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I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).
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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
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My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 March 2009: Best of Luck to you. Take care. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 4 March 2009: So, what's going on. Seems like you have a lot of anger built up. You're a nice lady, and I enjoy chatting with you, and I believe during that time you've been warned time and time again to stay clear of this person.
The thing about people chan... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 July 2008: Hasn't your solicitor heard of a continuance. You have the right to be hard in all matters of law.
After these decisions are made, do you have a higher court to appeal the ruling of a lower court? I don't believe your solicitor did a job the best... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 July 2008: Sounds like you're doing better, as a manner of speaking. Your right it doesn't look good to the judge to drag out court.
Just a bit of warning. Seeing someone prior to the end of the divorce can be used in court as well. Legal marriage, is lega... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 June 2008: That's what you need to concentrate on. As far as his taking the solicitor out to lunch and such. Violation of ethics. People here get their licenses taken away or suspended for those behaviors.
Keep a calendar of all issues. Everytime he cance... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 May 2008: If you can establish proof of his dating his solicitor, that should establish a conflict of interest, which would pull her off the case, and may cause issues with her ability to continue law.
I woulnd't accept less than what you feel you dese... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 May 2008: If he seeks an injunction, a hearing should be set to answer to it. If his calls were done by home phone, have your phone company pull a copy of those records which show his phone calls to you. If they are done by cell phone, your bill should ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for your wished. We're still doing well. I have my guitars. I can play them anytime, and they don't say no or talk back. lol
Did you see how the United Nations were forced to stop aid to the Asian country who the cyclone hit? They atte... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: your welcome. I get lonely from time to time as well. Then remembering the actions and hurt people do to others snaps me right out of that thought of being with someone. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 May 2008: So you called him, and now know the truth about it not working out. What do you feel you need to do now? I suggest focusing on you. The problem I've seen is you're dependent. It seems as is you need someone there to "make" you happy. To help you ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 April 2008: No, I don't recall that song, but when I was a teen, I'd watch the "Flying Circus." It was late night, had to sneak down to the tv to watch it, or mom and dad would get up (busted).
I know some times I ramble. I get on a thought pattern and just... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 26 April 2008: Rape is an action that should not exist. One of the most damaging actions that can take place, weather in family or not. Ten years is crap. I guess that depends. I saw a show last night on prison, where many sexual criminals are killed before being ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 April 2008: I know this is hard for you to deal with. Working with people who have been through divorce and seeing the after affects, it's heart breaking. I can't figure out your question either of how someone can act or live as if they love and care for ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 19 April 2008: The first piece of advice anyone one law gives is to not speak to the other person. Speak through your legal professionals. Reason being, "anything you say can be used against you in court." Couples who split up can get into some heated arguments. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 April 2008: Reading that letter I thought about two areas of concern. First, it's designed to cause guilt. Second, it's written without taking personal responsability for his actions. Every part of his apology was directed toward placing blame on people, or on ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 April 2008: We didn't get hired for filming. I think we applied too late. That's okay, still had a great time with the kids.
If he does show up, kick him in the ________, and tell him you think you just saw a ghost run by and nailed him in his twins. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 March 2008: Its hard when feeling alone. Then we ponder on could of would of should of. I use meditation as a form of relaxation and for stress relief.
What needs to happen in learning to really let go. Healing can't begin as long as you have this tight grip... (read in full...)
How do I handle my girlfriends rough past?
Q. Hi there im new to this but i really need some advice from several caring people. my situation is my girlfriend comes from a long hard past and im the best thing that has happened to her. We are both nineteen but when she was 6 years old she lived ...
A. 26 March 2008: Sounds like she's been through hell and back. It's eating you up because out of the love you have for her now, you weren't there to protect her from being hurt. The best thing you can do for her is be supportive of her. Yes, that is rape. I hope she ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave my boyfriend but I am finding myself attracted to a girl! What do you think?
