It all seemed like a wonderful dream, now it's turning into a nightmare.
Q. Did I overreact? I've been with my boyfriend for seven weeks but because he lives quite far away we've only seen each other seven times. When we do meet it's only for a night and a bit of the morning as our work shifts clash. He told me he loved me ...
A. 10 July 2007: Good luck and stick to your principles x x... (read in full...)
We had a phone relationship but when we met he said I'm different; now we fight constantly
Q. Hi I met a the most wonderful person and we fell in love. We carried on a phone relationship for 3 and a half months before we met. I love him completely nad he doubts that now saying that i am different in person. We fight all the time and ever...
A. 9 July 2007: What is it you think you have? I'm sorry but a relationship that works well on the phone but disastrous in the flesh is not going to work, dont make that move as i think that now you've met he no longer feels the same and coming up with all these ... (read in full...)
How do you go about telling her for her own sake that her weight is really getting out of hand?
Q. Hey everyone i have a kinda tough question i guess. one of my best mates has a rather large partner. the other night they had a row about her size. she is a uk size 30. he said to her that he was concerned about the size she was gettin to and th...
A. 9 July 2007: Size 30 is definitely way too big for anyone,i know a lot of large people are happy etc etc but thier heart isn't, nor their lungs, kidneys, or joints.
It is a really delicate situation for all concerned, no one wants to offend your friend or hurt... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I fight a lot and he has punched me, but it feels right to be with him.
Q. My friends told me I should break up with my boyfriend and I couldn't do so I started to act clingy and annoying so he would dump me but in my heart I didn't want to do it. Our relationship was bad as we would argue so much we didn't know anything ...
A. 9 July 2007: Families dont hurt each other in that way nor do friends. You dont need that kind of relationship not now or ever. If you want to remain friends because he's in the group then fine but please dont let anyone treat you in that way ever again, no one ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him or just knock it on the head?
Q. I started seeing a guy from work, we were both in relationships with other people. We both separated from our partners to be together and had a very happy 3 months. He has a 3 year old son who he loves to pieces. He decided he missed his son, and ...
A. 9 July 2007: Hi, he could still have a relationship with his son while seperated! No one goes back to there ex for the sake of the children especially if they are in a relationship outside the marriage that they are happy in, it's hard enough making the step of ... (read in full...)
We've been together for years but he never buys me anything
Q. I been with him several years but he never buy me thing's it hurts my feeling that i want out what should I do????...
A. 9 July 2007: Hi, why dont you buy him a gift, something small and inexpensive as a kind of hint. He may not be that sentimental or sensitive, some men aren't.
Do you feel he loves you? does he show it in other ways? if not sit down and tel him how hurt you feel... (read in full...)
I need passion in my life, I want it desperately!!!
Q. ok here is my position/dilemma I moved abroad 9 years ago and almost immmediately fell pregnant and married a friend of many years. Within the first 2 years I suspected he was cheating which was indeed a wake up call that prompted me to attain ...
A. 9 July 2007: Hi, I think it's time you moved on, the marriage obviously isn't going to work after so much has gone on. Concentrate on looking after your son and making a life for yourselves.
Dont rush into anything with anyone, you probably feel like you've miss... (read in full...)
I told my bf that I started thinking he was being unfaithful and it led to an argument! Now he's been avoiding me a bit. How do I get our relationship back on track?
Q. I met my boyfriend about 2 years ago online. Our relationship has been going well but soon I started to think he was cheating on me. Then just yesterday told him about it and the next thing you know we were in a bit of an argument. Now he has been ...
A. 9 July 2007: Hi, dont you just hate that? you wish you hadn't opened your mouth, but if you were having doubts you had no choice really. He may just feel let down finding out that you dont trust him or he's as guilty as sin and annoyed you've sussed him out! ... (read in full...)
We've been together for 2 years and I've never met his mother!
Q. I have been with this guy for 2 years, We have fallen in love with each other. I see him almost everyday and pretty much his coworkers and some friends know about us, my friends do too. but I noticed in the past when we were just friends how he ...
