People asking for money on social media
Q. Hello ?? Social media has been a good way to make new friends. I have made a couple of long lasting friendships, however, it's also frustrating when you talk to people and they seem to feel it's okay to ask for money. Most times it's men ...
A. 6 January 2022: I think that there are always going to be scammers and fraudsters out there who will put on the charm, tell you that they love you only to get your hard earned cash.
There have been a lot of posts here on DC from people that have unfortun... (read in full...)
Ever since our threesome, I'm quite attracted to this man
Q. im 26 years old.female, married 3 years ,no kids and need some advice...about a year ago my husband and i had a threesome with a single friend of ours, after having a few drinks together at a bar...it wasnt my idea for this to happen , but it ...
A. 4 January 2022: A good majority of the posts that come to DC regarding threesomes, and bringing in a third party into the bedroom, the outcome is that it never ends well, just take a look back at some past threesome posts.
More often than not one person starts t... (read in full...)
She hasn't responded to a recent Facebook message. Have I done something wrong?
Q. here’s how it goes. I work for a company that deals in computers, I enjoy what I do and have made friends from it. the job is okay, nothing special about it, a jobs a job as they say. I found out a work colleague is leaving the company after ma...
A. 4 January 2022: I think that you are reading to much into this, there are many reasons why she may not have responded.
Maybe she just appeared really friendly at work, but in her eyes you were just to colleagues that walked around on the same bit of carpet f... (read in full...)
How do I approach him about the question he wants to ask me?
Q. Hey everyone, I need some help, this might be a long one sorry! So I’ve met this boy online (Tinder) probably about 6/7 weeks ago now / Start of November last year. We have been talking every single day since then. He’s stayed at mine multiple times ...
A. 4 January 2022: He may be genuine, but in my opinion i would air on the side of caution. You met him on Tinder, and to be honest you really don't know that much about him at all.
I would not try to go against the grain, infact it would be best if you just sat... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to see my boyfriend as a free loader
Q. Free rider? My boyfriend of 8 months now seems like a free rider..tell me.if am mistaken I didn't notice anything until it was time to go on vacation. We went to Cancun and all but 500$ was paid with my points all inclusive. 500$ went on my credi...
A. 21 December 2021: To be honest this relationship has only been eight months, not really enough time to truly get to know someone. In this time he has financially taken advantage of you, which in my opinion is a huge red flag.
He say's he is going to pay you back... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has allowed his ex girlfriend to move in with him
Q. Hey there! I got in a relationship 3 months ago with this amazing guy and I really like him. We have been spending all of our weekends together and have been on two trips. The relationship with him was going great until last month when he told me ...
A. 21 December 2021: Like the other aunts have said, you handled this perfectly, you were calm and never caused a scene so well done you.
Ex's are ex's for a reason, i think that having an ex around is the infancy stages of a relationship, or any time in a relation... (read in full...)
Is this the end of Dear Cupid?
Q. Is this site reaching the end of its life? Not to say that I want it to be but are we actually providing a genuine service to anybody any more? Back in the "good old days" we'd have a couple of hundred questions posted every month. Now we do...
A. 20 December 2021: I agree with everyone as well, i have been answering on here for many years now, probably near to when it all started. It has changed considerably over the years, and i miss the aunts and uncles that have been mentioned here that sadly have now left ... (read in full...)
A married friend I had not seen in a long time hit on me. I don't know what to do
Q. I was doing grocery shopping the other day, when on the way out to the car park, I saw my friend Steve, said it was good to see him as I hadn't seen him for ages (he'd actually left the town I've lived in since 2012, way back in 2016, and returned ...
A. 19 December 2021: He sounds like a strange guy to me, and someone you want to keep at arms lenth to be honest.
I would have said if yo had social media to block him on it, but your not an active social media user anyway.
I would agree that the best option here... (read in full...)
My fiance eats so much and takes so long before we can have sex. Why is she like this?
Q. I've been with my fiancee for 2 years, the wedding's off due to COVID but we've been together for 5 years as a couple. She's a great girl, lovely, kind, helpful, always has some project on the go here. Sex is the big issue. It's not that she...
A. 19 December 2021: The amount of food that you describe that she eats is a huge amount of food, you say she say's this is to get her moving before sex. I'm not sure eating all that food would get anyone moving to be honest, infact quite the opposite, this would make ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't enough for me anymore
Q. My boyfriend is not enough for me anymore. I have always thought it wouldn’t matter that he’s short, cause he was in shape. Then, he got fat. Refuses to work out which I do. We don’t even look like a couple. Then he got grumpy. Is in weird angry ...
A. 16 December 2021: At the end of the day he is not making you happy, and by your own admission you say you are wasting your 20's because of it.
