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I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).
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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
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My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 March 2009: Best of Luck to you. Take care. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 4 March 2009: So, what's going on. Seems like you have a lot of anger built up. You're a nice lady, and I enjoy chatting with you, and I believe during that time you've been warned time and time again to stay clear of this person.
The thing about people chan... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 July 2008: Hasn't your solicitor heard of a continuance. You have the right to be hard in all matters of law.
After these decisions are made, do you have a higher court to appeal the ruling of a lower court? I don't believe your solicitor did a job the best... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 July 2008: Sounds like you're doing better, as a manner of speaking. Your right it doesn't look good to the judge to drag out court.
Just a bit of warning. Seeing someone prior to the end of the divorce can be used in court as well. Legal marriage, is lega... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 June 2008: That's what you need to concentrate on. As far as his taking the solicitor out to lunch and such. Violation of ethics. People here get their licenses taken away or suspended for those behaviors.
Keep a calendar of all issues. Everytime he cance... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 May 2008: If you can establish proof of his dating his solicitor, that should establish a conflict of interest, which would pull her off the case, and may cause issues with her ability to continue law.
I woulnd't accept less than what you feel you dese... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 May 2008: If he seeks an injunction, a hearing should be set to answer to it. If his calls were done by home phone, have your phone company pull a copy of those records which show his phone calls to you. If they are done by cell phone, your bill should ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for your wished. We're still doing well. I have my guitars. I can play them anytime, and they don't say no or talk back. lol
Did you see how the United Nations were forced to stop aid to the Asian country who the cyclone hit? They atte... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: your welcome. I get lonely from time to time as well. Then remembering the actions and hurt people do to others snaps me right out of that thought of being with someone. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 May 2008: So you called him, and now know the truth about it not working out. What do you feel you need to do now? I suggest focusing on you. The problem I've seen is you're dependent. It seems as is you need someone there to "make" you happy. To help you ... (read in full...)
Do you have to be swept off your feet by a person right off the bat for them to be a great match?
Q. Do you have to be swept off your feet by a person right off the bat for them to be a great match? I've been dating a guy for a few weeks now. I'm looking to start a serious relationship, so I don't want to waste any time with someone I don't ...
A. 1 May 2008: Try approaching your relationship in a different manner. You said you like him enough, so why have this additional expectation? Fairytail relationships are nice. Anyone can have one. It takes two, but it has to be created. Just like in a movie. It ... (read in full...)
He won't go down on me anymore, he says we are too old, what gives?
Q. My husband wont go down on me anymore. We have been together for 14 yrs. He says we are not kids any more, he is 32 i am 35. I would be willing to give him a bj but he has never liked them. I dont orgasm from intercourse only clitoral stimulation. ...
A. 30 April 2008: Has his brother received any punishment for his actions? I could see where he's see getting a BJ is a dirty act. Something that induces pain on others. Boy, how trauma survives the ages.
We hear so often of how women are molested, men too ofte... (read in full...)
He won't go down on me anymore, he says we are too old, what gives?
Q. My husband wont go down on me anymore. We have been together for 14 yrs. He says we are not kids any more, he is 32 i am 35. I would be willing to give him a bj but he has never liked them. I dont orgasm from intercourse only clitoral stimulation. ...
A. 30 April 2008: Is he in the grave already or what?
I'm 36, and that's still the best part of sex. Maybe he needs a different view. Sex in marriage is not only about the act. It's an expression of love. So if he's saying you're too old, he's saying the expressi... (read in full...)
She wont sleep with a married man, what do I do?
Q. I have been somewhat happily married for almost 9 yrs. now. I love my wife very very much, however we rarely have sex anymore due to wife's lack of interest! I have talked, begged, pleaded, and have done everything I know to do to help her "get in ...
A. 30 April 2008: First of all, permission from your wife. Now as far as with this divorced women, I don't think it will be with her. With her beliefs in not wanting to be with a married man, it would be malicious and vindictive to attempt to convince her otherwise. ... (read in full...)
His friends and family think I'm wonderful so why is he so hurtful?
Q. Advice please! My guy grew up in the town we live in. I did not - He and I have been together three years - He tells some I am his girlfriend he tells others we are just friends everyone thinks we are husband and wife! I am not even sure what we are ...
A. 28 April 2008: It is psychological. You are the receiver, and he is the cause. Why do you need to know about his ex's? Does knowing about them provide a positive impact on your relationship with him? If his comments are not for the positive growth of the ... (read in full...)
