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On a side note, I have nearly completed my psychology degree, which I feel has given me an insight into human behaviour.
-United Kingdom is my locale
-I enjoy reading a lot, and am in the process of writing my own novels, of which the first in the set of six is complete. I still have an interest in computer games, but this isn't as strong as it once was. Skateboarding, rollerblading and BMXing are all sports I like to partake in, as a fit body promotes a fit mind.
-My relationship status at present is "in a relationship", my girlfriend is 25 and I am approaching the grand age of 21 (in December) |
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Did he break my virginity with dry humping?
Q. I am a 13 yr old old virgin and have pledged to remain so until marriage. I recently had an intimate moment with my boyfriend. I sat on his lap while he kissed my neck but he had an erection and I felt his penis almost at the entrance of my vagina ...
A. 3 November 2007: Technically, if you've broken the hymen, you have lost your virginity.
However, you can lose your virginity to a bicycle or a horse.
In our sense of the definition I don't believe you have, you keep it until you are actually penetrated.... (read in full...)
Does this girls like me or like flirting with me?
Q. There is this girl that I no and I think she likes me, but I really like her.How can I tell if she likes me? she always flirts with me but she says she likes someone else. But I was wondering if it is just because she does not want to admit she like...
A. 3 November 2007: The only way to truly find out is to ask her whether she likes you, but don't get your hopes up.
Plenty of people flirt with various people, with no interest in "getting with" those people, I myself do it all the time.... (read in full...)
I'm kind of torn, and don't know what to do.
Q. I'm kind of torn. I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months, and a few months ago I moved in with him. Well, I've been snoopy on his computer, bad me I know. He has a yahoo messenger account and his name and password are saved, so I went on it. ...
A. 3 November 2007: Have you ever considered he's doing this because he wants to feel special, or wants to help someone else special?
If I'm perfectly honest there's worse things he could be doing, so you should be thankful all he's doing is having conversations with... (read in full...)
Is true love scary?
Q. I need help!!! I have a stepsister and she told me that when you love someone, you're scared to be with them, scared to know that somebody wants to be with you that you love, and I don't know what to believe. Is this true?...
A. 1 November 2007: I'm not quite sure what angle your stepsister is coming from.
When you truly love someone, you want to spend as much time with them as humanely possible, and I wouldn't say fear would factor in.
Perhaps she has just been hurt, and she's trying t... (read in full...)
At what age are you too old to have a 'Brazilian'?
Q. Hi Summer is fast aproaching here in Australia and the weather is warning up. Which means going on holiday and going to the beach. My wife always gets a new bikini at the start of summer and for the past few years a brazilian wax. This year...
A. 1 November 2007: The beauty technicians are they to do a job, and it's what they're paid to do.
I expect they'd get much older people in there, 48 really isn't that old.
Don't blurt out and say that though, your wife might be using that as an excuse, she may be h... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has gone off sex, how can I get the intimacy back?
Q. My girlfriend and myself have been together for about 2 and a half years. I am 37 and have been married in the past, she is 32 and has also been past married. My issue is after a year of amazing sex and intimate encounters, my girlfriend has lost ...
A. 31 October 2007: Does she have any past trust issues surrounding sex?
You mention that she was married once before, was the marriage really sour (i.e. more blood on her partner's hands rather than her own) or was it mutual?
You may find that she has some hang ups... (read in full...)
How can I make his return special?
Q. My boyfriend has been working away from home for the past few weeks. The night before he left, I planned a night in at our house (we live together) with candles, wine, food, bubble bath, the works. Now I want to plan something for the night he...
A. 31 October 2007: I wish my girlfriend had your attitude! But that's besides the point lol.
One thing I will warn you of though, is that he may be extremely tired after coming home at night, and after travelling for what I assume would be a long distance.
It ma... (read in full...)
How can one suddenly stop feeling the love overnight?