Relationship should be 50/50, not one person making all the effort. I think that life is two short to be with someone ... (read in full...)
I want to attend the winter dance with my crush
Q. I really like this guy at my school and want to go to the winter dance with this guy. He means a lot to me and so I really want to go this dance together and take our relationship to the next level. he is a really nice guy that i've been flirting...
A. 15 December 2021: I think if you had never spoken to him, or never had any interaction with him i can see that there would be some apprehension in asking him.
I think that as you have been flirting together the past year i think there is a strong possibil... (read in full...)
I found out my wife cheated. Sad and don't know what to do
Q. My wife of 20 years or so.I found a letter that my wife wrote to a man. Who she was having an affair with the letter was so detailed about the sex she had with him.I pick up the phone called her work and told her about the letter .She said it was ...
A. 13 December 2021: She has lied to you and betrayed your trust, no one would blame you for walking away from this marriage.
She has been caught red handed, and then tries to pass it off claiming it was not that bad, classic sign of someone who knows they were in ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my sister
Q. Hi, please can I get advise, first no I’m not a troll, I’m genuinely after advise so if your not going to take me serious then don’t comment! I’m 33yo and I’m in love with my 38yo sister and have been for about 18 years, I’ve had serious relation...
A. 13 December 2021: Its good that you know its wrong, and you also know that nothing could ever happen between you and your sister.
Is she blood related to you?.
do you live with her where you see her day in and day out?.
I would normally say infatuation... (read in full...)
I got called a homophobe when I did nothing wrong
Q. I go regularly to a nearby gym (I'm a young woman). Due to something horrible going on in my life right now I am often pretty stressed and was walking around the gym earlier today with a serious expression on my face. As I did so I passed two guys ...
A. 12 December 2021: I think that this is absurd, he sounds like the one with the problem and not you. How on earth would you even have known he was gay.
I agree with Honeypie, you should have nipped it in the bud there and then that you don't care what his sexual p... (read in full...)
Is it normal to cry over not being able to do your routine?
Q. Is it normal to cry over not being able to do my routine? Very unusual for me, I live with parents but I have a very busy schedule with work etc. I specially took a day off so I could sort my room and myself which means extra time spent on me...
A. 12 December 2021: I do understand where your coming from, I enjoy a shower, especially if going to a party, or function its nice to feel clean.
I'm sure gyms are still currently open, i know my local one is still operating, although most gyms are members only, i'... (read in full...)
I have fallen out of love with a good man
Q. This is hard to write about but I’m feeling incredibly conflicted on what to do and need advice. I’ve been married for 8 years (together for 12) and I’m no longer happy, I have fallen out of love with him. I feel we have grown apart and I...
A. 12 December 2021: I agree with YCBS, before you do anything final at least try so save your marriage, or seek some marital help.
Her does sound like a nice guy, and as you say he has sacrificed a lot to be with you. I know that once you don't have the feeling'... (read in full...)
I'm worries my younger boyfriend will lose interest
Q. I'm a 33 year old female and my partner is a 24 year old male. We've been together for over 6 months. I've never been in a relationship with a younger man before but he's very mature for his age and treats me like a queen. I realise we are in th...
A. 12 December 2021: I think that you should stop torturing yourself over things that might not even happen, and enjoy the wonderful beginning parts of a relationship.
He does seem to really like you a lot, and as you say he is very mature for his age.
I think... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had sex with my friend bought a plan B from pharmacy. How do I talk to her? She doesn't know that I know
Q. My partner and I have been together for 2 years now, and it's been pretty great. But in the last year our sex life started to be less frequent. We've been playing some kinky games in the last number of months, where she would talk about her flirting...
A. 1 December 2021: She left you on the sofa, went into your friends room and by the looks of it had sex. She did this right under your nose thinking you were asleep, how would she know you never got up in the night wondering where she is, then finding her as you did. ... (read in full...)
My soulmate lied then ended things but I miss her
Q. I'm not sure if this counts as a question. I'm sorry, I'm just really frustrated. So. I accused my girlfriend of cheating. I had proof.. solid, even. In my head. I knew it, I had the phone number, account and everything. Of course, long distance co...
A. 1 December 2021: Sorry, meant to say in the beginning of post, " everything" she said was a lie. ... (read in full...)
My soulmate lied then ended things but I miss her
Q. I'm not sure if this counts as a question. I'm sorry, I'm just really frustrated. So. I accused my girlfriend of cheating. I had proof.. solid, even. In my head. I knew it, I had the phone number, account and everything. Of course, long distance co...
A. 1 December 2021: I know this is not what you want to hear, but she lied to you left right and center, nothing she said was a lie, so i would not mind betting that when she said i love you this was a lie as well.
