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I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).
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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
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My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 March 2009: Best of Luck to you. Take care. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 4 March 2009: So, what's going on. Seems like you have a lot of anger built up. You're a nice lady, and I enjoy chatting with you, and I believe during that time you've been warned time and time again to stay clear of this person.
The thing about people chan... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 July 2008: Hasn't your solicitor heard of a continuance. You have the right to be hard in all matters of law.
After these decisions are made, do you have a higher court to appeal the ruling of a lower court? I don't believe your solicitor did a job the best... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 July 2008: Sounds like you're doing better, as a manner of speaking. Your right it doesn't look good to the judge to drag out court.
Just a bit of warning. Seeing someone prior to the end of the divorce can be used in court as well. Legal marriage, is lega... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 June 2008: That's what you need to concentrate on. As far as his taking the solicitor out to lunch and such. Violation of ethics. People here get their licenses taken away or suspended for those behaviors.
Keep a calendar of all issues. Everytime he cance... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 May 2008: If you can establish proof of his dating his solicitor, that should establish a conflict of interest, which would pull her off the case, and may cause issues with her ability to continue law.
I woulnd't accept less than what you feel you dese... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 May 2008: If he seeks an injunction, a hearing should be set to answer to it. If his calls were done by home phone, have your phone company pull a copy of those records which show his phone calls to you. If they are done by cell phone, your bill should ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for your wished. We're still doing well. I have my guitars. I can play them anytime, and they don't say no or talk back. lol
Did you see how the United Nations were forced to stop aid to the Asian country who the cyclone hit? They atte... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: your welcome. I get lonely from time to time as well. Then remembering the actions and hurt people do to others snaps me right out of that thought of being with someone. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 May 2008: So you called him, and now know the truth about it not working out. What do you feel you need to do now? I suggest focusing on you. The problem I've seen is you're dependent. It seems as is you need someone there to "make" you happy. To help you ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 April 2008: No, I don't recall that song, but when I was a teen, I'd watch the "Flying Circus." It was late night, had to sneak down to the tv to watch it, or mom and dad would get up (busted).
I know some times I ramble. I get on a thought pattern and just... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 26 April 2008: Rape is an action that should not exist. One of the most damaging actions that can take place, weather in family or not. Ten years is crap. I guess that depends. I saw a show last night on prison, where many sexual criminals are killed before being ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 April 2008: I know this is hard for you to deal with. Working with people who have been through divorce and seeing the after affects, it's heart breaking. I can't figure out your question either of how someone can act or live as if they love and care for ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 19 April 2008: The first piece of advice anyone one law gives is to not speak to the other person. Speak through your legal professionals. Reason being, "anything you say can be used against you in court." Couples who split up can get into some heated arguments. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 April 2008: Reading that letter I thought about two areas of concern. First, it's designed to cause guilt. Second, it's written without taking personal responsability for his actions. Every part of his apology was directed toward placing blame on people, or on ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 April 2008: We didn't get hired for filming. I think we applied too late. That's okay, still had a great time with the kids.
If he does show up, kick him in the ________, and tell him you think you just saw a ghost run by and nailed him in his twins. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 March 2008: Its hard when feeling alone. Then we ponder on could of would of should of. I use meditation as a form of relaxation and for stress relief.
What needs to happen in learning to really let go. Healing can't begin as long as you have this tight grip... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 11 March 2008: You're right, he's not a good person. Sending his a card, all though a polite gesture, is still holding on. I wish my ex's happy birthday, but we're also on good speaking terms without any intention past a birthday wish on either side.
Wish us luck... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 March 2008: I'm glad everything is working out for you. I can see where your solicitor is coming from. I'm in law as well and hoping to begin in family law. My two big pet peeves in family law are adultry and any lack of responsability on the best interest of ... (read in full...)
I do not know if returning to my wife would be out of fear of change or love. How to determine THAT?
Q. hi. ive never posted anything before and i guess its because i really have nowhere else to turn. anyway here goes... i've been married for ten years. thank god we have no children and i'm only thankful for that because of my situation. my wife has ...
A. 11 March 2008: I agree with the other poster. True love as we know it is not a feeling at all. It's not infatuation or lust, which would be our feelings toward wanting to be with someone. True love is a choice. It's then same form of love that parents have for ... (read in full...)