Q. This is a hard question to ask . Please don't judge me by this ok . I have the most amazing boyfriend anyone can ever ask for! He's the very best ! I would never ever want us to seperate I love him soooo much! He loves me too. But recently I have ...
A. 25 March 2008: Just something I read a while ago, but makes absolute sense: "Don't leave someone you love, for someone you like, because the someone you like will leave you for someone they love."... (read in full...)
I love him so much so why am I always having a go at him?
Q. I'm engaged to a wonderful man whom i love and who i am IN love with. I'm just not happy. I love him with every inch of my heart, we have a gorgeous home and a fantastic relationship. We are best friends as well as partners. I love my job and have ...
A. 25 March 2008: I agree with the other poster, but would like to add an additional possability. "Fear"!
You have a great life, how afraid are you of loosing what you have? Your behavior is a manner of control. Many people create this control in an area they fear... (read in full...)
After 13 years and four children together can it really be over?
Q. my girlfriend broke up with me after 13 yrs and 4 kids. but still wants to be friends but i love her.and she says she need to go on with her life now but still she wants to be friends ive read that we shouldnt talk and all that right now we are ...
A. 25 March 2008: Always keep a hold of hope. Sometimes that's all we have, and it's pulled some through tough times. Your statement in having a rough patch says a lot in what I belive many people are missing in their relationships. That is the "choice."
R... (read in full...)
My past has affected my trust in men, I'm afraid this will reflect in my current relation!
Q. Hi i am 23 and new to this, i need some advice. i started going out with my current boyfriend 4 months ago, we work together and everything has been going great. apart from me and my jealousy, in previous relationships i have been cheated on and ...
A. 23 March 2008: realize cheating is an act. it's not a person. it's a choice by which a person makes. just because one person makes that choice, doesn't mean the next person will. it also falls within their self esteem and general respect for other people. those ... (read in full...)
My best friend betrayed me and now everyone has turned on me!
Q. ok i will try and shorten this down as much as possible.about a year ago i split up with my partner ( the father of my child) and since then it has been one thing after an another.i have recently asked my ex not to bother coming to see my daughter ...
A. 23 March 2008: Lets look at this from actual truth. Now for me, that's the only way to live. First of all, take him to court to secure payment for your child. With some, that's the only way to get funds children need.
Your ex-best friend. It's okay to miss some... (read in full...)
I don't think my boyfriend is the father of my baby... I think it's his cousin's!!
Q. im a 21 year old and ive been in a 4 year relationship i love my boyfriend but im in love with my boyfriend cousin i had a child last year and i think he might belong to the cousin as we were having an affair my boyfrind found about the affair after ...
A. 23 March 2008: This is one you'll have to get yourself out of. I don't think you really know what love is. If you did you wouldn't have done what you did, and you wouldn't have stated wanting to make a change in the manner that you did.
I hope cheating is not ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend gets really pissed about my ex!! What can I do?
Q. Hello all. My girlfriend of about 6 months has some amazing notions and has me a little upset. She gets pissed at the min I'm at my ex's, i.e. picking up my kids, driving by if I didn't get a chance to see them for a while,etc. She basically says ...
A. 23 March 2008: Let her know that your and your ex will have some "relationship" because you have children together, just as she and her ex do. Let her know she has no right to control your actions in visiting your children. All though your in a relationship with ... (read in full...)
I'm not comfortable in my own skin and I really hate myself.. Am I crazy?
Q. We were very poor when we were young, I have an older brother who is the 'golden boy' cos he was the genius, the artist, good looking, he was good at everything. I have serius issues with my mum not out of jealousy or anything but because I felt she ...
A. 22 March 2008: First, let me tell you, I won't look down on you for what happened. Your not a dirty whore. What happened to you was not your fault. You didn't cause this, you were a receptor to evil acts of someone else. You are a very intelligent person. I say ... (read in full...)
He hurts my feelings but I love him so much. Help.