Q. hi, my girlfriend broke up with me last night. i was devastated. she said she see's me more of a best friend rather than a boyfriend. again, this breaks my heart.i can't bare life without her, i love her so much..i cant even describe how muc...
A. 31 October 2007: The thing that you have to remember here, even if you do want her back as you state, you cannot change a made mind.
I have to agree with starfairy, if it was love it would not just "vanish", falling out of love is a gradual process (think of a chis... (read in full...)
My ex is dating my cousin and I am afraid he will hurt her, too.
Q. I once was involved with a guy who was several years older than me. We were close for many years, then he hurt me. It made me hate myself to the point of almost suicide because I loved him soooo much. Now my cousin is getting messed up with him. I ...
A. 31 October 2007: As much as you will wish to voice your opinion here, unfortunately it isn't your place.
He may have changed in the interim between seeing yourself and your cousin.
And even in the case that he hasn't people must make their own mistakes in life, th... (read in full...)
What do guys do when they fancy a girl?
Q. A question to all the guys. What do guys do when they fancy a girl??? Answers will be gratefully recieved. Anything will be helpful XxX...
A. 31 October 2007: Usually they will become a bit more "touchy feely" (this behaviour is not exclusive to males), eye contact can either increase substantially, or almost completely disapate (depending on the shyness of the person in question).
Attempts to be funn... (read in full...)
How can I blow her a kiss across the Atlantic?
Q. I am currently participating in an exchange program with a school in Nuernberg, Germany (I'm from Atlanta, USA). The exchange partner I was assigned is a girl, who, I might add, is extremely beautiful. Not only that, but she's amazingly fun to talk ...
A. 30 October 2007: She has a boyfriend.
End of, you wouldn't someone trying it on with your girlfriend, so some respect and don't do it yourself.
Also she lives in Germany, that would be an extreme long distance relationship, and especially in the early stages t... (read in full...)
Is it true that I can get HIV from a belly bar from Spain?
Q. Heya.... i got my belly pierced 8 weeks ago and i changed the bar to 1 that my sister got me from spain..... i cleaned it with boiling salt water but i am scared that i could catch HIV.... Because apprently you can?? is this true??...
A. 30 October 2007: I should think you're safe, you've used disinfectant, and the virus would initially be one part to a billion (because its not coming straight from the origin source) which is very weak as you realise.... (read in full...)
His affection has cooled off. What is happening?
Q. Hello I'm new here, and I really need your help.. I'm in a relationship, and have been with him for 15 months now.. It is a long-distance relationship, but we've been doing fine really until about 4 months ago, when I was doing my A Levels and did...
A. 30 October 2007: Bluntly, you're out of the honeymoon period, and this is the point where just love isn't enough. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that you're number one. My girlfriend ranks me as roughly number 6, but I don't stress about it... (read in full...)
What should I do? I love a fellow student, as well as some of my teachers!! What am I suppose to do?
Q. hi, im 15 years old and i need some pro advice. i am atracted to serveral girls and teachers (female) at my school in scotland. mainly all the girls i like are daft anoying, unable to shut up sluts. but one girl who hangs around with the people...
A. 30 October 2007: You're going through the onset of puberty so it's natural that your sex drive will be through the roof.
But please don't confuse libido based desire with love, they are two very different things.
For the time being I would stick to sorting yourself... (read in full...)
I'm not confident around Women! How do I build my confidence??
Q. I'm a confident person, but whe it comes to women and relationships, I'm awful. I've tried, and I've tried, and I've tried to be confident around women I'm attracted to (even when I fake it) but I always blow it when it comes to the date. A few girl...
A. 30 October 2007: I expect your problem originates from you viewing women as a different entity (it's the same problem I sufferred from).
Just generate small talk popular topics include music interests, hobbies with random girls when you have a "bail out card" (by ... (read in full...)
My guy doesn't like spending money. We don't ever eat out, or go on holiday. I'm starting to get fed up! Please advise.
