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writes:I am 28 years old and am 4'10" and weigh about 95 lbs and my chest is rather small....is that a big deal for men? My husband says he doesn't care and that I'm perfect, but is he telling the truth? He's always told me that he is a "butt" man and I guess that could be true, because I've checked the computer to see what porn he was watching and alot were "butts" never boobs. I am so self conscious about them and I don't feel like a "woman." I've been made fun of by family members (mine and my husband's) and I feel so bad about it. Is the size of a woman's breasts such a big deal to men? Unfortunately I would never consider getting breast implants!!
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reader, Asexy +, writes (13 May 2008):
 More than a mouthful is a waste. You sound perfect to me!
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reader, JesseENG +, writes (5 May 2008):
boobs are boobs! who cares if they are big or small. be happy with yourself and what youve got!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAww, thanks Oldfool. I probably am more critical of myself than my husband is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all for your responses. LJ, My mother too was fully developed as a young girl and she too has a rather large size cup and I always wondered what happened to me..lol. I am a size 32A, and I hate it. There are lots of tops I cannot wear because I don't fill out the top part and even with my VS bras. I definitely understand what you are saying....my younger cousin is a C cup and she isn't the happiest either. She wishes she were a bit smaller because she says before she was married, guys were only interested in looking at her chest. But I still wish I had a little more than a handful. I know that I have to try and accept what I was given, but it's hard at times. My sister-n-law is just as tiny as me as far as height and weight. She just had a breast implant and went to a size D cup, which I think is going to look ridiculous on her being that she is so tiny, so I worry that my husband is going to be all eyes on her now. It really sux being a woman today and I just wish that I didn't have to worry about this nonsense.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (5 May 2008):
 I'm not going to add much except to say:
I LOVE SMALL BREASTS!
They are so pert and sexy. Plus, I love to concentrate on nipples, and don't ask me why, but nipples on small breasts are so much more fun to stimulate. Somehow, nipples on small breasts seem much more responsive and "manipulable" -- don't know how to explain it!
As they say, what you can't fit in your hand is wasted. I just love to run my hands over small breasts and feel that sexy swelling... AAAAH!
Sorry, got carried away there. Just to let you know that your husband has impeccable taste!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): I can totally understand how you feel, but you've got to listen to your husband.
I'm a 32E and still a teenager, and frankly, sometimes I feel like people look at me like a whore, rather than a woman. Yes, curves can be womanly but they can also just be over the top.
Believe it or not, a lot of men do prefer smaller chests, as (like your husband) are more bothered about butts or legs. Big boobs are a cliche really, so relax, and trust what your husband tells you.
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reader, rcn +, writes (2 May 2008):
 I'd listen to your husband. To him you are the perfect woman. It depends on the man and what they are looking for. As far as people making fun of you, tell them to find something more productive to keep them busy than to worry about the size of your chest. Think of it this way, 20 years down the road, when they have to pick theirs up off their laps when they stand up, they won't be doing much making fun of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): I imagine that if your husband thought you were anything other than perfect he wouldn't have married you unless it was a 'shotgun' wedding.
If he says you're perfect for him, believe that.
My partner is equipped with a pair of A's and I adore them. Anything more than a mouthful is wasted, right? generally speaking, those with big tits also have big arses. Be content with what you've got, because that's all you're ever natuarally going to have.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 Breast size does matter to some men, just as the color of your eyes, or the shape of your legs, et cetera, does matter. There are personal preferences, that's undeniable. But your question should not be whether breast size matters to "men" in general, but whether it matters to your husband. Indeed, I think that's the real question you're asking.
That question can be answered in a general manner: men don't have the same preferences. We are so many and we like so many different things. But that doesn't help you, I guess.
It can also be answered this way: your husband likes you as you are. Period. It doesn't matter whether your breasts are of a certain size.
I also find that Baby Duck hit the nail. I would worry less about a woman with small "something" than about a woman who complains all the time and is insecure.
Just don't worry! I will tell you the same thing that men are told: whatever you got, that's all you got. Use it right!
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reader, JustaGuy  +, writes (2 May 2008):
butts rule :P
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reader, Isabella1974  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 its true, i have big boobs and at times, its impossible to fine clothes that fit you on top, i am slim everywhere else, so i see something i like, it fits great everywhere then it comes to my boobs and then i have to put it back as it does not fit on top, dont worry to much about your boobs sweetheart, its not the be all and end all. Anyhow, if you want to enhance a bit there are lots of bras these days that can enhance you cleavage without getting surgery done. Not all men like bigger boobs, i know a guy who is totally a booty man, and he could not care less how big a womans boobs were, so believe your husband. Be happy with what you have and enjoy life. hope this helps xx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 May 2008):
 You need to learn to accept what you have got if you dont want them enlarged. Your husband chose you and married you with little boobs so he obviously loves them too. Not all men like them big. A lot of women with big ones want smaller ones and vice versa and a lot are totally happy with what they have. You can have some of mine they're enormous and I loathe them its a nightmare getting clothes to fit as if they fit the boobs they are too big everywhere else. So make the most of what other features you have and concentrate on showing them off and stop worrying about your boobies x
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 You know this comes up a lot and just as I went home I was thinking about the question and how the media shows us woman are supposed to be big breasted as small breasted women often claim.
So I looked at mannequins, the puppet kind in shop windows and do you know what I saw. B-cups and A-cups. NO C's and most certainly nothing larger.
Odd that isn't it. That the perfect body designed to sell clothes has small breasts.
You don't mention what your breast size is and it could be that you are one of the rare women who really do have small breasts BUT your boyfriend loves you? Then he likes them and what else matters? Breasts (well the bit that is permanently swollen anyway) are there to attract mates. You attracted a mate, mission accomplished.
Yes, for some men boobs are a huge deal just as some women are obsessed about the size of the penis. To most men, no, it ain't a big deal. We take the complete package, as it is. Of course there are exceptions and yes some people, especially women, can make horrible remarks about it, but the same is true about penis sizes. Now answer this question.
If you boyfriend has say 3.5 inches (well below average but still considered enough for meaningful intercourse) would that matter to you or would you dump him for a 7 incher (way above average)?
Most women would say no and penis size is often linked to sexual pleasure. Boob size isn't. In fact some claim that smaller ones are more sensitive.
So why do women find it so hard to accept that for most men breast size on their partner really ain't that big a deal? Certainly not enough to desire her to cut them open and shove plastic into them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's right....I am asking for other people's out take on this subject, isn't that what this site is for? A woman's breast size is absolutely a big factor to feeling like a woman and I'm sure I am not alone here and I'm sure there are many woman out there with the same feelings. Whether it is right or wrong that's how it is. I actually have never and do not talk to my husband about my breast size. He has no idea that I feel the way I feel and it will be kept that way. All I want to know (from a male preferably or a more compassionate female) does a woman's breast size really matter to a man?
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reader, stuck in love +, writes (2 May 2008):
Your husband married you because he loves you. And if he says he doesn't care, then more than likely he doesn't. Everybody has their preferences, some like butts, some like boobs, so don't let what other people say or think about you get you down on yourself. You are a woman whether you have a big chest or not, and you should feel proud of your body. How would you feel if you knew your husband only married you for your chest if you were larger? You would feel like an object to him, so don't let it get to you. I am sure you are beautiful the way you are!
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