I do not know if returning to my wife would be out of fear of change or love. How to determine THAT?
Q. hi. ive never posted anything before and i guess its because i really have nowhere else to turn. anyway here goes... i've been married for ten years. thank god we have no children and i'm only thankful for that because of my situation. my wife has ...
A. 10 March 2008: I would say pick your wife. You have history together. That was selfish going with the other woman. How do you think she feels sticking by you through all that to have have you trade for another.
Now first, don't take this wrong, but I reco... (read in full...)
He's only friends with her but she frightens me...
Q. My boyfriend has a close friend that is a girl he was best friends with in high school. They got back in touch about 2 years ago. It was a problem in the beginning because he was lying to me about spending time with her. He lied because he thought I ...
A. 10 March 2008: your problem lies in personal insecurities. He hasn't given you reason to believe there is anything going on other than being friends, but your pondering on the possability of.
Fear comes from the thought of loss. Even if there is no evidence to s... (read in full...)
I broke up with him because his ex still calls him and he won't tell her not to, saying he has a "weak heart"!
Q. I dated my boyfriend for a year. I find out one night by checking his voice mail and found his ex girlfriend left him friendly messages. I ask him if his ex has ever contacted him or ever met her, he denied it, getting mad at me for accusing him. ...
A. 10 March 2008: I like the other answers, but remember this as you enter into new relationships, the guilty will become defensive, the innocent won't because there's nothing to defend.... (read in full...)
My life is so boring and my husband won't let me go anywhere.
Q. I am married and have 3 kids. My life is so boring!! My kids are not bad kids ... they have their moments.. my daughter 14 is a pain in the a.. My son is 16 and is great and so is my 9 year olsd son. My husband over the last couple of years is so c...
A. 10 March 2008: Why is your daughter a pain in the bum? Let me ask you this, when you look at the other two as being well behaved and her as not, or when your husband does, is she told this, or is she able to recognise the nege ative feelings from you guys toward ... (read in full...)
What do I do about my ex and I?
Q. I have this things in my mind that does not let me concentrate sometimes well it was last year i broke up with the father of my son and got with this man who was my brothers friend we were both attracted to each other he was not happy and neither ...
A. 10 March 2008: You are confusing, like a yoyo between these two guys. You mentioned having a child? What sort of life is it for your child to bounce from one to the other. Children need stability. They need a home they can call theirs without wondering how long ... (read in full...)
14, How do I attract girls?
Q. How do I attract girls? I'm 14 and do not have a lot of experience with relationships with gitls?? how can i tell if A girl likes me?? help!!... ...
A. 9 March 2008: There is no real magic behind attracting girls. What I can offer is to just be yourself, don't lie or pretend you're someone you're not to get their attention. People like you for who you are not what you do.
Knowing if they like you. If they smil... (read in full...)
I found out my 16 year old had (protected) sex, how should I approach her about it?
Q. I have a 16 year old daughter. Last night, I picked up the phone wanting to make a phone call unaware my daughter was talking to her best friend. She had said that last Saturday, she had sex with her boyfriend, who is also 16. When she had gone out ...
A. 9 March 2008: Children generally hide these things because of fear. They're afraid of being rejected, of being judged and of having parents not understand them from their view. We look at it from an adult perspective, such as "you did what?" when they're looking ... (read in full...)
Would it be a bad idea to lose my virginity to my best friend considering a relationship is impossible due to the long distance?
Q. This might be a strange question, but I don't know who else to ask. I'm a virgin and it's only that way because I have some trust issues and want to lose it to someone that I actually trust and I know - not just some random guy at a party. I am ...
A. 9 March 2008: If it feels right do it. As long as afterward you can live knowing you don't have regrets by doing so.... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 March 2008: You know you are going to be okay. Reason being, your persistant in doing so. The problem in domestic violence is when does all this begin. Lets look at my story in where I was living in an abusive relationship for a year, I was not the abuser.
M... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to trust him or trust anyone.
Q. I've read your answers they were useful for me thank you so much people but I'm still confused. I just feel like a small girl who needs some one to hold her hands in order to know her way. I've asked him what made you remeber me now after a year ...