This was a long distance online relation... (read in full...)
My friend is all about her boyfriend
Q. My friend is all around her new boyf. Her joy is overly as she calls him more than normal. i sound jealous but its true....
A. 29 November 2021: She is enjoying the honeymoon period of the start of a new relationship where everything is beautiful, magical, and fun. This does not last forever, i'm sure when the newness wears off a bit she will not be calling him as much as she does now.
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My boyfriend loves drugs and alcohol
Q. My bf is madly inlove with alcohol and also,takes drugs but at minimal Ive tried talking sense into him He doesn`t care!...
A. 29 November 2021: He he had any feeling for you what so ever he would at least try to abstain for doing drugs and alcohol, or at the very least cut back.
You have tried talking sense into him and this is really all you can do. At the end of the day w can't ch... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have sex with a married man to get a baby?
Q. Dear Cupid, Am I wrong to have sex with a married man just to have a child? I am 41 years old and disabled, religious and quite successful in my career. I have met wonderful people during the course of my career, however, my love has never been r...
A. 29 November 2021: This is a bad idea, and i think if you go through with this it will lead to a lot of heartache and future complications.
He is married, so this already makes him a lying cheat. He will never leave his wife for you, and for all we know he could al... (read in full...)
How long do you wait for a man to propose?
Q. How long should you wait for a man to propose before accepting that it is not going to happen and move on? I'm in my early 30s and my partner is 40s wee have been together for almost 3 years now. I would say he is a good partner, good to my kid t...
A. 29 November 2021: I think that communication is key here, he has no idea of what your ideas and aspirations are regarding the future of your relationship, for all we know he might be thinking the same, but is holding out because he thinks you are happy as things are. ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to suggest moving in with him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and am spending more nights at his than I am at home. Is it too soon to suggest moving in together? On the one hand I genuinely think he'd jump at the idea as we hate being apart but on the other I'm worrie...
A. 26 November 2021: I do think that 9 months is a little early, but like you say everything feels right about it, so on that basis go for it.
Its a big move to make, you could get something together, or you could get your own place just you and do something together... (read in full...)
Am I right to dump her now that she is in prison?
Q. My girlfriend has been sent to prison for the next couple of years at least and I don’t know whether or not to just throw in the towel on our relationship. I really don't think I can wait for her. Plus I’ve really started developing feelings for one ...
A. 26 November 2021: Personally i feel that you should end things with her properly before you embark on anymore relationships. I know she has done wrong, and has let you down many times, i feel by ending it you can move on with a clear conscience and not feel guilty ... (read in full...)
My wife accuses me of cheating when I don't the says she will cheat to get even
Q. Hello, I work as a sales manager for a company where we sell a certain type of industrial product and sometimes I have to assist customers with on site repairs and solving issues. Today, I had such a problem. I told my wife when I left at arou...
A. 26 November 2021: In my opinion your wife is the one with the problem and not you.
You are out working performing a role of sales manager for a company. You give her a breakdown of all the times, and inform her that you might be late, so apart from this there is... (read in full...)
I can't keep up wife my girlfriends entitlement
Q. Hello My gf and I have been together 2 years. All is well unless money comes up and then arguments begin. She has the tendency of over spending and expects me to cover her bills. Were not married and probably will never be as I see a very gr...
A. 26 November 2021: Yes, in a nut shell finish with her and find someone who is willing to work with you and not against you.
She sounds very spoilt to me, and has not yet learned the values of money. You offered her out of generosity and kindness your perfectl... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend using her friends to control and manipulate me?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for just under 2 years but she’s letting her friends stick their noses into our relationship and it’s really starting to annoy me. I’m also beginning to think I’m being controlled and manipulated. Am I just ...
A. 26 November 2021: I think that you have got to start as you mean to go on. I think that you have got to broach this with her, otherwise you are going to be continuing this relationship with all and sundry knowing your personal business.
I agree its good to have ... (read in full...)
Did he e d things?
Q. Hello, Aunts. I’m in a relationship since last 2 months and things moved pretty fast with this guy. We are of same age and both financially well off. Since last 2 weeks he is behaving pretty aggressively and responded with cold behaviour post the ...
A. 26 November 2021: All sounds rather strange to me, he sounds like a very up and down sort of guy that can change personalities on a sixpence.
In the past he has shown an aggressive side, by the sounds of it on more occasions than one, and you were the one that end... (read in full...)
My husband is having an affair
Q. I recently found out from one of my friends that my husband was cheating on me after they sent me an email with a link to an influencer's post which showed my husband cuddling up to this young woman wearing a crop top and the text: #couplegoals. ...
A. 26 November 2021: A classic case of the grass is greener on the other side, which as we know when you get there it never is.