Q. I've met a man I love. We get on well. The problem is he is very mean with money. He doesnt like eating out or going on holidays. We end up always doing the same things going to the same places so he doesnt have to spend much or no need to spend ...
A. 30 October 2007: A phrase for you "when poverty comes in the door, love goes out the window".
I feel this is loosely based on your scenario, I can relate to why your mood is detoirating.
he's not neccessarily poor, but he's behaving as if he were.
You need to deci... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my partner's porn watching?
Q. hi i know my partner watches porn he also downloads it on the internet it bothers me sometimes because he trys to hide it i would rather him tell the truth, it also makes me feel am not enough for him but recently i found a half naked local woman on ...
A. 30 October 2007: You really shouldn't worry yourself.
Masturbation is to sex as a Big Mac is to a three course meal.
Nothing beats it in terms of instant gratification, and the fact that you have a healthy sex life illustrates the fact that you really have nothing ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for sex?
Q. bin going out with my girlfriend for 18 months we have had lots of oral but no intercoarse. she has had sex with two boy friends before me . How long should I wait, She is not having sex with anybody else . She wants to be sure I am the one. She ...
A. 30 October 2007: I think she means exactly what she says.
Just because she has had sex with two other men, does not automatically mean she'll be emotionally ready for the third.
You have no idea how those experiences were for her, and she may be suffering from emo... (read in full...)
I worry about everything and even compare him to my ex, I don't want to be like this - help!
Q. I feel so confused and messed up at the moment. I have been in a relationship with my bf for a month now and i dont feel happy in it. He treats me right, well I think he does anyway and he doesnt do anything overly wrong. Compare him to my ex bf who ...
A. 30 October 2007: You owe it to yourself and your boyfriend to put this relationship on the back burner until you are fully over your ex.
It isn't fair to compare him if there really isn't any similarities.
You need to have some thinking time, before you end up s... (read in full...)
What can I do to make it obvious?
Q. Ok I have been hanging out with this guy for the past month now. we both like each other and know it. we are both a little shy. i want to be more than friends but cant seem to say anything what can i do to make it obvious? ...
A. 30 October 2007: How you can make it obvious?
Come out and tell him you like him, and see if he reciprocates the feeling.
If you dance around each for too long then chances are the ship will sail.... (read in full...)
I don't want her to call off the wedding or something over this.
Q. My fiance asked me about my sex past the other night and we got to talkin about it, i told her more or less the truth, i have slept with about 60 diff. chicks (mostly one night stands, a few threesomes and 2 orgies- i had some wild parties)i didnt ...
A. 30 October 2007: If she requests the truth, then you should give it to her, and deal with the choices she makes as a result.
She should have a right to know the person she's marrying after all, the path that you've walked previously indicates the person you are now.... (read in full...)
My bf is going to see his ex at a wedding, should I be worried?
Q. I'm not sure if I'm looking for people who have been through the same thing, or if I'm looking for advice. Any kind of reply would be appreciated. My b/f of 3 years is very close with his ex girlfriend's cousin. This cousin is getting married ...
A. 29 October 2007: You have to think of the other side of the fence.
Three and a half years is a long time, and she's probably moved on as well, and could be in her own long term relationship now.
In the period that ehy've been out of touch, they have undergon... (read in full...)
I'm moving in with my long distance boyfriend, but now my ex is back, what can I do?
Q. I have been in a long distant relationship with my current boyfriend for 2 years. I am preparing to move to Florida with him within the next couple of months to begin our new life together. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend from 15 years ago, because ...
A. 29 October 2007: It is unfair to go to Florida with your current boyfriend if your heart is not with him 100%.
Turn the tables, how would you like it if someone didn't want to be with you with all their heart?
I've always been a strong believer that if you truly lo... (read in full...)
I've made a big mistake, please help.