Commitment, personal issues, past-- how to not lose her
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 months now, she recently has broken it off with me, but still gives me signs that she doesnt want to leave. we moved in together after 2 months, she stayed with me while she looked for a place and even...
A. 28 April 2008: I know coming on here, some are looking for a way to easily fix their situations. Some are much harder than others. To be honest with you, I believe you have one of the more difficult situations.
I don't believe what's going on has much to do with... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 April 2008: No, I don't recall that song, but when I was a teen, I'd watch the "Flying Circus." It was late night, had to sneak down to the tv to watch it, or mom and dad would get up (busted).
I know some times I ramble. I get on a thought pattern and just... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to lose the urge to want to be intimate with my boyfriend of 7 years, and I find myself attracted to a young lady in the net! What to do?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we've been living together for the past 7 years. i love him, and am very used to have him in my life, but i'm beginning to lose the urge to want to get intimate with him. we're very busy with our work...sometimes we don't even ...
A. 26 April 2008: Emotional affairs are cheating. People often have a desire for what they know they can't have. From cars to homes to people, it happens all the time. Many women fantasize about being with a woman. That's normal. Remember that intimacy is a creation. ... (read in full...)
Why are all these catty bitches getting on my sh*t about my boyfriend? He said we'd get back together!
Q. okay, well my problem is that me and my bf broke up like 2 weeks ago, but thats beside the point. He told me that once he gets school and baseball fixed (we broke up due to him not focusing on school work and feelings did change for us) we are 14.. ...
A. 26 April 2008: There are two types of bullies. Men, who do so physically, and women who do so mentally. Let these girls know, if he makes that choice, you'll know when you see it. Until then, they need to worry about themselves and not so much with what you're ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 26 April 2008: Rape is an action that should not exist. One of the most damaging actions that can take place, weather in family or not. Ten years is crap. I guess that depends. I saw a show last night on prison, where many sexual criminals are killed before being ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date or have a sexual relationship with your cousin?
Q. I haven't seen my second cousin in 28 years and she a complete knock out. I asked her if she wanted to do lunch and she accepted. We did lunch. I'm just not sure if it's okay to continue this fraternizing. We talk a lot with each other. We have good ...
A. 26 April 2008: check in the state you live. most states it is unlawful if first cousin. ... (read in full...)
I am not sure how to say goodbye to his daughter. I really like the kid, and will miss her.
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend. When we got together, he was still very involved with his ex-girlfriend, they were sleeping together, he was paying her rent, he would compliment me and say "but C can never know that I said that." He told me that ...
A. 26 April 2008: If these areas are difficult for you to handle, I'd advise not getting into relationships with people who have children. I agree with the other poster that it's okay to remain friends with the girl. If you decide to say goodbye, no matter how it's ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband's brother and wife invite us to their parties? Is it because of me??
Q. My husband's brother and his wife never invite us anywhere. They have parties and get togethers and we aren't invited. I personally think it is because I used to date a guy that is in their "circle", but what is odd is that they were never frie...
A. 26 April 2008: You should ask them. That's the only way to really get the true answer.
One thought though. Stop talking about your ex. This issue is you're not being invited. Don't make it more complicated to assume your ex has something to do with that fact... (read in full...)
I feel really depressed my boyfriend is in jail!
Q. Ok well my problem is with my boyfriend. He's gone to jail for basically being in the wrong place at the wrong time. His friend stabbed a guy and my boyfriend was there, but he didnt do anything, and now he refuses to say his friend did it. I dont't ...
A. 26 April 2008: I'd get a message to him to tell him to come clean and be truthful, before he's in worse trouble. He could be charged with being an accessory, which if convicted, could be given up to equal penalty as his friend. ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 April 2008: I know this is hard for you to deal with. Working with people who have been through divorce and seeing the after affects, it's heart breaking. I can't figure out your question either of how someone can act or live as if they love and care for ... (read in full...)
I'm married and recently had sex with another man. Will continuing this ruin my life?
Q. I am in an extremely happy and stable marriage. A few months ago, my husband out-of-the-blue suggested that since he had experienced many women before we started dating and that he was my one and only, that I should be able to now sleep with other ...
A. 26 April 2008: We tend to do what is important to us, but going beyond that, I have a simple way of being that I try to pass on to my children as well. "It's okay to live, and be happy, but it's never okay knowingly do something that may have the possability of ... (read in full...)