Q. I am 21 years old,I've been married for just over a year now, and I'm six months pregnant with our baby boy. I Love my husband very much, and I know he loves me too, but he hurts my feelings a lot. Yes, I may be a little over sensitive, but ...
A. 22 March 2008: When really in love with someone, what part of making you feel bad is included in that? It sounds like he is immature, and is really disrespecting you. Love does not include disrespect. Who is ultimately responsiable for their behavior? Everyone. We ... (read in full...)
What to do...I'm in love with a man who treats me badly!
Q. hey my name is zaida and i am in love with this man who i know is wrong for me i know he will never change and i also know that he will always be verbully abusive i am 35 latina he is almost 50 and french canadian, he also owns a buissness which he ...
A. 21 March 2008: What do you feel love really is. I think your interpretation and mine is different. My definition is this: love is the choice to love someone without condition and without return expectation.
It's a choice because when things are difficult, it's... (read in full...)
I'm a stressed-out mother with a disabled ill-behaved child. Any ideas how to make her behave?
Q. Does anyone have any ideas for a very stressed out mother with a very very hyper 4 year old child(who happens to also have a Disability Spina Bifida w/ a shunt)She also has very strong anger issues. My husband and I took her to a Phsycologist and ...
A. 21 March 2008: Sounds like a possability of two interchanging problems. (1) ADHD predeominately attentive (hyper) (2) Defiance disorder, and possiably (3) antisocial behavioral disorder.
Until medication, st. Johns Whart, Fish oil tablets, and a good multi vi... (read in full...)
A gentle way to break up from my GF who has self-harm tendencies?
Q. I've grown apart from my girlfriend of 15 months and need a very gentle way to break up with her over a period of time. I don't want her to get really upset as she used to self-harm...
A. 20 March 2008: how are you going to do this without her being upset? Personally I would tell her that her self harm worries me, and that i can't be with someone who would treat themselves that way. I'd ask her why she feels as if she needs to hurt herself, and ask ... (read in full...)
I love him - but what if he can't give me what I need, as my father warns?
Q. How on earth does my father know? My dad doesn't like my bf. Not even a little bit. So last night he told me that my bf would never start working now, he's 20. He said that he would only study but never actually do the job. I just got off the phone ...
A. 20 March 2008: If your age is correct, I wouln't worry about it now. Enjoy being a teen, and not worry about what people are going to do for work. It depends on what sort of studdies he's doing. Would your dad be right if he's studying to further his career ... (read in full...)
He has genital warts! Should I be suspicious? He said it was from the girl before me....
Q. Hi Im absolutely devasted im 30 years of age and had been your typical "Briget Jones" for three years, then a year and a half ago I met my perfect boyfriend a true gentleman not like the usual bad boys I would date.A very shy gentle man. I really r...
A. 19 March 2008: Have his warts removed. Have him think of who he was with in the past. Women who are prone to having cervical cancer can cause genital warts on their partner. ... (read in full...)
I've left 10 texts to my boyfriend with no response, does he still care?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for two months. now, we are on spring break and he hasn't text me back. i have left at least ten plus messages. do you think that hes doesn't care about me anymore or that our relationship is over? ...
A. 19 March 2008: It depends. Do you have information that may lead up to a separation?
I'd say wait until after spring break. I hope everyhing works out for you. Enjoy the rest of your break. Don't let this affect you until you know for sure. It would suck to wast... (read in full...)
What is "constructive critism"? My boyfriend doesn't believe in it...
Q. Is there such a thing as constructive critism. My boyfriend says there isn't and that it a saying made up by business people. He says in reality its an oxymoron. Weve argued about it but he's adamant theres no such thing. Can you help?...
A. 19 March 2008: Constructive criticism is this site. It's pointing out areas which may need improvement. It's not placing blame or trying to make the other feel inadequate, but it's "advice" which if taken may improve the one who receives it.
Remember this whe... (read in full...)
Husband is drinking more and ignoring us....what can I do?