Q. I cheated on my fiance with his best friend Tim (also my friend) who is also married and his wife is one of my best friends, but to tell the truth I'm more worried about my friend's feelings than my fiance's, I guess that sounds bad, but I have ...
A. 29 October 2007: The only way you'll relieve the guilt will be if you confess.
You've done the crime, now you have to deal with the consequences.
You've lit the fire so you'll have to see if everything you and your fiancee has been reduced to ashes or if there's ... (read in full...)
She said I'm not that handsome, is that important?
Q. Hi everyone, I Have just met a lovely girl, online it has to be said. We both get on like a house on fire on the phone and both admit we feel comfortable and happy with each other's personalities and that life is better and Happier now we h...
A. 29 October 2007: Its not that important unless you view it as important.
If she views looks highly then perhaps it is a problem. What I would concern myself over is that she met your compliment with an insult.
Could you really deal with constant put downs? C... (read in full...)
My dad has turned to me for help, What do I do.
Q. After nearly 30 years of marriage, my parents' relationship is falling apart! My dad says he's trying to fix things, but my mom wants nothing to do with it. She doesn't want divorce, she says, but she's always mean to him, and gets angry when he ...
A. 29 October 2007: Usually there's blood on both hands in a relationship with problems, so your dad needs to like inwards and see what he may be doing to fuel the situation.
However, the way you're describing your mum is, it may be time to consider marriage coun... (read in full...)
I am bi-sexual. Should I tell my friend I fancy her?
Q. I have known my best friend for about two years now. She knows im bisexual and she doesnt act weird about it. I am single and so is she. I fancy her. I have fanceied her for around about four months. I have tried to give her bits of hints but ...
A. 29 October 2007: This stage of your life you may be confusing caring for someone for sexual attraction.
You're going through the peak of you ID development (centre of sexual desires), and its a very volatile time.
It would be best not to say anything.... (read in full...)
My husband watches gay porn and doesn't know that I know. Is he gay???
Q. my husband watches gay porn and hides a dildo from me. we have been married 4 years and we have 2 kids. this has been happening off and on for 5 years. he does't know that i know about it. is he gay or bi? what should i do? i just moved across the ...
A. 29 October 2007: If you don't talk about it, then you can't hope for the situation to resolve.
Lack of communication is usually the downfall of a relationship, so don't fall into this trap.
Bring it up in an unconfrontational manner and discuss the source of this ... (read in full...)
Confused about the reasons for sex. Are you?
Q. can somebody please tell me why people think sex is so paramount in a relationship. when u split, i find that family things are the most hurtfull once gone. sex is a physical release which can be so special with the person you love and not when it ...
A. 29 October 2007: Because it's a closeness that is shared between two people and only those two people. Every other action can be shared with anyone.
Men see being wanted physically as being wanted emotionally as well.
That's why its important.... (read in full...)
Why is he accusing me of having chlamydia???
Q. my so called boyfriend has accused me of having chlamydia,which is so untrue,why would he say this unless he has got it and thats why he`s done research i havent got any symptoms to indicate this and ive recently had tests which dont show anything ...
A. 29 October 2007: A guilty mind usually projects their guilt onto someone else. If someone else is angry, they usually see anger in other people. This may apply here as well unfortunately, and even if it isn't the case, you still need to question whether you wish... (read in full...)
We fight, but I want him to fall in love with me
Q. hey me and my boyfreind have been together 2 months ago and we fell in love within 1 week i think at that time i couldn't live without him anyways when time passed we started having more fights ( i still love him to death) but i know that he ...
A. 29 October 2007: Without sounding patronising, it is not that easy to feel in and out of love. You need to with someone a while before you know enough of them to love. And they also say that it takes half the time you were with someone to get over them. Ask yours... (read in full...)
He has a low sex drive. What can I do?
Q. I am 23 years old and have been with my boyfrined for 3 months, he is 28. We had sex a few times a month or so after we got together (3 to be precise) but since then we haven't had any, not even any foreplay. It is a struggle just to get him to give ...
