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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been supporting my boyfriend financially for three years now, to the point I lend his mom money because she can't manage her own money. I don't want to break up with him because he stuck with me through very difficult times, but when I tell him to find a job he gets very angry with me. I'm hurt confused and angry, but I don't know what to do, because if I leave him I literally will have nobody. I have no family and no true friends still I know I deserve better. Any suggestions. I can use them.
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reader, rcn +, writes (12 May 2008):
 You do deserve better. If he really loved you or at lease respected you, why would he be angry when you ask him to assit financially?
Because you feel as if you have no one, you're willing to live a compromised life? This falls within how you feel about yourself, and the treatment you're willing to accept. He's using you, but not requiring him to do different, you're in a way teaching him to do so. Of course, I bet that teaching began with his mom.
His behaivor is wrong, but yours is too for allowing this mistreatment of you. You're deserve better than this, so treat yourself as if you do.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 It is a folly to lend money or support someone who do not want to stand on their own feet.
I am sorry you are in this morass.
The more you struggle ,the more you will be sucked inside it.
If you want to get out, then you need to climb out of this hole and let go of this baggage.
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