Now that my boyfriend changed his password I don't even want to see him! Why?
Q. Since my boyfriend change his cell phone password, it got me thinking that he is hidding something from me or he is cheating on me. That situation make me think act different when I'm with him, every time I see him or with him, it get me wonder. ...
A. 20 April 2008: The difference here is entitlement. Are you entitled to it? All though you are not, you're treating him poorly based on your perception of how you want it to go. Just because you want these things, doesn't mean he's required to give them to you. He ... (read in full...)
Now that my boyfriend changed his password I don't even want to see him! Why?
Q. Since my boyfriend change his cell phone password, it got me thinking that he is hidding something from me or he is cheating on me. That situation make me think act different when I'm with him, every time I see him or with him, it get me wonder. ...
A. 19 April 2008: Because your controlling. Why should you have access to his cell phone. If you don't trust him, you shouldn't be with him in the first place. You're treating him like crap over something you have no right too. You either trust or you don't. If you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is getting tired of my weeping, how do I overcome this?
Q. Ok, here's my problem: Ever since I was a little girl, I've been a "weeper". The thing is, I cry about a lot of things! When people argue with me, I cry. When people said mean stuff to me as a girl, I cried. My mom always told me I was too weak, ...
A. 19 April 2008: First, dump the looser. He's not with you for you. If someone demands change, they're trying to redevelop who you really are. Not healthy. If he succeeded here, what would he want changed next?
Overcoming this is all within you. It deals with pers... (read in full...)
How can I ease my mind about my boyfriend going out of town? I feel so selfish!
Q. My BF may be going away for a weekend (in like 2 more weeks) to some far away city, with his friends and classmates, for some school trip. They're going to be in these meetings with experts about psychology (he's in the Psychology program in his ...
A. 19 April 2008: Think about this question, "what if he does?" People are together because they choose to be. People are faithful because they choose to be. They're not obligated too be with the other person. If he we're to cheat, that's a decision he'd make, but ... (read in full...)
I'm married and recently had sex with another man. Will continuing this ruin my life?
Q. I am in an extremely happy and stable marriage. A few months ago, my husband out-of-the-blue suggested that since he had experienced many women before we started dating and that he was my one and only, that I should be able to now sleep with other ...
A. 19 April 2008: It could affect all, or it may not. Remember passion and lust are not love, and have nothing to do with it. I live my life in a very simple way. I'm a single parent, and I only take part in activities I can openly discuss with my children. If I took ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 19 April 2008: The first piece of advice anyone one law gives is to not speak to the other person. Speak through your legal professionals. Reason being, "anything you say can be used against you in court." Couples who split up can get into some heated arguments. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, but I have future plans that he can't be involved with.
Q. I'm dating a 25 year old man and i'm 17. I am in love with him, but secretly i don't want to be with him forever, because i have future plans that he can't be in. He has a beautiful daughter who I love and see as my own, and i truly don't want to h...
A. 13 April 2008: and what are these future plans?
it's not proper to keep someone lingering. he has a child to think about. i know when i had a child, there was no more room for dating games. the child and their emotional well being comes first. make your dec... (read in full...)
My friend who's been always lying for attention may become home-schooled soon, should I influence her decision?
Q. My Friend is a complete fantasist. She has always been a fantasist scince we were young kids. As time moved on and we went to secondary school she began to struggle socialy and came out with outrageous lies for attention. Lies like "she'd been...
A. 12 April 2008: It may be time to let her go. A different environment may be what she needs. Someone who needs attentions to this extreme needs help beyond school too. She needs to sort her emotions, and learn techniques to do so. With this untruthful behavior, I'd ... (read in full...)
What should I say for him to trust me again? (I lied in the past.)
Q. hi all...my boyfriend cant seem to trust me because i lied to him in the past we got in a huge fight about 4 months ago and he caught me in a lie about who i was with and ive told him that im sorry and that ill do anything to get his trust back but ...
A. 12 April 2008: Prove to him by speaking truth and proving truth by your actions.... (read in full...)
Still, a year on and I'm comparing potential daters to her, what should I do?
Q. I am a 25 year old male that has had a few substantial relationships in my day, but my last "girlfriend" simply stays implanted in my head. As we dated I found myself falling more and more deeply in love with her, but she didn't feel the same way. ...