A. 9 July 2007: Hi, he obviously has his reasons but from what you've written i cant tell you why. The only way you will find out is to ask him, it may be that the other g/f's were nothing more than friends or were just casual relationships, i really have no idea, ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but have always had something with this other guy, like a weird connection.
Q. There is this guy. He has been my friend since we were 6 years old say. We always played about and flirted when younger. He always came round to see me and my parents regularly. He has recently gone to uni and come back with a new girlfriend ...
A. 9 July 2007: Really sorry, i just read it again and yes i did read it wrong the first time.
He's either jealous of you and your boyfriend, hence the making sure you know what he's getting up to hoping to make you jealous, or his g/f has asked him not to spea... (read in full...)
According to my friends I should just go round, get all my stuff out, and post keys through letter box.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having problems recently - he's been backing off because of trust issues, problems with his daughter etc - but we were supposed to be going on holiday this week to sort things out. He backtracked a couple of weeks ag...
A. 6 July 2007: You go girl. lots of respect for your decision, loads of luck , love and happiness for your future x... (read in full...)
What do I do about this flirty 14 year old girl, who has a crush on me?
Q. ok im 17, im a start senior year after this summer, but i have a friend who ran track with me, one day her sister met me, and well she's really into me. shes going to be a freshmen after this summer. so makes her 14. i like her and she knows and she ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, Talk to her brother if you feel you cant talk to her. She needs to be let down gently. Dont leave it too long it will only hurt her more.
If on the other hand you like her and would like to date her, then just remember she's only 14, the 3 year... (read in full...)
What do I do about this flirty 14 year old girl, who has a crush on me?
Q. ok im 17, im a start senior year after this summer, but i have a friend who ran track with me, one day her sister met me, and well she's really into me. shes going to be a freshmen after this summer. so makes her 14. i like her and she knows and she ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, Talk to her brother if you feel you cant talk to her. She needs to be let down gently. Dont leave it too long it will only hurt her more.
If on the other hand you like her and would like to date her, then just remember she's only 14, the 3 year... (read in full...)
Are her e-mail 'kisses' ..a true sign she fancies me?
Q. I really fancy a female colleague of mine, and we have been flirting quite strongly for a couple of months now. The other day we exchanged email addresses and the other night i sent her a mail, and at the end of what i wrote i put a kiss next to my ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, She fancies you for sure. Go for it ask her out. Lots of luck x... (read in full...)
I've started seeing this guy and I really like him but there's one problem, his best friend is my ex.
Q. I've started seeing this guy and I really like him but there's one problem, his best friend is my ex. He finished with me three weeks ago and told me to move on so I have and I'm dating his best friend but they're falling out over me and I'm being ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, he told you to move on and you have. If he doesn't want you why does he care that your mate does?
Do what you want, dont let anyone threaten you, it's your life, you're young, dont let an ex try to tel you who you can and cant see, espe... (read in full...)
I am with another guy, but still have strong feelings for my ex, but I'm not sure if he feels the same and I don't want to make a big mistake.
Q. I split up with an ex 3 years ago, since then we have been seeing other people. Although we aren't together he still texts me occasionally. I am with another guy, but still have strong feelings for my ex, but I'm not sure if he feels the same and I ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, Ask him, that is the only way you will know how he feels.
You obviously dont think to much of your b/f and is it fair to stay with him only because you dont want to make a mistake if your ex doesn't want you? How would you feel if your b/f was ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but have always had something with this other guy, like a weird connection.
Q. There is this guy. He has been my friend since we were 6 years old say. We always played about and flirted when younger. He always came round to see me and my parents regularly. He has recently gone to uni and come back with a new girlfriend ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, he's your mate isn't he? cause he's going to talk to you about his girlfriend thats what mates do, is it him acting awkward when you're about when he's with his girlfriend or is it you?
Sorry but i think you fancy him and you are very jeal... (read in full...)
It all seemed like a wonderful dream, now it's turning into a nightmare.
