Am I being unreasonable when I question my partner on why I haven't met his parents
Q. Am i being unreasonable when I question my partner on why I haven't met his parents. It has started to really bother me. Wee have a good relationship, been on holiday together, he's good with my kid ect. I think I keep myself reasonably well....
A. 10 August 2021: If you had said you has only been with him a couple of months i would have said its still quite early on in the relationship and he is holding back to see if this relationship turns into something serious, but two years of not meeting his family is ... (read in full...)
I wanted to cuddle after sex but he just rolled over and went to sleep
Q. Hi, has anyone had this happen to them. I’ve being dating a man for about 6 weeks. I’ve only ever slept with him once and that night, after we slept together he just turned over and went to sleep. I’ve never experienced this before, I like a cuddle...
A. 8 August 2021: I think wait to what happens the next time, and if he rolls over and goes to sleep again then broach the subject with him and tell him how your feeling.
It does seem rather uncaring and cold, but give him the benefit of the doubt and see what hap... (read in full...)
Hes being secreative with his phone
Q. I need some advice please. I’ve been with my partner for 8.5 years and we have a young child together. Recently he’s been taking his phone everywhere with him. If he’s going to the toilet, he takes it, if he’s washing the pots, he takes it, h...
A. 5 August 2021: Your trust issues clearly eminate from his past history of messaging other girls and sending personal pictures.
Once someone has lied, betrayed someones trust its very hard to believe that they won't do it again. Even tho he apologised and said... (read in full...)
Do men find women like me who don't gym or have toned bodies undesirable or not sexy enough?
Q. I am a 32 year old female. Of late I have been having issues accepting my body. I am 5'5" and weigh 63 kilos/ ~ 138 lbs. I watch what I eat and maintain my weight through walking regularly. I dont have washboard abs or a muscular body toned by gym. ...
A. 5 August 2021: Every one is different, no one is the same and has different likes and dislikes.
I think that the guy you dated who asked about your regime sounds rather shallow, and self obsessed. It seems he was seeking perfection, but let me tell you there is... (read in full...)
Girlfriend always says she misses me and wants a hug even though I am with her
Q. I have a girlfriend and I love her and she loves me back as well. But my question is, she always asks for a hug and she missed me even though I am with her. Is that normal right? Well, it's not that I'm complaining. I actually love it because from ...
A. 5 August 2021: You have someone who loves you and wants to show you by ways of affection, there is nothing wrong with this at all.
Enjoy the fact that she loves you and wants to show you. Don't compare situations to past relationships as everyone is differen... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend has become cold and distant
Q. My bf and me have been in a long distance relationsbip for 8 months we have only managed to meet and see each other the last three months due to the pandemic. So before he was kind and sweet and now he has withdrawn affection and romance somewhat. ...
A. 5 August 2021: To be honest OP, apart from the effort that you have already made i don't think that there is an awful lot more than you can do.
I know its probably not what you want to hear but i don't think he is into you as much as you are into him, which is... (read in full...)
I caught him clearing porn sites from his computer
Q. My partner and I were suppose to do some research together on his laptop when I stepped away I came back in the mist of him clearing his browse history. I was completely shocked, he said he didn't want me see his porn sites and was embarrassed. I ...
A. 3 August 2021: If you were doing research together why would he delete his browsing history, unless he thought you were going to look at his history when he left the room or something.
He could of just been open and honest and said " ok i watch a bit of porn ... (read in full...)
Wife finally agreed to my fantasy of 13 years
Q. I have had a fantasy of wanting to watch my wife have Sex with another guy for over 13 years. My wife knows this and has just recently said Ok to doing so. Why is this such a huge turn on for me if watching her doing something she loves to do... ...
A. 3 August 2021: There are so many posts that come on to DC regarding threesomes, or allowing a partner to indulge in sexual activities while the other watches, and i have yet to find one with a positive outcome.
You made vows to your wife when you got married,... (read in full...)