A. 7 March 2008: People can change. I'm sure you've hear the opposite. It is true that most attempt are unsuccessful, but there is reason behind that. Their intentions are not strong enough to be a foundation of creating life long change. There is only one ... (read in full...)
I keep breaking up with my boyfriend, getting back together, breaking up. It is a merry go round!
Q. i keep getting back with my ex and after a few days i either get bored,or find something in his behaviour that annoys me,and i tell him to break up..and later,i regret it and do the same!how can i stop this???...
A. 7 March 2008: Realize first that noone is perfect. I read a joke this morning that was to women about men. It said that a woman wants the perfect man who's wealthy, good looking, caring, etc., the law only allows one husband.
You're bouncing back and forth from... (read in full...)
I snooped and found out he cheated. How do I confront him on this?
Q. I am at a loss! I am in agony right now! I did something very bad and I know it. But he did something worse. My boyfriend accidentally left his email up on the computer and I know I should have just logged it out and ignored it. But I didnt. I ...
A. 7 March 2008: You should bring it up. It's not for glory in busting him. It's so you can move on with or without him. You can't go on always wondering. You found the truth, and this needs to be discussed so your agony and pain don't grow. Then you'll start ... (read in full...)
I gave him my virginity to later realise he was not planning to committ to anyone!
Q. Last year during the month of October I met somebody and evrything began to move fast between the two of us and at some points I wasn't really sure that that was a considerably good pace for us. Either way I went with the flow of thingfs and it was ...
A. 7 March 2008: You're not alone. I have 3 precious daughters myself, and I worry all the time that one day one of the love em and leave em types will come along, tell them what they want to hear, then disappear ofter their done. I recently talked with a female ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to move to another town so as not to embarass her family with the premarital pregnancy, but this would ruin our relationship because I cannot follow her! What to do??
Q. We were due to be married in April but girlfriend has since found out she is pregnant (12 weeks). She is afraid to tell her father and feels she will embarrass her family. She is having very negative thoughts about whether our marriage would last - ...
A. 7 March 2008: I don't know what country you're from. I only suplept for a couple of hours during the night so I really don't have the energy to look it up. I hope I don't cross cultural or religious boundaries with my answer.
We are talking about a baby here... (read in full...)
Completely lost: What should I be doing to help my wife deal with the knowledge of my cheating
Q. I am a married man with one child at home and my wife is currently 4 months along with our second. 2 Years ago I put myself in a situation and made poor choices that ended with me being unfaithful to her. One night with instant regret. I took the ...
A. 7 March 2008: It's about time you confessed. Guilt can completely consume your whole sense of self. A psychiatrist explained the process to me once when we were discussing how pain persists. He said, think of it like an abscess. It begins being stored in the ... (read in full...)
Does he still hav feelings for his daughter's mother?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for a year now. We live together and spend as much time together as possible between work and school. I love him and I know he loves me, but I'm afraid that he can't fully love me because in my ...
A. 7 March 2008: Having feelings for an ex is okay. In a way I love my childs mother. Not to be with her, but because she's a good mother and we have a child together. All though I'd consider us friends, I still keep our relationship "professional" on behalf of our ... (read in full...)
Would I get over her if she had left me alone after I broke up with her, or is she using psychology to keep me in her life by not letting go?
Q. It's been over a year since we started going out. Within that time, I broke up and made up with her, 3 or 4 times. She could never stop calling me or wanting to be with me and I would give in, and return. We knew each other for 10 years prior to ...
A. 6 March 2008: Now ask yourself this. If it was "true love", would you be asking this question now? Of course not, because you would know for sure. True love really doens't include anything other than what it is. If it was, it wouldn't be questioned.
She's not ... (read in full...)
Lonely Cryer...
Q. I'm 19 years old, and I need help. My boyfriend doesn't care about me anymore. I am pregnant with his child right now. All he does when he comes home from work is sit on the computer. Then it's bed time. That's it! And when we argue, he knows I go ...
A. 6 March 2008: I have to ask you why you're allowing him to treat you this way. It's your decisions how people treat you. If they can't meet those requirements, you can then make the choice not to be around them. I'd tell him when he talks to you that way that you ... (read in full...)
Am I gay or is it just my hormones?
Q. Ok, I'm sorry for the length of my question... I'm really confused and don't know what to do, I sometimes think I'm gay/bi but I just don't know! I've previously liked girls from school and at the moment I like one girl an awful lot! I also know ...