A. 12 April 2008: Your doing this as an attempt to pick up where you left off with your ex. When we have strong feelings, we don't want to change the situation with a chance our feelings may be less than they are.
Treat people as individuals. The relation... (read in full...)
I put her "under pressure" to join my church and now she need "space"!
Q. my fiancee and i were going to get married. we had a blissful relationship the only problem is i put her under pressure to join my church and gave her an ultimatum she wanted a break for a while to think and i involved her family now she h...
A. 12 April 2008: First lets look at this realistically. Are relationships to include pressures, or are they to enhance the quality of the person they all ready are? A relationship with God, or lack of is personal, and should be left as a personal choice, without any ... (read in full...)
How do you start a chat with someone you have never spoke to before?
Q. if u want to start talkin to a guy you have never spoken to..how do u go about it?no common class or study in the same college but we meet rarely so when i do how do i initiate the talk???...
A. 12 April 2008: It's simple, open mouth and words come out. lol How about, HI. that's usually a good way. I say hi to everyone. If you're standing close to him, pick something you'd both know about. Something at the school that's interesting.
I met this lady in ... (read in full...)
I dream about my (older) ex, feeling lonely and empty as people my age are not as interested. Should I forget my ex? (parents disagreed to the relation)
Q. ok, about 6 months ago i was in a relationship with a 25 yr old guy when i was 15. we didnt do anything sexual or anyhting stupid, huggin and kissing was it. anyway my parents found out and now wer arent allowed to have contact with each otha at ...
A. 12 April 2008: I will have to agree and disagree with the other poster. I agree that 15 is a bit young to be seeking relationships with a 25 year old man.
The reason I have to disagree is the research I've done on cases of self esteem issues relating to trou... (read in full...)
My friend's partner treats her miserably but she says she can't leave because she loves him. What could I advise her?
Q. i have a friend who i dearly love as my sister, shes having so much problems in her relationship that i dont know where to begin.. but says she's curious thats hes cheating on her,explains that her partner always comes home from work stays for only ...
A. 12 April 2008: Keep reminding her how important she is, and how she deserves better, and could find better. It seems as if we have hookers who get treated with more respect than she's being treated.
What else in certain situations does get the person thin... (read in full...)
She's now married with kids, but She said when she comes into town we could have sex.
Q. I've known this girl for about 8 yrs, I've had feelings for her for about 8 yrs as well. She too has feelings for me, unfortunately we had lost contact at one point in time, and she ended up with someone else. She is now married with kids. She move...
A. 11 April 2008: All though the marriage is not great and he's cheating. To compromise personal morality says that area of moral belief didn't exist in the first place. True beliefs are 24/7, not changing according to the different situations. ... (read in full...)
She's now married with kids, but She said when she comes into town we could have sex.
Q. I've known this girl for about 8 yrs, I've had feelings for her for about 8 yrs as well. She too has feelings for me, unfortunately we had lost contact at one point in time, and she ended up with someone else. She is now married with kids. She move...
A. 11 April 2008: I agree with Doc. Maybe we you can give her a couple of pictures of you so the kids know who was involved in their parents splitting.
You do understand, as a fore warning. (1) People have been killed over sleeping with someone's wife. I reme... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin even though he didnt break me?
Q. hi, yesterday i decided to have sex for the first time, i wanted to, the guy i tried to have it with i love so much, but when he tried to put it up it just wouldnt go in, even still i bled and it really hurt, am i still a virgin even though he didnt ...
A. 11 April 2008: No more virgin for you. Not all hymen "breaking" are noticeable when it happens. ... (read in full...)
Tell me what I'm supposed to do, I feel as tho' I'm in Limbo.
Q. What should I do now? My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. It started off really well, Then a major problem at work put a toll on our relationship. My ex-boss was determined to get rid of me and went through great length...
A. 11 April 2008: Both of you need to realize, a relationship doesn't sit on autopilot and everything ends up okay. Everything within your relationship is created by both of you. If you want a good relationship, create it. If you don't, keep doing what you've been ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends ex girlfreind is pregnant with his kid what should I do??
Q. I need help. Me an my boyfrind have been together for five months and we love each other so much. But he just found out from his ex from ten months ago that she just had a baby and it might be his. Please help me and give me some advice on what sho...
A. 11 April 2008: Only a paternity test will tell. This child, if his, is his responsability. It's your decision if you're ready to be with someone who no longer has all the options and freedoms they had before. ... (read in full...)