Why is my platonic friend blocking and ghosting me?
Q. Hi all, thanks in advance. I'm having issues with a platonic friend of mine. She's become my best friend and we've been close for about 2-years. 'L' and I both work together, we live nearby and often hang out and carpool, and we talk on the phon...
A. 2 August 2021: This is very odd behaviour indeed, to go from being like best friends to then go to being ignored and like your non existent is rather strange.
You say she is a direct person who does not play mind games, if she has a gripe she will normally... (read in full...)
Way too much drama involving my cat and my roommate while I'm away on holiday
Q. I left my cat with the woman I was staying with while I went to see my ldr bf. The trip is a month and I'm halfway through now. I never asked her to watch her she said she would and it would be no problem and since I got here it's been nothing but ...
A. 2 August 2021: I don't know why she even said she would look after your cat while you were away. If she said nothing you would have known where you stood and arranged alternative arrangements for someone else to look after your cat.
I know she has left you in a... (read in full...)
Breaking up and not feeling bad for the other person
Q. My s/o and I have been together for 9 years. We have a daughter together that’s undergoing chemotherapy for Leukemia. The past 9 years though they have brought me joy have also brought me a lot of pain. He cheats and is always doing things he’s not ...
A. 2 August 2021: I think that you should tell him its over sooner rather than later, the longer you leave it the harder it will get.
I think the trust, and the love has sadly left this relationship, and with him having been unfaithful the damage is often unrepair... (read in full...)
Did she really forgive me?
Q. Hello. I'm a 19 year old guy and my girlfriend is 22. So, it's a 3 years gap and we are both okay with it. We dated for 3 months now hitting 4. And to be honest, I had a great time spending my time with her and her the same and we felt like we have ...
A. 2 August 2021: You have not been together for very long and you are both having big arguments.
Ok so after the last big argument you apologised, you said it was your fault, and she responded by smiling, saying it was her fault as well and forgiving you. Why are ... (read in full...)
I feel like I helped him mature for someone else to enjoy
Q. I’m feeling very shocked and hurt even though I feel like I got over this past relationship. A man I dated swore he’d never have children. He’d be uncomfortable around them and all. I once got him to pose with my friends baby and his own mother ...
A. 2 August 2021: I have to agree with the other aunts that have answered your post.
I know its not ideal, and it must hurt and is leaving you with unanswered questions.
We don't really know what happened after he broke up with you, maybe the baby was not pla... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin if I've never had sex, and only masturbated?
Q. Hello I'm an 25 year old guy I was wondering I've never had sex with anyone yet and have only masturbated, does that means im still a virgin or not, and are there a difference between sex and masturbation....
A. 2 August 2021: Yes you are still a virgin, you are a virgin until you have sexual intercourse with another person.
Masturbation is something one tends to do alone, or with a partner. Sex or making love involves the coming together of two people involvin... (read in full...)
How do I explain how my boyfriend and I met?
Q. How do I tell my fiance's parents how we met without revealing our secret? I met my fiance at a concert and had sex with him in the bathroom. I know it was risky and stupid but I was young and wild at the time. I thought it was just going to be...
A. 2 August 2021: I have to agree with the other aunts, all you have to say is you met at a concert, they really don't need to know any more than that.
There are some things in like that are best left unsaid. ... (read in full...)
I met a new guy and don't know if I should end my current relationship
Q. Hello, I need advice on what to do regarding someone I met. I met a guy on Twitter. We’ve been talking for a month. I’m 25 and he’s 32. He lives miles away from me but we get along really well. I’m in a relationship and he’s single. I’ve been fal...
A. 30 July 2021: You need to end things with your current boyfriend, as at the moment you are essentially cheating on him. Not physically, but you are chatting to another guy that you are developing feelings for. If it was reversed you would accuse your boyfriend of ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but my soulmate is out there.
Q. Years ago, through work I met the guy of my dreams. We were actors that worked on set together and he was so nice to me, so handsome, just everything I wanted in a guy all my life. The way he looked at me made my heart just race. I felt like he was ...
