Q. I think I was date-raped. I ran in to my boss in a bar after I had already been drinking, and he offered to get me a drink. I asked for a vodka orange, but he asked me if I would prefer vodka redbull, and got me that instead. After that drink, I...
A. 12 May 2008: The first thing to do is notify the authorities. This is important to prevent such action from happeing to another.
Date rape happens in many different forms. The form your talking about is the possability of someone slipping a sleeping medicati... (read in full...)
My husband of almost 18 years said he wasn't happy and has moved out, how do I cope?
Q. My husband and I have been together for almost 18 years. We have two wonderful teenage daughters. We have had a great marriage - no real serious problems. We hardly ever fought. We have always been a close knit family, went on trips a couple ...
A. 12 May 2008: By disagreeing to your husband when he expresses his concern, is the same as saying your opinion matters and his does not.
I'm sure you had warning this was going to happen. Being a busy woman it's easy to ignor the subtle changes that show warn... (read in full...)
Together 5 years and no sex in last two months. Help.
Q. My friend and I have been together 5 years recently he and I haven't had sex in two months. I know he's a heavy drinker and I think he maybe using something eles could that be a problem. He says he isn't cheating and to please give him time to get ...
A. 11 May 2008: First of all, is being with someone who drinks alot and uses something else, who you want to be with. While he's drunk or stoned, can he give himself to you?
if he's trying to get himself together, drinking and using will provide a block in bein... (read in full...)
36 year-old woman sleeping in the same bed as her uncle?
Q. what do you think of a 36yo woman sleeping in the same bed with her uncle? yes she lied to me, she said she's living with her uncle in separate bedroom, but when i went to their apartment it was just a studio and they're sleeping together in one ...
A. 11 May 2008: She probably lied to you because of the society perceptioons around it. People have this misbelief that if two people are in the same bed, they must be having sexual relations. Not true.
They are both adults. People can sleep in a single bed with... (read in full...)
I'm 5 months pregnant and he's with another girl and he still comes round to sleep with me.
Q. I am so hurt. My ex boyfriend is with another girl even though he knows i'm 5 months pregnant from him. He tells me he loves this girl. He phones me all the time and tells me he will be there for the baby, but he doesn't want to be with me. I feel...
A. 10 May 2008: So, you're saying you don't know why he is making this decision? I know you hope his decision would be to remain with you. With it not being that way, his decision still needs to be respected.
What I would do is not let him come over and sleep with... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for your wished. We're still doing well. I have my guitars. I can play them anytime, and they don't say no or talk back. lol
Did you see how the United Nations were forced to stop aid to the Asian country who the cyclone hit? They atte... (read in full...)
My friend's father touched me in places he shouldn't have. Do I let him get away with it?
Q. i was about 14 years old and still in school i used to go to my friends frequently but he used to be in bed and his father would ask me to go in and he would touch me in places that he shouldnt i was real scared, i was really young at the time and ...
A. 9 May 2008: Let me ask you this question. If you were your own child, would you let someone get away with hurting someone you love so much?
This is not about his son. It's about what happened to you. If he's a "best friend" of yours, he's understand why you ... (read in full...)
My dad beat me....im worried my bf might do it?
Q. hi everyone i have a question that invloves any guy that i know! when i was 13 my dad beat me physcically and mentally and always lied cheated on my mom! i really believe that ever since then i cant trust a guy because i believe that the guys i ...
A. 9 May 2008: First of all, your dad is your dad. Because he's a guy should not be attached to that issue. If it was your mom, you'd be afraid of women, if it was barney, you'd be afraid of purple dinasaurs.
What is an issue is abuse characteristics. You said... (read in full...)
How long does it take before the chlamydia takes effect and makes her infertile?
Q. Ok, I have a friend who might have chlamydia. She doesn't want to tell her mom so she can get treated. How long does it take before the chlamydia takes effect and makes her infertile?...
A. 9 May 2008: I'd get it taken care of right away. The time frame depends on the person. It's not the same for everyone. She can go to a local family planning clinic, get checked and receive the medication to treat it. I believe they still do so without requiring ... (read in full...)