Should I continue staying at his mother's or go back home and listen to my dad and his wife argue all the time?
Q. Hello everyone. I have a huge problem. I'm in a relationship with the father of my daughter. Due to financial problems I had to move in into my fathers house. He lives with his mom. we both cannot afford to get a place of our own. So I have been...
A. 11 April 2008: To this issue, where is safer for your child. Tell your boyfriend a child always comes before hanging with friends. I bet when he's there, you're still the one who's caring for the child a majority of the time. He needs to grow up. I'm a single ... (read in full...)
What can I do about feeling super horny?
Q. I need advice.... Nowadays i get really really super horny. I dont think its hormones. I know alot of diffrent ways to masturbate. But i find it to be unsatisfying. Even when relaxed and empty minded. Btw i'm 14 years old and been masturbating since ...
A. 11 April 2008: Dang girl 4 years masterbating without a break, no wonder why you had your music taken from you. Now you can spend quality family time. I didn't think Prince was still around. Learn something knew every day.
Why don't you think it's the horm... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 April 2008: Reading that letter I thought about two areas of concern. First, it's designed to cause guilt. Second, it's written without taking personal responsability for his actions. Every part of his apology was directed toward placing blame on people, or on ... (read in full...)
My Dad is mean and abusive and I don't want to live with him anymore. What should I do?
Q. hello, i have a question to ask, iam a 28 year old woman still living at home with my parents we dont live in our country. Unfortunately my dad is not really good to live with, he is a liar when you get into an arguement with him he twists your w...
A. 10 April 2008: Are you able to get married without his blessing? Is sounds like you're in quite a situation. I want you to understand this. No matter what your dad has said or done, you are the person you decide to become, not the negative person he claims.
I... (read in full...)
He ignored me, so I kissed another guy. Now he wont forgive me.
Q. i often meet my friend's friends and i met this one guy. after a few times of meeting him i got a bit drunk and kissed him. we hadn't really been friends before this but we met up a few times after and i really liked him. one day i invited him out ...
A. 10 April 2008: All you can do is be sincere in your apology. A hint for the future, kissing someone else to get attention from the other person is not the best way in dealing with the issue. All it does is compiles where you have the issue with him, than created ... (read in full...)
I love him, but more as a friend/brother than anything else. Our sex life declined after our second child was born. Any solutions?
Q. I've been married for almost 13 years now... and have three daughters. Ever since we had our second child which was only 2 years into our marriage our sex life has declined. Back then if we had sex once a month it was a good thing.... now we can ...
A. 9 April 2008: What I find to be real crazy, but not surprising is how many relationships and marriages are going on right now, where the participants have absolutely no idea what they're doing. They have no clue about what makes a good relationships, or the ... (read in full...)
She's now married with kids, but She said when she comes into town we could have sex.
Q. I've known this girl for about 8 yrs, I've had feelings for her for about 8 yrs as well. She too has feelings for me, unfortunately we had lost contact at one point in time, and she ended up with someone else. She is now married with kids. She move...
A. 7 April 2008: Your last paragraph is true, but that's not the way it happened. It's okay to miss her, but really how would sex change that. I will say, you might be greatful she went the direction she did. She's married, with children, and willing to have sex ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 April 2008: We didn't get hired for filming. I think we applied too late. That's okay, still had a great time with the kids.
If he does show up, kick him in the ________, and tell him you think you just saw a ghost run by and nailed him in his twins. ... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 March 2008: Its hard when feeling alone. Then we ponder on could of would of should of. I use meditation as a form of relaxation and for stress relief.
What needs to happen in learning to really let go. Healing can't begin as long as you have this tight grip... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 11 March 2008: You're right, he's not a good person. Sending his a card, all though a polite gesture, is still holding on. I wish my ex's happy birthday, but we're also on good speaking terms without any intention past a birthday wish on either side.
Wish us luck... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 March 2008: I'm glad everything is working out for you. I can see where your solicitor is coming from. I'm in law as well and hoping to begin in family law. My two big pet peeves in family law are adultry and any lack of responsability on the best interest of ... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 March 2008: You know you are going to be okay. Reason being, your persistant in doing so. The problem in domestic violence is when does all this begin. Lets look at my story in where I was living in an abusive relationship for a year, I was not the abuser.
M... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 3 March 2008: She said she'll make you a big cookie. She's a good kid 13, and my little drama queen. She cooks when she visits because I tend to start fires, burn things. I burnt off my eye brows bbq'ing. She said I'm grounded from cooking.
Look at what he's done... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: You did good. You let him know you're not a toy he can just toss asside when he wants a variety. I'm proud of you for standing up to him and not caving in. (my daughter said you deserve a cookie.)
Standing up for yourself is a huge step in taki... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: As I've said before, this broken feeling that doesn't seem to disappear is not because of the guy who wasn't nice. Quite often we use the affections of someone to fulfill a void feeling within ourselves because another area of our sense of self ... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 March 2008: I know it's not easy, and it's not going to be quickly fixed. Your feelings are out of need or desire. What I'm trying to get you to realize is to build your personal happiness. These feelings you have are wanting someone to "make" you happy. No one ... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 25 February 2008: It fairly humerous when someone gets together with someone who's cheating is starts out as the other woman, then when it happens to them, they just can't figure out why he wouldn't treat them different than they did the last one. Can people change? ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 February 2008: First of all, make sure you file your response within the time the court has allowed, it's generall (at least here) 30 days from the date you receive the paperwork. Remember too, the response, if you do it prior to meeting with the solicitor, i... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 19 February 2008: Dang girl 40 smokes a day. I can't say much, on stressful days when I smoked, I'd do around that. You're right, being in an emotionally abusive relationship it's sometimes difficult for the person in it to see. These guys use subtle changes, then ... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: I know you're in pain and hurting. If I could waive a wand and erase it, I would. I'm not sorry I went through what I had. If I never experienced it, I probably wouldn't be her talking to you. I didn't begin learning about behaviors becuase I ... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: U where wrong, give my watch and hat to the cat???? Now you're not in the wrong, just like the cat can't wear a watch, unless it's got some muscular legs.
Do you understand what manipulation and intimidation is? It's an act. A conscious choice to u... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 15 February 2008: Your mom is correct, but tell her from me that if it's true love and meant to be, then your treated as if you are.
Take care, and if you need anything let me know... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 14 February 2008: Sorry you're having a hard time. Remember this is your life. He wasn't respecting it or who you are. It's not a matter of wanting to date, or be with someone, it's the principle of you being treated well, and not accepting anything less than that. ... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 13 February 2008: Your welcome, I hope everything works out for you. Anytime you need to chat, just let me know. Take care.... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 12 February 2008: I have to agree with the other poster. The guy who asked you out, go have dinner or coffee. You need to get out for a little while, it will do you good.
Take a nice walk or just sit outside with something to drink and just enjoy the beauty arou... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: It's all about keeping personal strength. You have to remind yourself that you are a better person than to accept being mistreated by others. The name of my CD is "Everybody's Somebody's Child" That idea stems from treating others as you would ... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: Thank your for the kind words. Take care of yourself, and feel free to ask anytime you need someone to talk to or advice. ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 February 2008: Great, have your son contact me on here, I'll let him know you give your permission to toss your phone in the river.
Let me ask you this. If you didn't have your phone, would that stop you, or would you find another way?
Do you believe life... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 February 2008: Remember the story of the "boy who cried wolf". He lied to you prior too. You knew he had lied, so where did his credibility go with you believing what he says? I'm in law as a profession. With a judge if one lie is proved, the judge can then ... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: I know it hurts. If it didn't it would be a happy ending. Not everything ends happily, but even those that don't we learn something from them. I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for the good time and the bad times. I have learned so much off ... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Thank you for the compliment hlskitten.
Now you're right, you don't deserve to be treated that way. He wants to talk about respect, but doesn't carry respect for you. I don't recall anytime when putting his pen in another girls ink was consider... (read in full...)
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Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Sorry to hear about your pain. It's for reasons like this I remain single and plan to do so "till death do I part", unless someone comes a long that I just can't pass up. lol Now when he says he misses you tell him "I bet you say this to all the ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 November 2007: Your doing what's right. I hope your strength keeps building. I know it's hard sometimes around the holidays to be alone. Before I got custody of my children. I would eat Christmas dinner alone at a diner. But other than that, being alone was OK. I ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 September 2007: I am soooo glad to hear you are moving on with your life. It's better for you and your son. You don't want him growing up imitating his dad's behavior. You are a wonderful person and someone who really loves their child and plans to put him first. I ... (read in full...)
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