There is a rather large age gap between, and she is also a pretty celebrity who more than likely attracts a lot of male attention. I think ... (read in full...)
My husband is having an affair
Q. I recently found out from one of my friends that my husband was cheating on me after they sent me an email with a link to an influencer's post which showed my husband cuddling up to this young woman wearing a crop top and the text: #couplegoals. ...
A. 26 November 2021: A classic case of the grass is greener on the other side, which as we know when you get there it never is.
There is a rather large age gap between, and she is also a pretty celebrity who more than likely attracts a lot of male attention. I think ... (read in full...)
I would like our one night stand to be more. We work together
Q. So. A few months ago me and a younger co worker went out for some friendly drinks. We ended up having a one night stand. We never spoke about it. Then a month or so ago we ended up kissing again. But nothing else. But We havnt spoken about it ...
A. 25 November 2021: I am not sure of the actual ages here, but i am guessing is is quite a bit younger than you are, so he is probably in his early to mid 20's maybe.
there could be a number of reasons why he has not pursued you, it could be he only saw it as a one... (read in full...)
I am beginning to wonder if my marriage or myself can be saved
Q. I moved from America to India to marry my husband 7 years ago. Things had been going well, but after almost 2 years in lockdown (very strict in Mumbai) I'm losing my mind. I don't speak any local languages and even if I did, I'd never have anyone ...
A. 25 November 2021: The lockdown has not been easy for anyone, it has spelled to end for many relationships.
You have been there for 7 years now, in this time i'm sure that you know your way around fairly well now. Maybe take up some classes to learn the language... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to do sexual things I am not comfortable with
Q. Hi I have been with my BF for over 4 years and most of the time I am so happy, but he can be when we are making love be a little rough and demand stuff.He kina wants to do stuff and one thing I do for him often is let him come over my face. I ...
A. 25 November 2021: I think that you have to speak up and say something if you are uncomfortable doing something. This is all part and parcel of being a couple, if yo don't want to do something say so, if he does not like it then that's his problem, its ok to set ... (read in full...)
My husband left me to live wit his male friend
Q. This is a strange situation but I'll ask anyway. My husband just upped and left me after 4 years of marriage (we've been together 9 years as a couple), went to live with his best friend, a 28-year-old, and now says he wants our 5-year-old daugh...
A. 25 November 2021: I think he has left on a whim, a spur of the moment thing where he thinks the grass will be greener on the other side. We both know that the grass is never greener on the other side and when he finds this out i bet he will want to come back.
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I can't stand the fighting with him anymore
Q. Ohhh pleeeaaaassseeee help meeeee.... I am really on the point that i wanna leave him... inside of me is already shouting and crying.... my partner for 6 years is soooo much talkactive and he looove discussion sooo much and this turn us almost e...
A. 25 November 2021: I know its hard, but you know what you have to do while you were writing this post and that is to leave him.
You have been putting up with this for 6 years now, so the chances of him changing anytime soon are slim. All the time you stay with him... (read in full...)
He only sees me when it is convenient for him
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I’m hoping you can give me some advise. I met an older man a few month ago. He has two children and he sees one of them quite often which I fully understand and I never say anything to him about when he sees them. We both h...
A. 24 November 2021: By your own admission you say that deep down he just does not want to see you. Why are you clinging onto this relationship which is bringing you nothing but heartache.
If your really into someone then you make every effort to see them, go out of y... (read in full...)
Do I delete her on facebook?
Q. Hi aunts need your help with this one as it’s a strange situation to find myself in. so recently I bumped into a female from school who I’d known and she used to have this crush on me or so she says. we never got together at school, as I did...
A. 24 November 2021: Is facebook the only means of communication that you have with her?. You have not got a phone number, whats app, email, etc.
I think that you are over thinking it a little as to why she has not responded to a face book message. Maybe the other au... (read in full...)
Why does it make me horny thinking about my girlfriend having sex with another man?
Q. Why do I get so horny thinking about my girlfriend being pleased by another guy...
A. 19 November 2021: I agree with Honeypie, keep this fantasy inside your head, within the confines of your own mind.
Its just a fantasy, just keep it to yourself and don't ever act on it because if you did it could very well spell the end of your relation... (read in full...)
Why did she act this way? A boyfriend back home?
Q. Hi everyone I just wonder what people think about a situation I've found myself in as my instincts are telling me one thing and I'd just like to know if anyone comes to the same conclusion. I met a girl a few months ago, we got along really ...
A. 19 November 2021: I can't help but feel that the reason she was acting like this was your feelings for her and stronger than what hers were for you.
She sounds very complicated, serious, and rather secretive. To not want to have a drink with you in fear that she... (read in full...)
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