A. 30 July 2021: Yes i think that you should break up with him, you are on here giving reasons as to why this relationship is not working.
Your heart is no longer in this relationship, you have told him many times that you wish to be single, but he is not acceptin... (read in full...)
I got the married man, but I'm consumed with guilt
Q. I had an affair with a married man. He made the decision to leave his wife of 25 years for me. We have been in a real relationship for almost a year. But the insurmountable guilt I carry everyday for hurting his wife is eating me up alive. I feel...
A. 30 July 2021: This is the outcome of a relationship that is built on lies and deceit, and another person being hurt so you could both be together.
There are now trust issues in this relationship, trust in the most important contributing factors that bind a r... (read in full...)
Ex's Jealous Wife
Q. My ex was married about 14 years ago. Previously we were together about the same but never married. We talk on the phone and catch up on kids, events, etc. His wife has forbid him to talk to me. She checks his phone daily and has confronted him ...
A. 28 July 2021: I fail to see why he entertains this at all to be honest. He is a free person who can talk to whoever he likes.
Block her on all social media accounts and go private, then forget about her. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend keeps talking about her ex - Will we ever work?
Q. Is it normal for your partner to talk about their ex so much? I’m guessing not. Been with my girlfriend for 2 months and I’ve lost count of the amount of times she’s mentioned him already. They still message each other a lot and she even gushed ...
A. 28 July 2021: You claim she is 100% committed to your relationship, but reading your post this is far from the truth.
I don't believe that you should ever enter into a new relationship if you are still not over the previous one.
She is not over him, he is ... (read in full...)
Am I self sabotaging because I can’t trust men?
Q. I met an older guy a few weeks ago through work. He messaged me and we just got talking none stop. I found him really nice while working with him, even though it was briefly and he was saying all the right things. We went on a date and I met h...
A. 26 July 2021: I think that you have got to give him the benefit of the doubt here as he could very well have needed to take him mother to the hospital, then have his son stay with him for the weekend.
This relationship is still very much in its infancy,... (read in full...)
My drunk texts have caused a problem
Q. I have been an absolute idiot and I’m so embarrassed. I met up with a friend yesterday, a few afternoon beers turned into a few more and by 6pm we were streaming. We were having a good laugh and chat. Anyway, obviously due to covid we were catching...
A. 26 July 2021: Ok you have sent some drunken texts that you regret sending, and that you should not have sent her.
What is done, you can't unscramble scrambled eggs op, you have apologised which is all you can do at this point so all you can do is leave the ball... (read in full...)
I feel I’m not good enough for my husband no matter what.
Q. I feel I’m not good enough for my husband no matter what. If we go the beach like we did tonight and a woman as s bikini or costume on he will look. She could be over weight even not much to look at but he will keep doing it. Tells me I’ve got it ...
A. 24 July 2021: At the end of the day he is married to you, and i'm guessing you have been married for a good number of years.
By his own admission he already tells you he loves you, and you only, and that he thinks your sexy.
Sometimes in situations like ... (read in full...)
Does he like me but can't do anything about it because he's married?
Q. Hello So I'm very confused about a situation I'm experiencing. Is this guy flirting with me? So he's married, I;ve heard things that suggest he isn't happy but I have no certainty. Yes I kind of like him but he doesnt know and I'd never act on...
A. 24 July 2021: There are two major red flags all over this post which surely must be screaming out at you.
1. he is married, this alone is enough reason to steer clear.
2. You work together in a professional capacity.
You are asking the question does... (read in full...)
I got involved with him even though he has a girlfriend and its Long distance
Q. Hi dear agony aunts, I met J last month when i went on vacation (He lives in that country but we have the same nationality) A week later, we started going out and after one particular night out with other friends, he said we could go to his place...
A. 24 July 2021: OP this guy wants his cake and eat it, he wants to keep his girlfriend and keep you dangling on the side.