Q. I have been married almost 3 years and been with my husband for a total of 7 1/2 years. we have two beautiful little girls and we have had our little fights but nothing major. Here in the past two months he has changed. he has started drinking more ...
A. 19 March 2008: First lets look at alcohol. It's used in many manners. Addiction, coping, entertainment, stress redution, and the list could go on. Which manner is he using it. I drink once every few months to just relax and have a drink. My brother drank because ... (read in full...)
How do I get my mum to stop acting like my man, who has been with me for 8 months, and loves me a lot, is not like the men that she has been with?
Q. Hi, I asked a question on here earlier about my bf not seeing me for a week, and his car needing to be fixed. Well, now I have another problem. I've had this problem for some time now. How can I get my mom to stop acting like he ain't shit, just bec...
A. 19 March 2008: That's all you can do. And remember this store when it comes times "Guitar Center". They have the best dicounts on new guitars. I frequent there often and definately recommend it. My mom, a non musician, explains the store as being just "WOW".
... (read in full...)
SUPER STRESSED and seeking a bit of HOPE.
Q. Hey everyone. I and a young single mom and I am super stressed. I am a full time everything right now, full time school, full time mom and just got "hired" for this intership that amazingly fits my schedule. My EX however is not pulling his weight ...
A. 19 March 2008: Some lawyers will work probono (no cost). It's a program through the organization who licenses lawyers. Or you can contact a child support office. They'll seek the child support as a free service to you. ... (read in full...)
How do I get my mum to stop acting like my man, who has been with me for 8 months, and loves me a lot, is not like the men that she has been with?
Q. Hi, I asked a question on here earlier about my bf not seeing me for a week, and his car needing to be fixed. Well, now I have another problem. I've had this problem for some time now. How can I get my mom to stop acting like he ain't shit, just bec...
A. 19 March 2008: maybe, but realize this, if being judgemental is not normally you, don't let your mom's behavior be reason to be who you are not. Be the adult, someone has too. Acting a way just because someone else does creates the circle of repeated behavior. ... (read in full...)
I didn't want to move again, especially as so much time, money and effort had been put into the first move... so my wife left me! Was I wrong?
Q. Hi, My partner of 3 years has just left me, took my son. I'd like to explain what happened; because I'd like another point of view on things to help me understand what I did wrong. Basically, we were both very young. We both made mistakes (she ...
A. 19 March 2008: She doesn't want you back because you didn't want to move, right. I don't believe that one. She's using that as an excuse. She wanted to move your family from security to insecurity. That's not a good idea, without first securing a position in the ... (read in full...)
SUPER STRESSED and seeking a bit of HOPE.
Q. Hey everyone. I and a young single mom and I am super stressed. I am a full time everything right now, full time school, full time mom and just got "hired" for this intership that amazingly fits my schedule. My EX however is not pulling his weight ...
A. 19 March 2008: Notify the courts and take him to court to pay his share for his child. ... (read in full...)
How do I get my mum to stop acting like my man, who has been with me for 8 months, and loves me a lot, is not like the men that she has been with?
Q. Hi, I asked a question on here earlier about my bf not seeing me for a week, and his car needing to be fixed. Well, now I have another problem. I've had this problem for some time now. How can I get my mom to stop acting like he ain't shit, just bec...
A. 19 March 2008: First stop being judgemental with your mom. She's made mistakes. Part of what she's doing is trying to keep you from making the same mistakes she has made.
You both have to realize your separate people, it's not proper to compare the activities of o... (read in full...)
I am 14 and have ADD...my problems drive people away and then they want me back.
Q. I'm 14yrs old and have A.D.D, i hate having problems, it causes heaps of other problems such as my boyfriends they have left me cause i have add but i have now found one guy we share the same thing. I can get any guy i want but i just have this pro...
A. 18 March 2008: Let me ask you first, are you on medication? If not may need it. If so the medication may be causing the additional agression. The issue with having this disorder is your brain is wired different. Some would look at additional computer time as not a ... (read in full...)
