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The guy I have a crush on told me he loved me! What should I do now!?
Q. i was talkin to a guy on the phone last night that i have had a crush on for along while. we used to see each other every day as just friends and we never kissed each other or anything because we where friends. but then he had to move away. i really ...
A. 5 April 2007: well if you're unsure about how far you want to go, maybe the first time you meet him make it in a more public place. whatever you do dont be pushed into anything and if he even tries to push you into anything, he's not the right guy for you. if ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he feels the same way as me ?
Q. I am in love with someone, we aint been on any dates, but we are very close. how do i know if he has feelings for me? if got no mutaul friends. when he see each other, we both give each a look, and when he talks to me, he cant make eye contact...
A. 23 March 2007: i know you're worried about it ruinging the friendship you have if you tell him, but if you've been feeling like this for a while now and you're sure it's not just a stage, then i really think you should tell him. yes, he may think it's crazy, but ... (read in full...)
How do you know your ready for sex and how can I be better prepared ?
Q. hi im still a virgin and me and my bf plan to have sex i just dont know if im ready or not and not sure if it will hurt as much as people say it does i would feel so much better if i knew alot more like how do you know if your ready? and does your ...
A. 21 March 2007: well having sex is a big thing and so you're bound to feel a bit nervous. but when you're ready, you're ready. you shouldn't do it just because you want to, but if you honestly think you are ready then you will feel comfortable.
some girls feel... (read in full...)
My boyfriend threatens to take away our baby!! I want to leave as he is violent!
Q. Hi im just need some help my boyfriend keeps putting hes hands up to me. We have a 5month old baby together. I tell him I dont want to be with him anymore, but he then takes the baby and says i will never see him again and I dont no what to do plea...
A. 21 March 2007: get out! leave as soon as you can! a man should never, EVER lay his hands on a woman, or even threat to! and if he's threatening to take you kid away, he's a wrongon. you have to leave when you can - dont even mention it to him. when he's out just ... (read in full...)
How can I get closer to this boy?
Q. well me and this boy, we have been showing signs of liking each other for 3 years and still we havent been bf n gf yet. he sticks up for me, and him n mates stare at me. i really like him. but when i confront him he says he duznt like me, but he ...
A. 20 March 2007: you know you're kind of in a similar situation to what i've been in - with the eye contact thing - it makes you think is he wanting me to look back or is he staring because he likes me or what? you dont know how to act! i know its hard but you have ... (read in full...)
I didnt get anything for my step mum for mothers day, it didnt seem important, now Im the bad guy and things are going to be awkward, any advice ?
Q. Ok, it was mothers day on Sunday and I didn't get anything for my Step-mother. Not because she did something to me but because I just didn't think it was that important. Plus I don't live with my parents anymore and I very rarely talk to them on the ...
A. 20 March 2007: i can understand why you might feel awkward, and so might she, but as bad as you may feel just say you're sorry and didn't mean to hurt her feelings. buy her something nice, like maybe a small gift and some flowers, etc, and explain you didnt mean ... (read in full...)
I constantly worry that people dont like me! Whats wrong with me ?
Q. i posted the previous question about driving guys away with my insecurities-i have another huge problem.i think that people dont like me so i don have many fiends.when u get 2 know me im really bubbbly and a nice person, but i think i come accross ...
A. 20 March 2007: i have bin through this soo many times, it's horrible! but i found that a lot of the time it was all in my head, and the more i thought people diddn't like me the more it seemeed they didn't! but the truth is, they did like me, i was just being ... (read in full...)
He keeps telling everyone he loves me!
Q. i am 13 and this boy keeps asking me out. ive been out with him about 4 times before. the last time was the longest and the best. about 3 weeks . the only thing was that he accused me of not spending enough time with him. thats why he dumped me. in ...
A. 19 March 2007: i think he generally likes you but kind of enjoys having the power over you to have you whenever he wants. if you think you really like him, confront him about it for sure. if he feels the same and really does like you he'll stop messing you about. ... (read in full...)
She lied to me about her faith! Should I end this relationship?
Q. I recently found out that my girlfriend of 6 months has been lying to me about her faith. She is a practicing Wiccan, and she's always led me to believe that she's a Christian. What makes me most upset isn't her different faith, but the very fact ...