Why is she taking so long in deciding whether she loves me or not?
Q. Please help me! I've been with this girl for 6 months and I love her, she told me she'll feel the same way soon about me. She's said before that she wants to make sure everything will work between us. I'm doing my best to wait for her to make up h...
A. 9 May 2008: Your not doing something wrong per se. Love really isn't something that a coin needs to be flipped for. How does she know she will soon? How can she be sure everything will work out or not? I can't be sure what I'm doing from day to day. Is she ... (read in full...)
He has a son to someone else and I don't know if I can handle it...
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years and at the beginning we didn't really take the relationship seriously, I cheated on him and so did he on me. Now we want to be committed and really do love one another.. but there is only one problem, he ...
A. 9 May 2008: If he really wants to be with you. I wouldn't worry about him visiting his child. I'm glad to hear your working with this. It can be hard, but if he's the right one for you, you'll have more good times than difficult ones. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: your welcome. I get lonely from time to time as well. Then remembering the actions and hurt people do to others snaps me right out of that thought of being with someone. ... (read in full...)
My bf of 2 yrs wants a break - to date other women! Help!
Q. My boyfriend of almost 2 years is requesting a break, but we're in an awkward situation because we live together and I just started a full time job (there is no way I could live on my own right now). He's not gonna kick me out or anything. We're ...
A. 9 May 2008: They could be signs in a couple of areas. Not wanting to be with someone, or in some way feeling rejected. Rubbing it in his face when out, and you see girls, is like saying "go ahead, give me reason to leave."
I think you both need to sit down and ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 May 2008: So you called him, and now know the truth about it not working out. What do you feel you need to do now? I suggest focusing on you. The problem I've seen is you're dependent. It seems as is you need someone there to "make" you happy. To help you ... (read in full...)
I need space...now he doesn't want me back!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years---we've been through A LOT together (car accident, stolen vehicle, living together for a month, etc) so there is that attachment. Back in October I told him I needed some space---I had a HUGE job commitme...
A. 6 May 2008: I see your side in needing the space. I see his side as well in not wanting to do it again. What I see when someone says "I need space" is, "my life is too complicated and busy to include you." or "the issues which cause needing space have to deal ... (read in full...)
I don't know who I am anymore...I think I must be depressed!
Q. I believe I am depressed even though this isn't clinically proven. I hurt all the time and I get headaches daily. Today I decided to go for a walk and sat behind a pile of hay for quite some time before I heard a truck, then I ran home. Please help ...
A. 6 May 2008: When you took your walk, were you consciously aware of where you were during that time? I think you do have depression, but some more information from you would be helpful.
Tell what the circumstances are around the time your pain and head... (read in full...)
Does it count to have indirect contact with the female breasts? Feel through the shirt?
Q. I am going to high school at a boarding school (yes, everything in my family is fine... I just thought they offered a good education), which has the obvious rule of "No genital contact." I am not yet ready to loose my virginity, but foresee that I ...
A. 6 May 2008: sounds like their rules mean below the belt. ... (read in full...)
My bf of 2 yrs wants a break - to date other women! Help!
Q. My boyfriend of almost 2 years is requesting a break, but we're in an awkward situation because we live together and I just started a full time job (there is no way I could live on my own right now). He's not gonna kick me out or anything. We're ...
A. 5 May 2008: These confusions do cause pain. From what you said, I think he's making the wrong choice.
Something I heard a while ago says: "Never leave someone you love, for someone you like, because someone you like will leave you for someone they love... (read in full...)
I feel I don't trust him when he is drinking. Doesn't he really remember what he does?
Q. I have been married for thirty years and I have a problem with my husband flirting with my friends, women,calling them Babe, etc... A few years ago, at the end of a wedding reception I noticed that he was missing along with my girlfriend of more...
A. 4 May 2008: Excuses, excuses. I think he just doesn't remember what he chooses not too. Selective. You have children, they do it too to keep themselves out of trouble. They hear what they want too, and not what they don't.
