Who would you choose - money or no money?
Q. Ok,Simple question. If you re torn betweet two men for marrige, One of whom Is pretty rich(can have laisure and relaxed life with), and the Other not so much(indeed may have money problem later), You like them both in certain way, Who would you ...
A. 4 November 2007: If i was in your position i would choose neither!!
You don't seem sure who you want regardless of money or lack of, you are not 100% committed to either men and to make a marriage work you must be committed!!
Marriage is very special, when two peop... (read in full...)
How can I tell her to butt out - but nicely?
Q. My best friend and I have been friends for 7 years. She has always been the promiscuous type; all the boys have to love her. One thing that has been bothering me lately is her tendency to put men over me. I understand that when you're dating someone ...
A. 4 November 2007: Why are you still friends with her, when she puts you so low on her agenda??? What are you really getting out of this friendship??
It seems to me that she has a big problem with herself, and needs to be valued and worshipped by other men, to make... (read in full...)
I still have strong feelings for him, but don't know what to do.
Q. I lost my virginity to a guy i was dating nearly two years ago..he ended things quite soon after because he got back with his ex....so i never really got over him but carried on with things as normal. Completly out of the blue i got an email fr...
A. 28 October 2007: Think about it, if this guy really loved you, like you want him to, he would leave his girlfriend!!!! and he would not make you responsible for the break up!!
I think he is using you, and i think deep down you know it too!! I bet if his girl... (read in full...)
She says she likes me as a friend, but she's not continuing that relationship
Q. Hi, I met this girl who is a orpan,adopted by a holland couple when she was a yr old.She was adopted from bombay(india).She had come to India for around 14 dayz.When we had gone out for the 1st time we talked a lot about our cultures and stuff li...
A. 28 October 2007: I think your friend has a lot of issues to sort out before she thinks of having any relationship with you or any one.
I feel she can only handle casual relationships at the moment, as there is no pressure or responsibilty on her part!!
If it was m... (read in full...)
Should I play hard to get with him or stay as I am?
Q. I met this guy online a 5 months ago, before that we had sent pics back and fourth, we talked about everything..he is in the middle of a divorce right now..He has never said he loved me but he did say he was falling for me..I fell in love way to ...
A. 21 October 2007: If he is going through a divorce right now, he is not in the right frame of mind to give you what you want, his emotions are all over the place. I think he cares for you alot, but he stopping himself from falling for you because he is scared of ... (read in full...)
I hit it off with someone online and later asked her out. Now she's being evasive. Do I let it go or ask where I stand?
Q. About four weeks ago I met someone online and we immediately hit it off. She was beautiful in her photos, fascinating to talk to and we have quite a lot in common. We chatted for about an hour, batting responses back and forth and she said it was ...
A. 21 October 2007: You have only started chatting 4 weeks ago, that is not a long time, so my advice is to back off a bit as you seem to be taking things too seriously at such an early stage which i'm afraid puts people off, which is what's happening here!! You so... (read in full...)
How do I keep my online friend?
Q. hi i need some advice as i am going CRAZY about this at the moment.. so i have been seing this girl online for about 3 months now and things have been going well but this week she told me that i have been trying to contact her too much and that it ...
A. 21 October 2007: I think you have got a bit carried away here, going by the fact that you have never met. I know your emotions are all over the place but for you own sake you need to chill out big style!! You must take your rose tinted glasses off for a second and ... (read in full...)
My long distance girlfriend says she loves me, but isnt IN love with me
Q. My fiancee and I broke up two months ago so she could figure out what as wrong and why she wasn't feeling the same way she had when we started dating. We were together for four years and also long distance relationship, but we visit each other ...
A. 21 October 2007: Tell me, is that what you really want?? Is this 'open relationship' one way traffic, or do you get to date people too?? Going by what you say, you love this girl too much to watch her date others, but i think you are just putting up with it because ... (read in full...)
Is there a future for us? - we have fallen in love
Q. recently been involved in an affair with someone from the past,both of us have fallen in love .He does not love his wife and has told her he wants to leave many times even before i even come back into his life but always ends up staying for the 3 ...
A. 7 October 2007: Only leave your husband because it is right for you not because of someone else. If you had not had a relationship with your lover, would you still want to leave your husband?? Your lover must ask himself the same question also.
I know this is a re... (read in full...)
My wife chats to other men in internet chatrooms. Am I right to be annoyed and upset?
Q. My wife has recently started using internet chat sites, mainly a flirting one. She can sit for hours chatting to other men most of which is of a personal and sexual nature, she has also given out her mobile number to some of these men so that they ...