Its the same advice i would give a mistress dating a married man, it never has a happy ending.
He is nothing but a player really, h... (read in full...)
Do you think I have a right to be upset at my husband for complimenting another woman in my presence?
Q. Is it normal for your husband to compliment another woman in front of you? For example, yesterday he told this acquaintance of ours in my presence that she looks like she is in good shape after we ran into her and her husband at the mall. I have put ...
A. 23 July 2021: I don't know how long he has known her, or the kind of relationship he has with her, but i think to comment on how good she looks in front of you and her husband is a rather strange comment to make, it almost feels like it was more like a dig at ... (read in full...)
I don't like that my current boyfriend was into threesomes
Q. My boyfriend recently admitted he's had a threesome in the past and I can't seem to look past it. It's just made me look at him in a completely different light now. I know everyone has a past but I can't help but feel embarrassed FOR HIM over it. ...
A. 21 July 2021: You have to understand that each and everyone of us has a past, unless someone has been living under a rock for the past 10 years its something we can't get away from.
The issue here is not about him having a threesome with two girls. The issue is... (read in full...)
How pushy is too pushy?
Q. I was good friends with a cute guy a few years younger than myself. We lost touch but then at New Year I wished him a Happy New Year which he sent a sweet message back. The other month I sent him another message but this time he didn't reply, but I ...
A. 21 July 2021: I guess the New Years message was a popular time for people to get messages wishing them happy New Year and he replied to your message along with all the other people that were texting him as well.
I don't know what you wrote in the next message ... (read in full...)
Childhood friend has turned into a bully
Q. I’ve had a childhood friend ask me for so many favors like borrow money but then can’t pay it back or takes months. Then he will take me out to eat only to charge it for me later by saying he owes me less. He also told two people I was molested ...
A. 21 July 2021: I had to double look at the age bracket here after reading this post, as this sounds like high school drama.
By your own admission you are both nearly 40 years old, i think its time you nip this in the bud and move on from this.
Yes you have ... (read in full...)
We gave our friend money for their wedding and they never acknowledged us
Q. My friend recently got married and both her and her fiancé were struggling financially so were cutting corners on their wedding. My husband and I felt bad for them as the financial side of the pandemic hit them hard- they both have jobs b...
A. 19 July 2021: I know a wedding is a busy time with lots going on, preperations, then honey moon etc. But this is still no excuse to be ungrateful, and rather rude.
It is normal after a wedding when things have calmed down and settled thank you notes are sent... (read in full...)
Is it right for my 15-year old son to date an 18-Year old girl?
Q. My 15-year old son has recently started going out with an 18 year old girl. Is it just me or does this seem really inappropriate? Don’t get me wrong she’s a nice person and he seems to be really smitten with her but she is technically an a...
A. 19 July 2021: personally i don't think that a 3 year age gap is an awful lot, it just seems a lot because he is 15, but he is not going to be 15 forever.
My niece is 3 years older that her boyfriend, they met when he was 17 and she was 20, and they are stil... (read in full...)
Chance Meeting or Fate?
Q. Hi - A guy I had a slight crush on a couple of years ago, bumps into me recently in a busy city centre. We hadn't seen each other for a couple of years but chatted away like good friends. I desperately want him to keep in touch with me (we have eac...
A. 19 July 2021: I agree with the other aunts, this was not fate but pure chance.
I feel things would have blossomed between the pair of you a long time ago if he truly had feelings for you, and would certainly have made more of an effort to stay in touch.
... (read in full...)
I haven't seen my b/f in 2 months and he keeps making excuses
Q. My boyfriend keeps making excuses not to see me I haven't seen him for two months now he lives local he keeps saying he's busy with work. He takes 5 days to answer a text as well I want a relationship and it doesn't feel like one anymore. I get ...
A. 12 July 2021: I think that you should have finished this relationship after one month of this behaviour. He is to gutless to end things, resulting in him ignoring you and making lame excuses.