A. 5 March 2008: Personally, being a guy, I don't see anything special there. Women on the other hand are a symbol of beauty. The female body and having the ability to carry life and provide food to their babys is all beauty in it's design. I wouldn't worry a... (read in full...)
Is 'camel toe' looked down on?
Q. Is having 'camel toe' looked down on, or worse than being completely tight? Is it an insult?...
A. 5 March 2008: It generaly happens when you're not wearing proper pants to conform to your body's design. My ex's, I can't think of one that if they wore certain types or brands of pants they'd have one. ... (read in full...)
Why do I want my ex boyfriend back?
Q. i have been seperated from my ex for 5 years but i keep thinking of him i tingle when i see him and i feel that i want him however i am in a realationship and i have had a baby to push me away my ex lies about never loving me but we were together ...
A. 5 March 2008: You have a child now. Your decisions must be in the best interest of your child. What you do is going to be your decision. I'll tell you how I make my decisions. (1) What are the positives and negatives for my child. (2) What are the positives and ... (read in full...)
My husband is in the army and is going to Afghan, I'm worried about our daughters and the impact on them
Q. Hi cupids, I dont know if i'm just being silly here but.... Here's the deal i have been married for 4 years, my hubby is in the army and we have 2 kids (4 and 2). Thing is he is due to deploy to Afghan at the end of the year and i am so worr...
A. 5 March 2008: You're worried, which is natural. The best advise I can give on behalf of your kids is how you react while he's away. It'll be difficult, but remember kids sense emotions in their parents.... (read in full...)
My fiancee and I split up for a while, I then met someone else, but now back with my fiancee, who should I choose?
Q. So, the situation is as follows. i have been with my fiance for going on 4 years now, and i truly from the bottom of my heart, not a doubt in my mind, love him. i am totally prepared to spend the rest of my life with him, no questions asked. but ...
A. 5 March 2008: First, you're going to have to come clean. That's a must. You can't enter into a marriage with deceit.
you're right, your not a bad person, just making poor choices.
The other poster is absolutely right. You really don't know what you want. Un... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have been arguing...my guy friend is a great comfort...do I have feelings for him?
Q. I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I am in college and my present boyfriend goes to the same school as I do. We have been together for almost two years and we do have a very loving relationship. I know that he would do anything for me....
A. 5 March 2008: First lets look at the apparant issues. Your boyfriend needs to see a doctor. Has he ever been tested for a hyperactive disorder or ADHD. These as well are a causation for people to miss classes and act irrresponsible. With the hyperactivity, the ... (read in full...)
I seem to be treated badly wherever I go...What can I do to fit in better?
Q. im feeling down all the time as where ever i go and what ever sites i go on all i get is abuse with in town i get spat at and abused yelled at me if i try and reach out on the internet all i get is threats some that very scary i try and ask for help ...
A. 5 March 2008: If you could elaberate on this a bit more, it would be appreciated. The information give, really doesn't make sense in the manner it's been described. If you can give some examples of actual times and how it progressed into abuse, it would be ... (read in full...)
How can I get over someone whom I love, but who didn't really appreciate me?
Q. How do I get over him? My first love, my first everything! Of course I didn't want to end it, but I had to. You wouldn't believe the things he told me. He constantly nagged about my past... he knew an ex friend of mine who was abit friendlier....
A. 5 March 2008: You do deserve love, respect and appreciation. Why do you feel he should be the one that's suffering? Let me tell you this, and this goes for every happiness, sadness, anger and all other feelings you may have. They are yours. You own them. Here's ... (read in full...)
Am I being a good girlfriend or over-controlling when it comes to his marajuana use?
Q. Okay so, I am so unbelievably curious if I am a good girlfriend. Okay I have been dating this same guy for 8 months now, and I really do love him. This summer we are both planning to move in together and maybe get married later on. He can be so lo...
A. 5 March 2008: Should you compromise your beliefs? Nope. If you do, wouldn't you be infact living a lie yourself? If you begin compromising, you begin lowering your standards of what you are and are not willing to accept in a relationship.
It's great to hear you ... (read in full...)
We went on a few dates, and talk regularly...but she just told me she has a boyfriend! Help!