A. 7 October 2007: You must talk to your wife now about this!!!
Is your relationship going through a bad patch? When did she start to chat to other men? Has something happened to make her do this??
Do you want your marriage to work? if so then you must ask her why ... (read in full...)
Why do men seek attention from other women?
Q. Hi there, I recently read some of your response and would like to ask you the following. I have a wonderful man. Treats me with respect, love, loving words, very complimentary, we wake in the morning and he holds me and tells me I'm beautifu...
A. 7 October 2007: You are going to have to understand that men will look at attractive women, it is just the way they are. I know this is not what you wanted to hear, but men are only human.
If a really sexy man walked passed you, would you not look??? be hone... (read in full...)
What are his feelings?
Q. For several months a man at work and I talked and became good friends. We both stated to each other that we liked each other. He was taking quite a ribbing at work from the guys about me and at first he said, just let them talk. We like each ...
A. 7 October 2007: All i know with shy people, from being one, is that they like their privacy, and they don't like people knowing personal stuff about them. So you moving to a new office could be all that it takes to get this relationship going, it will take the ... (read in full...)
I'm athletic and confident but I'm still a virgin. Please help!
Q. I'm 22 years of age and have never really been in a long-term relationship. Up until a couple of years ago, I had no self-confidence and could never understand how anyone would want to be with me, let alone how they could find me remotely attract...
A. 7 October 2007: You say that your confidence has grown over the years which is great, but i don't think your totally where you want to be yet, are you??
I think you have to stop making your virginity such an issue, i know that the more attention you give to some... (read in full...)
I don't think he loves me enough - should I let him get me pregnant?
Q. dear cupid\ I'm in a distance relationship with this guy, he is working and I am student, I'm 19 he is 24. At times he is all caring and loving, but when he is angry he calls me names and yet he says he loves me, he even wants to inpregnate me...
A. 7 October 2007: Why do you love someone who doesn't treat you right???
Please DO NOT get pregnant with this guy, you may think that this will make him love you but it won't. First of all babies are very hard work were both parents have to give up so much and this... (read in full...)
I hate feeling like the fat ugly one next to all my gorgeous friends!
Q. I hate feeling like the fat ugly one next to all my gorgeous friends. Every guy that I ever like ends up with one of my two best friends. Last night I was at a party and my "best friend" got off with the guy that I was interested in. I always ...
A. 7 October 2007: If you are at 10 stone and you are 5ft 10in take it from me you are at your ideal weight, but you are so down on yourself and constantly comparing yourself to others, that you don't see that you are absolutly fine the way you are!!
You have got to s... (read in full...)
I loaned him a lot of money - am I being used?
Q. I have a friend, we did everything together, he rang every night just to say hello and all that kind of stuff. Everyone thought we were going out together. I sort of started to like him but he said he wasn't interested after he had his heart broken ...
A. 6 October 2007: He isn't with you because he had his heart broke by an ex, so why is he going out with someone else???? I do think he is using you because now that he has someone else he doesn't contact you that often, what does that say?? I think you need to brea... (read in full...)
When to be used and treated badly in a relation is a "need."
Q. The last 5 boyfriends I've had have all been lovely, charming, romantic gentleman. Three of them have told me that they love me. But i am SICK of KNOWING that I'm the one thats going to have to end it. Im not the kind of girl who sits pining after a ...
A. 6 October 2007: Are you mad??? Look at your friend when she has just been hurt, do you really want that to be you??
You don't like 'nice' guys because i guess you don't think you deserve to be treated with respect. I assume you think these guys are boring whic... (read in full...)
I've slept with a lad who has a g/f. I've ended it and now I'm devastated. Please help!
Q. I've just split up wit a lad iv been sleeping with for the past few months, we werent seeing each other, cos he has a girlfriend, i no its wrong but i cudnt help it. we admitted we were falling for each other and after a couple of weeks of tryin t...
A. 6 October 2007: Please don't go with another man just to get over your lover, this will only make things worse and you will just fall for another prat!!
You have got to start to feel good about yourself without seeking approval that your worthwhile from anot... (read in full...)
I don't even remember what attracted me to my partner in the first place. Is it over?
Q. Is there even a glimmer of hope? I have completely lost interest in my partner. This didnt happen overnight it after a horrible past 2 yrs where every possible nightmare happened. He went overseas for work, i got pregnant, we had financial constrai...
A. 4 October 2007: Once you have started to get that 'cringe' feeling, yes in my opinion, that is the kiss of death to the relationship. Just because he fathered your child, doesn't mean you have to put yourself through hell staying and maintaning a relationship if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend asked me if I would have an orgy, which I'm anxious to try but don't know what to do.