A. 19 March 2007: hi there!
try to understand that wicca is seen as being evil by many people and so she may have been worried of what you may think - wicca is all about the elements - earth, wind, fire and water and SPIRIT. it just means enjoying the earths natu... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he's 27... and I met him on the 'net!
Q. I recently met a guy online who was 26 at the time, I told him I was 18 (even thgouh i'm 15, seemed like a good idea at the time). As soon as we met i told him the truth about my age, he said he was cool with it and glad I told him the truth. ...
A. 19 March 2007: sweetie thats such a big age difference that i really think you should end it, especially as you dont feel like you love him. he could be a great person, but you met him over the net! not only is this dangerous but also rather strange that a fully ... (read in full...)
Im 15 hes 18, Im pregnant, is he going to get into trouble as im underage ?
Q. Im 15 and my boyfriend is 18.. Many people say thats wrong. But we have been together for a year and we have had sex and now im pregnat with his baby what do I do? Is he going to get in trouble with the law for having sex with me?...
A. 19 March 2007: ok well firstly i think you should tell soeone, ie, your parents. also, as scary as this hwole will he get into trouble thing might seem, there are more important things 2 worry about. are you thinking of keeping this baby?and what are you gonna do ... (read in full...)
I did something that maybe I shouldnt have, hes now telling everyone and I feel silly and stupid!!
Q. Ok, A couple of months ago i did stuff with this boy who i really liked, i no i shouldnt have but i did and now i really regret it and only recently he has decided to tell everybody in my year group and i cant face them, i feel so stupid and am ...
A. 19 March 2007: hi there hunni. well, you realise you have fooled around and that it was wrong to do so, and now you've been found out. well as hard as it may seem now, i can assure you that sooner or later you will be yesterdays news! Gossip with teenagers is ... (read in full...)
My best friend keeps flirting with My bf!! How can I make her stop!?
Q. well ive been going out with my boyfriend for nearly two months. My so called best friend keeps flirting with him and its getting on my nerves to say the least!! i comfronted her about it and she said i like flirting with him and im not gonna sto...
A. 19 March 2007: although this sounds a bit like you're ditching your friend for you bf, this is not the case - tell her to get lost! she cant be that much of a great friend if she refuses to stop "for you" i mean you are supposed to be friends!
also, you need to s... (read in full...)
Everyone else has given up on me except my teacher, trouble is im starting to fancy him!!
Q. Well , i like a lot of people, have been going through a tough time reccently, with , well almost everything, fighting an eating disorder, fighting alcohol abuse and just about everything else. Well my teacher,he has been there for me, to liste...
A. 18 March 2007: i think at the moment you are feeling vunerable and unsafe so you are developing a little bit of a crush on someone you never thought you would. although you may be attracted to him he probably sees it as just helping a student out and being there ... (read in full...)
I gave my best friend's boyfriend a hand job!
Q. So two years ago I went out with this kid and it kind of failed, but we always remained really close friends. We talk all the time still and occasionally hang out. Well I still have feelings towards him and he flirts with me, but he is going out ...
A. 18 March 2007: ok well i think it's really bad what you've done, but im sure you probably know that already. i can understand why you're feeling like you cant tell her, but believe me, you have to. it's not fair to keep something like that from your mate, no ... (read in full...)
I feel like I cant trust him, he lied that he wasnt smoking then I caught him!!
Q. My boyfriend promised me if I continued the relationship he would stop smoking. Since then he has denied smoking when I have confronted him about smelling of smoke. I explained that I would not be cross if he had been smoking but I didn’t want him ...
A. 18 March 2007: if he's managing to go for ages without smoking then he cant be addicted, even if he really is trying to give up. unless of course this is because you refuse to let him smoke when you're together. If its not possible for him to get hold of a ciggie ... (read in full...)
I feel like I cant trust him, he lied that he wasnt smoking then I caught him!!
Q. My boyfriend promised me if I continued the relationship he would stop smoking. Since then he has denied smoking when I have confronted him about smelling of smoke. I explained that I would not be cross if he had been smoking but I didn’t want him ...
A. 18 March 2007: i dont agree with him not giving up for you - he might be trying but it is hard for smokers. addiction is hard to beat, but let him know that you'll help him through it and help him quit. don'tmake him choose though, because sometimes if he's angry ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she care that he raped me?