He has slept with my best friend and we have a newborn baby! Now he "disappears", what is going on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 1/2 years. He has cheated on me twice that I know of. Once when we all got drunk very early in the relationship and he slept with my best friend at the time. The other was 2 years into the relationship ...
A. 18 March 2008: It sounds like old habbits die hard. If you are feeling as if he is not being honest with you, or in his actions your probobly right. I would confrount him but do it in a way that dosn't accuse but in a way that meets your feelings. It may be that ... (read in full...)
Is it her choice to be able to keep the baby or her mom's?
Q. I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 16 her mother let me live in their household and she knew we were having sex... some issues happened and I moved out. Also her mother will not let us see each other anymore.... and we love each other.... but the real ...
A. 18 March 2008: I believe it's the girls choice. You may also place your name on the paternity website which notifies you of any actions you may not be aware of. Father rights are recognized more now than before, and being an adult, you're entitled those rights. ... (read in full...)
How long does it take to get "loose"?
Q. How long does it take to get "loose"? I have been having sex with the same guy for two years and he is about 5 inches. Will this make me loose? Can I ever buy a vibrator or will this also make me loose? I have been doing kegals, but I just want to ...
A. 17 March 2008: Don't worry about it. You are who you are. There are exercises you can do such as tigntening the muscles while having sex, but there really isn't a magic formula.
... (read in full...)
Relationship Advice Sought.
Q. My partner and I have been together for twenty years. We have a good relationship and he is a wonderful man and treats me well. We take good care of one another and together we share all the relationship duties : mortgage, bills, groceries, ...
A. 17 March 2008: You know you've made up your mind. You actually answered your own question within your question. You've been without physical intimacy for 6 years. We natually long for feelings of closeness. You are quite attracted to this other person, but it's ... (read in full...)
I am once again pregnant- going to have an abortion- can our relationship survive?
Q. Once again, I am really struggling. For those who have perhaps read my questions before, you will know that I am a very lucky girl in a loving relationship. But why don't i feel that way? My boyfriend is possibly one of the best things ...
A. 17 March 2008: I understand where you're coming from. As someone who was adopted, I'm greatful my biological mom chose the was she did. At 33 years old, we were able to meet. We have a wonderful adult relationship. My growing up with my adopted family was ... (read in full...)
Some things happened between us and I called off the engagement. Will he change on his own?
Q. So I am an 18 year old young woman and I am in a very happy go lucky relationship with a man that I plan to marry after I graduate in June. Most of the time I am happy with him and the way things are. He makes me feel so complete. Like the way I am...
A. 17 March 2008: Let me ask you something. How do you hold him accountable. With these lies, what is making him fearful in telling the truth? There are many adults who tell little lies based partially on their raising. If they are talked to in a harsh way when ... (read in full...)
How do I forget sex and focus on myself?
Q. I'm 17 years old and very sexually active. I have a bf, 1 year and 1/2, we use to have sex almost every single day back 2 months ago, untill school started and we had to put other mind in track and leave our relationship behind us until we have ...
A. 17 March 2008: I agree with the other poster. Sometimes it can be a chore. Chosing between sex and school could be like choosing between chocolate and spinach.
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I am once again pregnant- going to have an abortion- can our relationship survive?
Q. Once again, I am really struggling. For those who have perhaps read my questions before, you will know that I am a very lucky girl in a loving relationship. But why don't i feel that way? My boyfriend is possibly one of the best things ...
A. 17 March 2008: I'm not going to comment on your abortion since you've made your mind up about doing so. My thoughts around that would therefore be unheard.
I would like to comment on you as a whole. Abuse is a difficult situation to endure. You're not in that plac... (read in full...)
Boyfriend had sex with a "guy" when we broke up and now wants to get back together...