You should absolutely 100% finish with him and move on, and while yo... (read in full...)
Why does he look at me when touching my breasts
Q. Quick question. My boyfriend loves to play with my breasts and I sometimes wondered why he keeps looking at me when he touched my breasts. And I feel embarrassed when he looks at me. Every time I tell him not to look at me, he just smiled and will ...
A. 10 July 2021: Its hard to say why he keeps looking at you, maybe because he is right in front of you he does not have many other places to look while he fondels.
Or maybe he just likes to see you enjoying the experience. ... (read in full...)
Cheater FWb
Q. Thank you for reading this.. I would like your opinions because I need to make a decsicion ….We have been friends w benefits for the last 3 years. I trusted him a lot we would see each other every weekend. It was pretty stable. Until last month ...
A. 10 July 2021: This is a friends with benefits set up, no strings, so i'm guessing you both know what this title meant when you gave it this label 3 years ago.
He is basically a free agent, entitled to see, do, text, sleep with, or ask for saucy pictures... (read in full...)
Things have never been the same since I cheated on my boyfriend. He just does whatever he wants
Q. My boyfriend is disappearing off on a lads holiday next month the same weekend as our anniversary. It’s really annoyed me but he doesn’t care a bit. To be honest our whole relationship has been tainted for a while and it’s all my fault. I cheated ...
A. 9 July 2021: This is the outcome of being unfaithful, the damage is often unrepairable as you are finding out.
Although at times things might seem normal on the surface, he just can't and probably never will be able to erase this from his memory and will alw... (read in full...)
Unemployed boyfriend expects me to take care of him and pay his bills
Q. Thanks for listening! So, my fiancee and I have been together about 2 years. He is currently unemployed no fault of his own and looking for employment. However, he acts like I should be paying for everything. I don't mind helping out some...
A. 8 July 2021: No i don't think that you are wrong, he is your fiancee, not your child.
He has become to expectant on you, because you have paid for things a few times he now thinks of this as normality. If you keep paying for everything you are giving him more... (read in full...)
Engaged to someone new, but still thinking of my Ex!
Q. Dear Cupids, I have been engaged to my boyfriend of 1 year for a month now. He is great, kind, loving, romantic, hard working etc. etc. of course with a few shortcomings that we all have. Recently though, I have become obsessed with thoughts o...
A. 6 July 2021: I think that if you are still having these feelings about your ex then you should not be engaged to your current partner as you are lying to him.
If you continue this you are starting at new life with your current partner built on lies, and this... (read in full...)
How do I get my sister-in-law to back off asking about us having children?
Q. My brother and sister-in-law are pregnant. I am married. The problem is my sister-in-law keeps on asking me questions like "When are you and your wife are going to have kids?" and making comments such as "It would be nice if our kid will have so...
A. 5 July 2021: I think you just have to be brutally honest with her. The next time she ask's you this just sternly say that you and your wife don't have plans for kids.
If she ever ask's you again, just tell her did you not hear me loud and clear the last tim... (read in full...)
Mixed messages from my date
Q. I’ve been on the dating apps for a few months and met some nice guys, but didn’t really click with anyone. Then I met the son of a family friend recently at a family dinner. We’re the same age and he had just moved to the same town as me. We ...
A. 5 July 2021: He does sound like he has got some compulsive issues that need addressing. It's really early days, he has come on really strong, burning your phone out, blasting you with texts left right and center. Then you tell him you want to take things slow ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dotes on me so why am I so paranoid?
Q. I’m so paranoid about my boyfriend leaving me that I’ve been waiting on him hand and foot and being overly sexual with him. Before you all start calling him a pig who treats me like shit, he’s not. He’s the sweetest, kindest, most caring man ...
A. 5 July 2021: There is only one way you are going to change things and its all starts with yourself.
You need to start valuing your self worth, start loving yourself more.
You have been together for 3 years, and in all this time he has never given you a reas... (read in full...)
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