Q. Hello, There's this girl I like and I think she knows it. We been on a couple of dates and talk regularly. However, she recently told me that she has a boyfriend. I still haven't told her how I feel. What should I do? Thanks for your responses....
A. 5 March 2008: Let her go. Let's imagine you do tell her how you feel. She then dumps her man and goes with you, how long before you're sitting at home and she's out on a date with another man? She wasn't truthful with you, and would be a bad choice to persue.... (read in full...)
I feel scared and unable to make even the most normal of descisions...please help.
Q. I am in agony. My mind is spinning. I find myself torn as well. However, I have a forth wheel, a dance addiction. I have fallen for my dance partner. I know it sounds so tadry. History- - I have been in a great relationship for 5 years. He was perf...
A. 5 March 2008: Who knows what will happen. You left him for another person. I'm sure while he's taking a break, there are quite a few things going through his mind, and not just leaving the toilet seat up. That's what happens when you have something so wonderful, ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I can't cheat with her anymore?
Q. I made a huge mistake. My wife and I were having problems with our marriage and she complicated it further by having a few sexual encounters and a full blown emotional relationship. I became an angry person with an agenda to get even. I contacted an ...
A. 5 March 2008: I agree, you need to be honest with her. You also need to be honest with your wife. So for two years you had this affair? Having an affair is a poor solution. While having the affair two things remained. Your marriage still sucked and she was still ... (read in full...)
Serious After Sex Pain!!!
Q. Recently, I have just had sex with my boyfriend and since then all I want to do is go to the toilet and it hurts when I pee. I'm getting rather worried, I don't want anyone to know I'm not a virgin but I want to find out what's wrong and get ri...
A. 5 March 2008: The only way to find out is going to the doctor. There are so many things it can be. Without proper testing, you can't be sure what's going on.... (read in full...)
He says he has a personal demon. What's that mean?
Q. Iv been seeing this guy for a few months now but iv known him for almost 3yrs. Everything was great he was always playful and all over me. He never showed like anything was wrong. I was suppose to stay the nite wit him tommrow for the first time. We ...
A. 4 March 2008: Personal demon. Do you know if he's seeing anyone else? What about taking drugs or has an alcohol problem? A personal demon can mean many things. Anything negative in his life can be considered one. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 3 March 2008: She said she'll make you a big cookie. She's a good kid 13, and my little drama queen. She cooks when she visits because I tend to start fires, burn things. I burnt off my eye brows bbq'ing. She said I'm grounded from cooking.
Look at what he's done... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: You did good. You let him know you're not a toy he can just toss asside when he wants a variety. I'm proud of you for standing up to him and not caving in. (my daughter said you deserve a cookie.)
Standing up for yourself is a huge step in taki... (read in full...)
My over-protectiveness drove her away and now all I want to do is explain why.
Q. I split up with my gf cos she thought i was possesive, now theres nothing worse than a over protective boyfriend i know, and i have to admit that i was being over protective of her but i really didnt meant to be and it really tears me up what ...
A. 2 March 2008: You need to say the magic words, "I'm sorry". When it comes to a current relationship, she doesn't care what the past did to you. She cares what you do to her. You need to learn to treat people as individuals and not attach past events to future ... (read in full...)
Why do men return to a destructive relationship with an ex?
Q. I recently dated a guy for about a two months, and it was very intense from the beginning for both of us. He spoke of future possibilities, and I began to open up to them as well. He then got scared, which is understandable--as I was scared, too. ...
A. 2 March 2008: Understand this first. It’s not your fault. You can’t blame yourself for a decision someone else made. People in these relationships do this because they know their environment. They build their defenses around their environment. If you were too ... (read in full...)
We became very familiar, having constant communication - how to avoid (falling in love with) him as I am already married?
Q. I have met this guy in a Christian group and he was married with 3 children and from the conversation that we have his relationship with his wife was not good for a long time when he discover that her wife has another affair with someone. We are ...
A. 2 March 2008: You need to keep reminding yourself what's at stake. To avoid falling in love, you have to keep your "mental" priorities in line. And being part of the same Christian group, have faith. For me, it's simple. I live my life every day at home or away ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: As I've said before, this broken feeling that doesn't seem to disappear is not because of the guy who wasn't nice. Quite often we use the affections of someone to fulfill a void feeling within ourselves because another area of our sense of self ... (read in full...)