Q. my boyfriend recenty asked me if i would have an orji. me and 3 other boys. i am quite anxious to try it and would like to give it a go but i wouldnt know what to do... i am ready for sex have done it tons of times but i dont know whether it would ...
A. 30 September 2007: NO!!! Please don't do it, you will regret it, you are already having doubts so what does that say??
What reasons does you b/friend give for wanting you to do this, if he is saying 'it will spice up our sex life' or 'if you love me you will do it' ... (read in full...)
My gf said her boss would ride her to the airport for a business trip, before leaving she said she'd quit her job because I seemed...jealous. I was not, although having discovered flirtacious texts from him. What do you think?
Q. I need some advice about my girlfriend. Recently it's come to my attention that her new boss has been texting my lady late at night. She dosen't know I've seen them and as soon as she reads them she deletes them. For the most part the texts I've ...
A. 30 September 2007: I think your girlfriends boss really fancies her, and your girlfriend is secretly liking the attention he gives her and the way he makes her feel which makes her feel guilty because of you, which is why she flipped out at you and put the blame on ... (read in full...)
My abusive wife and I are splitting - I want to tell my sister-in-law that I love her! What do I do?
Q. i have been with my wife for 12 years now married for 5years of that now . she has given me black eyes and more we dont have kids thank god. it been 4years now and iam still in deep love with her sister i have tryed to keep away but all that has ...
A. 24 September 2007: You have just came out of a very absusive relationship that lasted a long time, that has bound to have done something to your selfesteam and your self worth, so you must have a time out period and be on your own ( i mean no partner)
You must rebu... (read in full...)
How do I get over the split?
Q. i split with my fiance a couple of days ago and im finding it really hard to cope. i just dont understand why he thought it wasnt working and within 24hours he decided we were not working no more how can i forget and move on im only 18 years old but ...
A. 23 September 2007: Please believe me you will get over this, you just need a bit of time. I know he has really hurt you but don't feel too bad about him as he probably doesn't know what he wants. So it has nothing to do with you, he is probably at a young age were he ... (read in full...)
Moods swings from my girlfriend are killing me!
Q. My girlfriend is 5 months pregnant, and it has been one hell of a roller coaster ride. To begin, before she was pregnant she had violent and very aggressive mood swings. She demeaned me in front of some of my friends, ripped one of my shirts, and ...
A. 23 September 2007: You must get her to a doctor now!!!! Your girfriend must see that she needs help, as it may get worse when the baby is born. If you love her you must stay strong and i know it is really hard for you but she is going through her own kind of hell ... (read in full...)
How do I control my jealousy???
Q. I think jealousy is ruining my relationship and I don't know how to control it. With my current b/f I get so paranoid about a couple of the gals at his office, especially when he has to travel out of town. Also, I can't stand it that a couple of ...
A. 23 September 2007: I am going to be blunt here, yes you are going to ruin your relationship if you don't sort your jealousy out!!
I know it is hard to just stop having paranoid feelings, but you must realise that is what they are. I have a feeling you are a bit inse... (read in full...)
She laughed of my body as we were getting intimate. What should I do?
Q. Me and my girlfriend were "getting in the mood", but when I dropped my pants she laughed and said I was small. What should I do?...
A. 19 September 2007: DUMP HER FORGET HER AND MOVE ON, all in that order!!!... (read in full...)
My self esteem is so low and I really can't afford the counslor that I've booked. Any help please?
Q. I think i'm cracking up. I've always felt like i dont fit in any where, my self esteem has taken a battering over the years. I was bullied in the past at work and school and pretty much dont know where my life is going. I broke up with another ...
A. 19 September 2007: First of all stop being so hard on yourself, everyone and i mean everyone gets insecure, it's just on different levels. How you treat yourself is how others will treat you especially bullies, i am not saying toughen up but you have got to start ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me anymore. How can I respond properly to his comments about me?
Q. Sorry for this silly question, but trying to decide how to respond to my future x, he informs me after 5 years of being together, that he can't totally commit to me because he needs a different body type to keep him turned on, and I lack certain p...
A. 19 September 2007: I have to admit that when i first read your story i got very angry, and you should be too!!! You said yourself that he isn't really good looking so who the hell does he think he is trying to make you feel crap about yourself??
Obviously some... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from becoming too emotionally attached to men?
Q. How can I stop myself from becoming too emotionally attached to men? In the past year Ive had short relationships with 4 men and each one I really fell for. But then when we split it hurt like hell - even if I had only been with them a few weeks. ...
A. 16 September 2007: The only way you feel good about yourself is when your in the company of men. You need to validate yourself without seeking the approval of a man. Look at your sister and women like her, i bet they like themselves and treat themselves well but not ... (read in full...)
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