Q. My mum HATES my sisters boyfriend for cheating. But shes still good friends with my rapist. I just dont understand it, my sisters boyfriend has been cheating on her and staying out all night. Leaveing her to look after to kids. And she absolutely ...
A. 18 March 2007: i will make this brief - your mum is being completely out of order. i mean it would make you angry if your daughters bf was cheating on her, sure, but someting like this? how can't she see that its wrong? i dont know much on this subject but i would ... (read in full...)
I'm nearly 16 and have never kissed a girl, what's wrong with me?
Q. hi im 15 years old nearly 16 and i have never kissed a girl what's wrong with me? i am goin out with this girl this is only like my first girlfriend and i am scerd of kissing her because she has kissed alot of people so she will think im a rubbish ...
A. 18 March 2007: if this girl likes you enough she wont care what you kiss like and if your mates are there dont act nervous, just be natural. kissing kind of comes naturally anyway, so dont freak out. if she's kissed a lot of people she might tink you're not as ... (read in full...)
I know it can work if she gives me one more chance but how can I gain her trust again?
Q. I did the stupidest thing a guy could do.. over a year ago I cheated on my girlfriend. It was just a kiss.. and I told her about it. Yesterday she broke up with me because she said she's tired of worrying about me doing it again. I was so.. ...
A. 18 March 2007: you have to understand that what you did may always be at the back of her mind, because trust is so easy to lose yet unbelievabley difficult to gain again.
but although what you did was wrong, you told her about it which already shows you are an h... (read in full...)
I feel as if I don't mean anything to him any more... Help!!
Q. hey... well Im only 14 but i feel that myn and my boyfriends relationship is a lot more than a teenage fling.. we go to the same school and we see each other every morning because we are in the same form. We are in some classes together...
A. 18 March 2007: love is a really deep powerful storng word. at this age i dont know if you really are in love or not. thats for you to decide. but a relationship is a two way thing, it should never be one person always giving. I think telling him you love him could ... (read in full...)
I found a girl's phone number in his pocket, do you think he's cheating on me?
Q. My boyfriend came home at 5 oclock in the morning. I found a girl's phone number in his pocket. Do you think he's been cheating on me?...
A. 18 March 2007: Ok well first are you sure its actually a girls number? and if you are, this doesn't necessarily mean he's been cheating. But i can understand where you're coming from of course. If he had nothing to hide then he shouldn't be hiding it from you, but ... (read in full...)
Is there life after death? Is there hell and heaven? Is there reincarnation? Do we wake-up, and find out we're all aliens?
Q. hey this is a very wide question but hopefully itll mean i get more peoples opinions on it!! what you think happens when people die, is there life after death? my dad died recently and i cant help thinking whats happened to him so i'd like to know...
A. 18 March 2007: hi sweetie. to start off i'm sorry about your dad. i'm lucky enough to not have really lost anyone apart from my dog so i cant say i know what you're going through. Also, i cant tell you what to believe. But i can tell you what i think.
i dont thin... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to feel that there is no point to life?
Q. is it wrong to feel that there is no point to life? I sometimes feel kinda down i guess because, i don't have a great social life, partly because at school i hang between two groups and am consequently not as close to everyone in those two groups. ...
A. 18 March 2007: i have been in this situation and its horrible isnt it. you just dont feel like you fit in, you make friends with one group and for a while feel as though you really fit in but then you realise you dont. then it happens with another group but again ... (read in full...)
I switched her contraceptive pill with sugar pills and now she's pregnant and crying all the time, I feel so guilty now, should I come clean and tell her what I did?
Q. [Moderator Note: If you don't have anything helpful to suggest then don't waste your time replying] Hi, I did something stupid, please don't judge. Right well, I've been with my girlfriend Vanessa for about 4 years now. I'm 32, she's 25. Ev...
A. 18 March 2007: As scary as you know the consequences may be, you have to face them. trust me, whether she has the baby or not you will be carrying a load of guilt around with you for the next 20 or so years! You just HAVE to tell her, it's not fair. she could be ... (read in full...)
What does this "Guy" want from me? Why did he put me here????
Q. I've had it with this guy I do the right things in life, and all I see is the people who do wrong and not live God like get everything they want. I mean what does this guy want from me, if he doesn't like me then why would he put me on this earth ...