Six months into this marriage and it's very rocky...advice?
Q. married 6 months, husband is a christian, is so busy and works till 8 to 10 at night, sex life is as he needs it, romance is not good, he is constantly worried about money, the weekends come and we should be happy come mon through friday the ...
A. 1 March 2008: First of all, I am Christian also. I know enough to understand God is not going to come down and tell him, now kiss your wife, take her to bed and/or provide additional instruction. God is there for everyone, but isn't there to live our lives for ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 March 2008: I know it's not easy, and it's not going to be quickly fixed. Your feelings are out of need or desire. What I'm trying to get you to realize is to build your personal happiness. These feelings you have are wanting someone to "make" you happy. No one ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 25 February 2008: It fairly humerous when someone gets together with someone who's cheating is starts out as the other woman, then when it happens to them, they just can't figure out why he wouldn't treat them different than they did the last one. Can people change? ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 February 2008: First of all, make sure you file your response within the time the court has allowed, it's generall (at least here) 30 days from the date you receive the paperwork. Remember too, the response, if you do it prior to meeting with the solicitor, i... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 19 February 2008: Dang girl 40 smokes a day. I can't say much, on stressful days when I smoked, I'd do around that. You're right, being in an emotionally abusive relationship it's sometimes difficult for the person in it to see. These guys use subtle changes, then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: I know you're in pain and hurting. If I could waive a wand and erase it, I would. I'm not sorry I went through what I had. If I never experienced it, I probably wouldn't be her talking to you. I didn't begin learning about behaviors becuase I ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: U where wrong, give my watch and hat to the cat???? Now you're not in the wrong, just like the cat can't wear a watch, unless it's got some muscular legs.
Do you understand what manipulation and intimidation is? It's an act. A conscious choice to u... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 15 February 2008: Your mom is correct, but tell her from me that if it's true love and meant to be, then your treated as if you are.
Take care, and if you need anything let me know... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 14 February 2008: Sorry you're having a hard time. Remember this is your life. He wasn't respecting it or who you are. It's not a matter of wanting to date, or be with someone, it's the principle of you being treated well, and not accepting anything less than that. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 13 February 2008: Your welcome, I hope everything works out for you. Anytime you need to chat, just let me know. Take care.... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 12 February 2008: I have to agree with the other poster. The guy who asked you out, go have dinner or coffee. You need to get out for a little while, it will do you good.
Take a nice walk or just sit outside with something to drink and just enjoy the beauty arou... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: It's all about keeping personal strength. You have to remind yourself that you are a better person than to accept being mistreated by others. The name of my CD is "Everybody's Somebody's Child" That idea stems from treating others as you would ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: Thank your for the kind words. Take care of yourself, and feel free to ask anytime you need someone to talk to or advice. ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 February 2008: Great, have your son contact me on here, I'll let him know you give your permission to toss your phone in the river.
Let me ask you this. If you didn't have your phone, would that stop you, or would you find another way?
Do you believe life... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 February 2008: Remember the story of the "boy who cried wolf". He lied to you prior too. You knew he had lied, so where did his credibility go with you believing what he says? I'm in law as a profession. With a judge if one lie is proved, the judge can then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: I know it hurts. If it didn't it would be a happy ending. Not everything ends happily, but even those that don't we learn something from them. I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for the good time and the bad times. I have learned so much off ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Thank you for the compliment hlskitten.
Now you're right, you don't deserve to be treated that way. He wants to talk about respect, but doesn't carry respect for you. I don't recall anytime when putting his pen in another girls ink was consider... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Sorry to hear about your pain. It's for reasons like this I remain single and plan to do so "till death do I part", unless someone comes a long that I just can't pass up. lol Now when he says he misses you tell him "I bet you say this to all the ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 November 2007: Your doing what's right. I hope your strength keeps building. I know it's hard sometimes around the holidays to be alone. Before I got custody of my children. I would eat Christmas dinner alone at a diner. But other than that, being alone was OK. I ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 September 2007: I am soooo glad to hear you are moving on with your life. It's better for you and your son. You don't want him growing up imitating his dad's behavior. You are a wonderful person and someone who really loves their child and plans to put him first. I ... (read in full...)
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