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writes:i was about 14 years old and still in school i used to go to my friends frequently but he used to be in bed and his father would ask me to go in and he would touch me in places that he shouldnt i was real scared, i was really young at the time and didnt know what to do or who to tell, but now i am older and more the wiser and i know he did it to sumbody else. should i tell her and get this sorted out now or should i keep it to myself and let him get away with it? i have to keep in mind though i am best friends with his son
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): No Sweetheart. Tell someone right away! No one should ever do that to you unless you want them to! Sorry that happened:)(L)
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reader, Aliki-baby +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Babe, this man is a dirty, stinking paedophille. He is making me sick. You must tell someone, his son wont hate you especially if you undercover his father as a pervert. Good luck and I am sorry for the distress x x
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reader, sexi  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 Hi
No, tell someone and get help. He needs to be dealt with. Dont worry about getting in trouble because you did nothing wrong. Tell him so you can help someone else, maybe even your friend!
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): Absolutely not! he shouldn't get away with it, you said now you are wiser you no it was wrong....well then you no he cant get away with it right, who knows how many people have kept his secret. Go to the police and report him. I no this sounds a little extreem but if you just tell the friend or his wife then he will only deny all and you will end up looking like you are lying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): Absolutely do NOT let him get away with it unless you want to regret it the rest of your life. How would you feel if, having gotten away with molesting you, he ended up raping or really hurting another girl? This molester has to be dealt with before he hurts other girls! Breaking the silence is the right thing to do.
I know you don't want to wreck the family of your friend, but think how much more trouble he would be if his father continued this course. Maybe at this point, the father could be counseled or helped before it's too late.
Please, please, do google your local rape or abuse crisis hotline. You will be anonymous, and they won't be able to make you do anything you don't want to do. But you'll speak to women who have been in very similar situations and they will be able to advise you in person.
Here's a link I found for Rape Crisis Centres in the UK:
http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/
Best of luck.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 Let me ask you this question. If you were your own child, would you let someone get away with hurting someone you love so much?
This is not about his son. It's about what happened to you. If he's a "best friend" of yours, he's understand why you want to keep this from happening to another person. This is something I wouldn't be able to let anyone get away with. It's your choice, but I'd say to get it sorted out.
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