A. 18 March 2007: I know that believing in something you cant see or hear, touch or smell is hard. Theres so many big questions, like why is there so much suffering in the world and why do people die? I'm gonna tell you a story. What you think of it is up to you.
a... (read in full...)
Recently I've been wanting my boyfriend to physically and emotionally abuse me and I don't understand why???
Q. I need help, lately I have found myself falling out of love with my boyfriend, although he is the greatest guy in the world and I dont understand why. But the worrying thing is that I have recently wanted him to physically and emotionally abuse me, ...
A. 17 March 2007: Perhaps you want him to do these things as an excuse to leave him. it can be hard leaving the one you used to love and maybe you feel guilty because he's a great guy like you said so there's not really any reason or you to be leaving him. but if ... (read in full...)
He fingered me and I noticed I was bleeding afterwards. What's wrong with me????
Q. I just got fingered by my boyfriend, we have had sex a few time before but this time when I got home I found blood and we didnt have sex. I can't go to the doctors because I'm not allowed to be doing this. I'm really scared and would love it if ...
A. 17 March 2007: ok. your only young and already having sex, so it is expected to bleed. i cant really say whats wrong with you, im sure its nothing serious. but please tell me you are using protection when you sleep together! have you told your boyfriend? i know it ... (read in full...)
Does she just like me as a friend or am I reading her all wrong?
Q. Bah. Im 16, male, in the UK. And, i'm anything but confident. I must be one of the only guys in my year who hasn't had a girlfriend yet and it drives me insane. There is one girl, who I like, a lot a lot and I have for quite a while now. A ...
A. 17 March 2007: ok, lets take this slowly! as i am a female myself, i can try to help you by understanding some of the girl lagnuage, but not every girl thinks the same way. I honestly think she might like you back, even though she has a lot of boyfriends. ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with this girl and need advice!
Q. I think im in love with this girl- I aint told anyone, its my first emotion of this kind- I need advice......
A. 17 March 2007: to give you the best answer i can, would you mind answering a few questions yourself? how well do you know this girl, and is there any chance she likes you back? See, sometimes, you feel as though you love someone when really you dont, its just a ... (read in full...)
She just wants to be friends but I want to be more than that!
Q. I've liked her for 2 years, we went out a few times...and we've always been close, but she said we wont ever go out again,cuz id have to change and she said im perfect as a best friend.an weve been best friends for those 2 years now, but i still ...
A. 17 March 2007: You never know what could happen. she likes you as just a friend for now, so understand what she feels. I understand that it would be awkward for her if you started a relationship, but she shouldn't want you to change. if you're perfect as a friend, ... (read in full...)
I have a very negative self image and can't bear to look at myself in a mirror.
Q. I am 18, at uni and fed up! I've only had one boyfriend (being single at the moment) and he constantly pressured me for sex, which at the time I was not prepared to give him. I have a very negative self-image (can't bear to catch sight of myself i...
A. 17 March 2007: You've probably heard the saying that its whats on the inside that counts right? Well, I know that thats not particularly helpful, although it is true. I mean, look at Queen latifa! I know that may seem like a weird example, but she's not slim and ... (read in full...)
He asked me would I ever have an abortion and I thought that really strange...?
Q. A few months ago after I got together with this guy while in South Africa for a few months (didn't have sex with him), we were laying in bed just kissing, making out and talking about lots of different things, deep things (his father who died- both ...
A. 17 March 2007: It sounds to me like you really like this guy - you said you were talking about deep things which is good in a relationship. you should always understand each other. perhaps he was asking you this not because he wanted to rush you into it but ... (read in full...)
I don't think he likes me, but I like him! How do I tell him my feelings?
Q. How do i tell a guy i have liked him for a really long time when i dont think he likes me?...
A. 17 March 2007: Are you and this guy friends or are you just "there"? Why do yo think he doesn't like you? you never know until you give it a try. Perhaps just flirt a bit but dont make yourself look stupid, you dont want to mess things up. If you really like him, ... (read in full...)
This might sound stupid but how can you tell if a guy is flirting with you without making his self too obvious?
Q. This might sound stupid but how can you tell if a guy is flirting with you without making his self too obvious?...
A. 17 March 2007: Guys! They are so complicated right? well, all guys have their own ways of showing their feelings, like girls do. some guys are more emotional and show when they're flirting easily, such as tellin you compliments to your face, etc, whereas another ... (read in full...)
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