A. 29 October 2007: I hate to say it, but mismatched sex drives usually put strain on everything else in the relationship. You can either reach a compromise together and increase the frequency in which you do this slowly. Usually sex begets more sex, so the hardest b... (read in full...)
There are large gaps between times we are physically intimate. Why could this be?
Q. my boyfriend and I have an amazing time together. We feel really close to each other. However, there are very large gaps between our physical initimacy. When I ask him if it us or if he is uncertain about me - he doesn't hesitate to say 'No'. He ...
A. 29 October 2007: It could just mean that he really doesn't have the desire to be with you in that sense. Not all men can perform all hours of the day, every day. Isn't quality better over quantity anyway, perhaps he feels the act is more special if it's more inf... (read in full...)
Where do I go from here in terms of staying friends with my ex?
Q. Where do I begin? Amidst the end of my summer of 2007, my girlfriend of 3+ years decided to call it quits with me. We had a typical relationship with the usual tumultuous times that any relationships goes through, but for the most part, we enjoyed ...
A. 29 October 2007: From the way you referred to some of her interests and her sexual preference, it seems like there is a lot of bitterness on your side. It would be advised the best course of action would be to have some time alone to deal with the hurt you're u... (read in full...)
We have been having sex for 3 months but she is still tight. How can we loosen her up?
Q. Hi me and my girlfreind have been going out for 5 months now and we started having sex three months ago and for sum reason she is as tight as the first time we did it any advice on how to 'loosen her up' cheers...
A. 29 October 2007: If she's still getting wet, then it really isn't a problem, and trust me it's a good thing for the both of you, if it's a tit fight it feels a lot better. However, if you're referring to her not being aroused anymore than perhaps its becoming... (read in full...)
Was this an orgasm?
Q. Ive had never had an orgasm before ,but when I was having sex i felt like I had to pee ,what could this be?...
A. 29 October 2007: It's hard to say, some women do describe as a needing to pee sensation as the beginning stages of an orgasm, whilst for some it can feel a bit painful before they reach the point. Trust me, you'll know when you've actually had an orgasm, you'll b... (read in full...)
Do I report my boyfriend for domestic violence or not?
Q. I have known my bf for years, and have dated for a few months now. He beat me up pretty badly, all my xrays and catscans came back fine, but the police were called by the hospital and they want me to report it. i don't know what i should do, i don't ...
A. 29 October 2007: If you don't report this, he'll think he can get away with this sort of behaviour.
And if he believes he can escape this without punishment, what else will he consider?... (read in full...)
Why am I still single after 2 years? I feel like life is passing me by. Help!
Q. I am so lonely, I find it hard to cope with life. I am 28 and spilt with my ex two years ago, the problem is nobody i meet seems to like me. I feel like I have been single for five years and not two, as i only got back with my ex as I couldnt fin...
A. 29 October 2007: It seems to me that you are currently in a vicious circle. You lack self-confidence because you believe no-one likes, and you believe no-one likes you because you lack self-confidence so you just dig a bigger and bigger hole. It is also said tha... (read in full...)
How do I achieve a g spot orgasm?
Q. how do i acheive an orgasm through g spot i can climax through clitorol...
A. 29 October 2007: Make a beckon motion with your finger, facing towards you. You'll know you're touching the right part if you suddenly become wetter (for want of a better phrase) and it will begin to feel like you need to pee. As a result its probably best to... (read in full...)
Why am I tormented by visions of my ex doing things with other men?
Q. A few months ago, my girlfriend split with me because she was going to university far from me. And now, I keep envisioning her making out and having Sex with other guys. I am the only guy she has ever slept with, as she's never been in a long term ...
A. 29 October 2007: It is a healing process, and as she was your first it will be the hardest, so you can find some consolation in the fact that it will get easier in future. She will always have a place in your heart, unfortunately there's no escaping that. I don'... (read in full...)
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