The issue here is not only clai... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants space to see if he's happier or less happy without me? What does this mean?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. A week ago he said he needs some space to decide whether he's happier with or without me. I admit that I have been picking fights almost weekly and that probably pushed him away. He said this ...
A. 4 May 2008: They're important to you, but if he's not having inappropriate friendships, could you see where he may feel as if you're attempting to control his activities.
Here is my beliefs around having relationships. Neither person has the right to dict... (read in full...)
He's controlling but I'm afraid to be on my own because I have BPD, I'm so confused!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 26 years old and I've been involved with a controlling man for over 4 years now. However we have only been physically together for 1 month of it. I know it sounds crazy but we met over the internet right after my mother was murde...
A. 4 May 2008: I understand your situation. First problem I see, is the controlling personality of who you are with. I understand why you'd choose him, but the goal is to develop your own identity, instead of a scripted identity.
How often do you experience spli... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants space to see if he's happier or less happy without me? What does this mean?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. A week ago he said he needs some space to decide whether he's happier with or without me. I admit that I have been picking fights almost weekly and that probably pushed him away. He said this ...
A. 4 May 2008: Why are you picking fights? Is confrontation amusing to you?
Weather a good relationship or a bad one. Either way, it's created by those in it. By doing or not doing determines what you get or don't get. The problem is, once you hook them, and know... (read in full...)
Please help me to help my friend. His girlfriend is really nasty and abusive toward him, I think he's scaredof her!!
Q. One of my good male friends has a problem with his girlfriend. Well, they have been together for about two years and his girlfriend tells him what to do all of the time and won't allow him any freedom! If he wants to go partying with his frie...
A. 4 May 2008: Has his girlfriend ever been through sexual or physical abuse herself? Some of these abnormal behaviors are found mainly in someone who's been abused. That's where you'd see the forced sexual behavior, the control, and the malicious behavior in ... (read in full...)
Deep down inside, I know he isn't the one for me. Advice on how to let go?
Q. I can't let go of my boyfriend. Deep down inside i know he isn't for me other than the fact everyone tells me, i still ignore them and get hurt over and over again. I mean i never asked him for anything during our four year relationship and he never ...
A. 4 May 2008: Just because you may always love someone, it doesn't mean they are the one for you. Realize this, you are and will always be your number 1 priority in a relationship. The relationship you have with yourself, will determine your success in all other ... (read in full...)
How do I trust my husband?
Q. A few years ago I had a few things happen and it made me realise what a strong desire sex is for a man. They rape for it, they hurt for it. Its like they will do anything for it. I just got married to a really wonderful man but I am having troubl...
A. 2 May 2008: Some men are as you described. Maybe I can reassure you that it's not all by my story. I am a 36 year old male. No does mean no. I have not been sexually active with anyone for going on 2 years 5 months. I have had opportunity too, but have ignored ... (read in full...)
I am very inexperienced with sex and relationships, and was raped 6 years ago by a bf, now I've started dating a new guy...but I need some advice!
Q. Hi I've never posted here before, and I kind of need some advice. I'm in my late 20's, and am going out on a third date with a guy I've known for a couple of months. We get along really well and really dig each other. The thing is, I know that in ...
A. 2 May 2008: Just go with the flow. No one has a script when having sex, except for maybe on movies.
About your rape. You know deep down all men don't rape and treat women poorly. This was a traumatic experience. Unfortunately in trauma associations are file... (read in full...)
I don't feel like a woman because I have a small chest!
Q. I am 28 years old and am 4'10" and weigh about 95 lbs and my chest is rather small....is that a big deal for men? My husband says he doesn't care and that I'm perfect, but is he telling the truth? He's always told me that he is a "butt" man and I ...
A. 2 May 2008: I'd listen to your husband. To him you are the perfect woman. It depends on the man and what they are looking for. As far as people making fun of you, tell them to find something more productive to keep them busy than to worry about the size of your ... (read in full...)
Why am I attracted to older men? Is it because of the lack of a father figure?
Q. Does anyone have any thought as to why I'm always attracted to older men? My sister had suggested it was because of the lack of a father figure in my life, and my therapist seconded that. What do you think? Is that accurate, or could it be something ...