Q. So my boyfriend of three years recently broke up with me, and then had sex with one of his best (gay male) friends. He came back to me, saying that he didn't enjoy it and that he only wants to be with me. He told me that he never really wan...
A. 16 March 2008: Lets look at this realistically. If he didn't want to break up, he wouldn't. If he didn't want to have gay sex, he wouldn't of.
He only wants to be with you. Is that true, or just until someone or something else he wants to try comes along. I... (read in full...)
After 24 years of marriage, my husband says he still loves his ex and has filed for divorce!
Q. I have been married 24 years and my husband just told me a month ago that he is still in love with his old girlfriend before me. He told me that he has never stopped loving her and that he doesn't love me the same way, never has. We have 2 grown ...
A. 14 March 2008: It is okay for him to still love his ex, of course it is. People think too often that the love has to disappear when a relationship ends. It doesn't. Now if he didn't want marriage, he should of thought about that 24 years ago. He says he doesn't ... (read in full...)
What should I do with my sweet but seriously jealous boyfriend?
Q. Hello, my boyfriend is seriously jealous and name calls me because of things I have done in the past. I have never cheated on him... but he sometimes acts like I have. I don't know why he feels sort of betrayed becuase of what I did in the past....
A. 14 March 2008: You're in charge of you. You're in charge of how others treat you. You set up your own boundaries of how you allow people to treat you. Talking to him also means being firm in your standing. If it were me I'd say something like "you know, you ... (read in full...)
I want to move on with my life, away from my husband, but I don't know where to begin?
Q. Married for 10 years, fell out in two, I feel so alone and so cheated, and I have some mental and health disabilites. He cheated and we are passed that but to sum it up, he's just not there. I would have terminated it but it's hard for me to keep ...
A. 14 March 2008: Have you talked with your husband? If not, that would definately be a good place to start.
You want to move away from your husband, but have no plan on what to do when you do that.
If I were you I'd go check with social security. Aslo check wi... (read in full...)
What can I do about my disrespectful and obsessive wife?
Q. My wife and I are in our early 40’s, we have been married for 3 years, and have a 20 month old son. Things have been difficult for us since our son was born. Both of us have done and said things to each other that are totally out of character for ...
A. 13 March 2008: sory for the delay in answering your question, had some connection difficulties. personality disorders come in many different forms. Narcassistic, her "s**t don't stink" attitude, antisocial, doing things without remorse, and not taking responsa... (read in full...)
What can I do about my disrespectful and obsessive wife?
Q. My wife and I are in our early 40’s, we have been married for 3 years, and have a 20 month old son. Things have been difficult for us since our son was born. Both of us have done and said things to each other that are totally out of character for ...
A. 11 March 2008: If what your saying is all true, with no enhancing the situations for dramatic appeal, you're wife isn't just in left field, she's completely fell off it.
Let me ask you about her background. We know she has a degree, but other than that how was ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 11 March 2008: You're right, he's not a good person. Sending his a card, all though a polite gesture, is still holding on. I wish my ex's happy birthday, but we're also on good speaking terms without any intention past a birthday wish on either side.
Wish us luck... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 March 2008: I'm glad everything is working out for you. I can see where your solicitor is coming from. I'm in law as well and hoping to begin in family law. My two big pet peeves in family law are adultry and any lack of responsability on the best interest of ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 March 2008: You know you are going to be okay. Reason being, your persistant in doing so. The problem in domestic violence is when does all this begin. Lets look at my story in where I was living in an abusive relationship for a year, I was not the abuser.
M... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 3 March 2008: She said she'll make you a big cookie. She's a good kid 13, and my little drama queen. She cooks when she visits because I tend to start fires, burn things. I burnt off my eye brows bbq'ing. She said I'm grounded from cooking.
Look at what he's done... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: You did good. You let him know you're not a toy he can just toss asside when he wants a variety. I'm proud of you for standing up to him and not caving in. (my daughter said you deserve a cookie.)
Standing up for yourself is a huge step in taki... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: As I've said before, this broken feeling that doesn't seem to disappear is not because of the guy who wasn't nice. Quite often we use the affections of someone to fulfill a void feeling within ourselves because another area of our sense of self ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 March 2008: I know it's not easy, and it's not going to be quickly fixed. Your feelings are out of need or desire. What I'm trying to get you to realize is to build your personal happiness. These feelings you have are wanting someone to "make" you happy. No one ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 25 February 2008: It fairly humerous when someone gets together with someone who's cheating is starts out as the other woman, then when it happens to them, they just can't figure out why he wouldn't treat them different than they did the last one. Can people change? ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 February 2008: First of all, make sure you file your response within the time the court has allowed, it's generall (at least here) 30 days from the date you receive the paperwork. Remember too, the response, if you do it prior to meeting with the solicitor, i... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 19 February 2008: Dang girl 40 smokes a day. I can't say much, on stressful days when I smoked, I'd do around that. You're right, being in an emotionally abusive relationship it's sometimes difficult for the person in it to see. These guys use subtle changes, then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: I know you're in pain and hurting. If I could waive a wand and erase it, I would. I'm not sorry I went through what I had. If I never experienced it, I probably wouldn't be her talking to you. I didn't begin learning about behaviors becuase I ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: U where wrong, give my watch and hat to the cat???? Now you're not in the wrong, just like the cat can't wear a watch, unless it's got some muscular legs.
Do you understand what manipulation and intimidation is? It's an act. A conscious choice to u... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 15 February 2008: Your mom is correct, but tell her from me that if it's true love and meant to be, then your treated as if you are.
Take care, and if you need anything let me know... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 14 February 2008: Sorry you're having a hard time. Remember this is your life. He wasn't respecting it or who you are. It's not a matter of wanting to date, or be with someone, it's the principle of you being treated well, and not accepting anything less than that. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 13 February 2008: Your welcome, I hope everything works out for you. Anytime you need to chat, just let me know. Take care.... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 12 February 2008: I have to agree with the other poster. The guy who asked you out, go have dinner or coffee. You need to get out for a little while, it will do you good.
Take a nice walk or just sit outside with something to drink and just enjoy the beauty arou... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: It's all about keeping personal strength. You have to remind yourself that you are a better person than to accept being mistreated by others. The name of my CD is "Everybody's Somebody's Child" That idea stems from treating others as you would ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: Thank your for the kind words. Take care of yourself, and feel free to ask anytime you need someone to talk to or advice. ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 February 2008: Great, have your son contact me on here, I'll let him know you give your permission to toss your phone in the river.
Let me ask you this. If you didn't have your phone, would that stop you, or would you find another way?
Do you believe life... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 February 2008: Remember the story of the "boy who cried wolf". He lied to you prior too. You knew he had lied, so where did his credibility go with you believing what he says? I'm in law as a profession. With a judge if one lie is proved, the judge can then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: I know it hurts. If it didn't it would be a happy ending. Not everything ends happily, but even those that don't we learn something from them. I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for the good time and the bad times. I have learned so much off ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Thank you for the compliment hlskitten.
Now you're right, you don't deserve to be treated that way. He wants to talk about respect, but doesn't carry respect for you. I don't recall anytime when putting his pen in another girls ink was consider... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Sorry to hear about your pain. It's for reasons like this I remain single and plan to do so "till death do I part", unless someone comes a long that I just can't pass up. lol Now when he says he misses you tell him "I bet you say this to all the ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 November 2007: Your doing what's right. I hope your strength keeps building. I know it's hard sometimes around the holidays to be alone. Before I got custody of my children. I would eat Christmas dinner alone at a diner. But other than that, being alone was OK. I ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 September 2007: I am soooo glad to hear you are moving on with your life. It's better for you and your son. You don't want him growing up imitating his dad's behavior. You are a wonderful person and someone who really loves their child and plans to put him first. I ... (read in full...)
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