A. 2 May 2008: Your sister may be correct. It's good your recognize it as an issue you're having. When women get into relationships with any man, one area their seeking is to feel secure and safe with who they are with.
Younger women may find attraction with an o... (read in full...)
I wrote the girl of my dreams a song. Is it okay that I give it to her?
Q. I wrote the girl of my dreams a song and i plan on giving it to her today. I am really nervous that she is going to think its lame and think i am gay or something. She knows i am writing her one but she doesn't know it is about how great of a ...
A. 2 May 2008: Its not corny. Girls like having songs written to them. They do, because its something they have that is not shared with another.
Just about all love songs you hear on the radio have some inspiration behind the song. Here's the best advise I've... (read in full...)
My mum treats her boyfriend badly but he never does anything around the house
Q. Well the problem is not mine but it is a relationship problem. my mum has a new boyfriend and theyve been dating for almost a year but never seem to have a stable relationship, she is an alcoholic and treats him badly sometimes and causes him to walk...
A. 2 May 2008: First of all to the little miss womder, we are not annoying.
First of all, when dealing with (annoying) adults, there is not much you can do. Just like with raising kids, instructions are not given in having relationships. The problem is you have... (read in full...)
How do I let the past go and trust him?
Q. I have a pretty complicated situation and would love some input. Ill try to make it quick. My boyfriend and i have been seeing each other off and on for about 9 months. When i met him he had just filed for divorce and raising his 3 boys. He is a goo...
A. 2 May 2008: Reading your story, I too can see many red flags and reasons not to extend trust. His blaming this on you, why would you remain with him. He's someone who does not take responsability for his own actions.
Lets say if I was married. My wife met a be... (read in full...)
Do you have to be swept off your feet by a person right off the bat for them to be a great match?
Q. Do you have to be swept off your feet by a person right off the bat for them to be a great match? I've been dating a guy for a few weeks now. I'm looking to start a serious relationship, so I don't want to waste any time with someone I don't ...
A. 1 May 2008: Try approaching your relationship in a different manner. You said you like him enough, so why have this additional expectation? Fairytail relationships are nice. Anyone can have one. It takes two, but it has to be created. Just like in a movie. It ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 April 2008: No, I don't recall that song, but when I was a teen, I'd watch the "Flying Circus." It was late night, had to sneak down to the tv to watch it, or mom and dad would get up (busted).
I know some times I ramble. I get on a thought pattern and just... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 26 April 2008: Rape is an action that should not exist. One of the most damaging actions that can take place, weather in family or not. Ten years is crap. I guess that depends. I saw a show last night on prison, where many sexual criminals are killed before being ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 April 2008: Reading that letter I thought about two areas of concern. First, it's designed to cause guilt. Second, it's written without taking personal responsability for his actions. Every part of his apology was directed toward placing blame on people, or on ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 April 2008: We didn't get hired for filming. I think we applied too late. That's okay, still had a great time with the kids.
If he does show up, kick him in the ________, and tell him you think you just saw a ghost run by and nailed him in his twins. ... (read in full...)
He has a son to someone else and I don't know if I can handle it...
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years and at the beginning we didn't really take the relationship seriously, I cheated on him and so did he on me. Now we want to be committed and really do love one another.. but there is only one problem, he ...
A. 31 March 2008: One more questions for you. What if you we're the one carrying the baby from the guy you cheated with. Would you want him to try to cope with the situation, or move on. ... (read in full...)
He has a son to someone else and I don't know if I can handle it...
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years and at the beginning we didn't really take the relationship seriously, I cheated on him and so did he on me. Now we want to be committed and really do love one another.. but there is only one problem, he ...
A. 31 March 2008: Two options. (1) LEAVE (2) CHANGE YOUR VIEWS. That's it. Remember this, true love overcomes all obsticals. You said you can't be with someone who has a child with another. That's your answer. Let him go, so he may find someone who is willing to ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 March 2008: Its hard when feeling alone. Then we ponder on could of would of should of. I use meditation as a form of relaxation and for stress relief.
What needs to happen in learning to really let go. Healing can't begin as long as you have this tight grip... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 11 March 2008: You're right, he's not a good person. Sending his a card, all though a polite gesture, is still holding on. I wish my ex's happy birthday, but we're also on good speaking terms without any intention past a birthday wish on either side.
Wish us luck... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 March 2008: You know you are going to be okay. Reason being, your persistant in doing so. The problem in domestic violence is when does all this begin. Lets look at my story in where I was living in an abusive relationship for a year, I was not the abuser.
M... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 3 March 2008: She said she'll make you a big cookie. She's a good kid 13, and my little drama queen. She cooks when she visits because I tend to start fires, burn things. I burnt off my eye brows bbq'ing. She said I'm grounded from cooking.
Look at what he's done... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: You did good. You let him know you're not a toy he can just toss asside when he wants a variety. I'm proud of you for standing up to him and not caving in. (my daughter said you deserve a cookie.)
Standing up for yourself is a huge step in taki... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: As I've said before, this broken feeling that doesn't seem to disappear is not because of the guy who wasn't nice. Quite often we use the affections of someone to fulfill a void feeling within ourselves because another area of our sense of self ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 March 2008: I know it's not easy, and it's not going to be quickly fixed. Your feelings are out of need or desire. What I'm trying to get you to realize is to build your personal happiness. These feelings you have are wanting someone to "make" you happy. No one ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 25 February 2008: It fairly humerous when someone gets together with someone who's cheating is starts out as the other woman, then when it happens to them, they just can't figure out why he wouldn't treat them different than they did the last one. Can people change? ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 19 February 2008: Dang girl 40 smokes a day. I can't say much, on stressful days when I smoked, I'd do around that. You're right, being in an emotionally abusive relationship it's sometimes difficult for the person in it to see. These guys use subtle changes, then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: I know you're in pain and hurting. If I could waive a wand and erase it, I would. I'm not sorry I went through what I had. If I never experienced it, I probably wouldn't be her talking to you. I didn't begin learning about behaviors becuase I ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: U where wrong, give my watch and hat to the cat???? Now you're not in the wrong, just like the cat can't wear a watch, unless it's got some muscular legs.
Do you understand what manipulation and intimidation is? It's an act. A conscious choice to u... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 15 February 2008: Your mom is correct, but tell her from me that if it's true love and meant to be, then your treated as if you are.
Take care, and if you need anything let me know... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 14 February 2008: Sorry you're having a hard time. Remember this is your life. He wasn't respecting it or who you are. It's not a matter of wanting to date, or be with someone, it's the principle of you being treated well, and not accepting anything less than that. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 13 February 2008: Your welcome, I hope everything works out for you. Anytime you need to chat, just let me know. Take care.... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 12 February 2008: I have to agree with the other poster. The guy who asked you out, go have dinner or coffee. You need to get out for a little while, it will do you good.
Take a nice walk or just sit outside with something to drink and just enjoy the beauty arou... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: It's all about keeping personal strength. You have to remind yourself that you are a better person than to accept being mistreated by others. The name of my CD is "Everybody's Somebody's Child" That idea stems from treating others as you would ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: Thank your for the kind words. Take care of yourself, and feel free to ask anytime you need someone to talk to or advice. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 February 2008: Remember the story of the "boy who cried wolf". He lied to you prior too. You knew he had lied, so where did his credibility go with you believing what he says? I'm in law as a profession. With a judge if one lie is proved, the judge can then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: I know it hurts. If it didn't it would be a happy ending. Not everything ends happily, but even those that don't we learn something from them. I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for the good time and the bad times. I have learned so much off ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Thank you for the compliment hlskitten.
Now you're right, you don't deserve to be treated that way. He wants to talk about respect, but doesn't carry respect for you. I don't recall anytime when putting his pen in another girls ink was consider... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Sorry to hear about your pain. It's for reasons like this I remain single and plan to do so "till death do I part", unless someone comes a long that I just can't pass up. lol Now when he says he misses you tell him "I bet you say this to all the ... (read in full...)
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