Q. Did I overreact? I've been with my boyfriend for seven weeks but because he lives quite far away we've only seen each other seven times. When we do meet it's only for a night and a bit of the morning as our work shifts clash. He told me he loved me ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, I really think you should get out,you dont know each other well enough for him to be tellin you how you should be in a relationship.
You sound worlds apart, what right does he have to tell you how you should live your life, disrespecting your... (read in full...)
He's been great towards me after cheating in the past but how can I ever learn to trust him again?
Q. Let's say you have been with someone for many years. You can tell he loves you because of his actions. He treats you the way a man in love treats his lady, but in the past he did cheat on you and now he is trying fix his ways to win you back. But ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, it sounds like you are both happy but the trust has been bruised and wont heal, so it leaves you doubting him and feeling guilty about doubting him.
It sounds like he's doing his best to show you how much he loves and cares for you, why dont... (read in full...)
According to my friends I should just go round, get all my stuff out, and post keys through letter box.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having problems recently - he's been backing off because of trust issues, problems with his daughter etc - but we were supposed to be going on holiday this week to sort things out. He backtracked a couple of weeks ag...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, he doesn't deserve a confrontation and he certainly doesn't deserve you. He agreed you have problems and this week was supposed to be all about you sorting things out,sorting the relationship is not on his priority list, he thinks he's got you ... (read in full...)
I find it very hard to trust him on the internet.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, but I find it very hard to trust him on the internet... We met each other on a dating site 2years ago and I left my partner to be with him. Things were going well, but I have a bad case of p...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, you are not being silly and you have every right to feel paranoid, i know i would, his excuses are really lame,why wouldn't his friend use his own picture? no sorry i dont buy it either.
Without trust you dont have anything, leave him to his ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I really love him or if it is just a convenient way for me to have a house and live closer to my job.
Q. I have been with my other for 5 years. We now have a kid together. I have left my boyfriend on 3 different occasions in the past years. We are being civil now since the last break in March - how do I know if I really love him or if it is just a ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, Dont do anything for anyone but yourself,if you're happy then your boys will be happy.
You obviously have doubts about the relationship or you wouldn't be looking for advice. It's clear that you love him but the question is are you in love with... (read in full...)
I love my husband even though we've had our bad times but I feel I've missed out on other parts of my life.
Q. I've been married 5 years and got together when I was only 16, I love my husband even though we've had our bad times but I feel I've missed out on other parts of my life. I know I'm being selfish but I can't shake this feeling that there's more to ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, The grass isn't always greener on the other side! You say you love your husband but feel you've missed out on so much, how does he feel? have you any children? have you told him how you feel? i know, sorry lots of questions but until i actually ... (read in full...)
I love my husband even though we've had our bad times but I feel I've missed out on other parts of my life.
Q. I've been married 5 years and got together when I was only 16, I love my husband even though we've had our bad times but I feel I've missed out on other parts of my life. I know I'm being selfish but I can't shake this feeling that there's more to ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi, T... (read in full...)
How can I let my boyfriend see I still love him and want him to come back to me?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and have a lovely 3 year old son, see my problem is for the past week my boyfriend has been going out all day and not even tried once to spend time with me, we had this really silly but big arugement and ...
A. 5 July 2007: Hi, You need to talk to him and find out what it is he wants, and if anything is going on with kerry.
I obviously know nothing about any of you or the kind of relationship you've had over the last 5 years, but it seems that he wants out but in a wa... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me.
Q. This probably sounds quite pathetic but I feel like my boyfriend doesn't appreciate me. It seems like I'm the only one making an effort to see him or make him happy. I put myself out there with him 100%, I don't see the point in holding anything ...
A. 5 July 2007: Hi, you must feel like you're banging your head against a brick wall, you should still be in the honeymoon phase, not beating yourself up wondering whats going on in his head.
You need to try to talk to him and tell him how the relationship is maki... (read in full...)
I acted very jealous one night when we were out and now she's being a bit cold towards me, how do I deal with this?
Q. On a night out with girlfriend and friends I got very drunk and acted very jealously. I appologised the next day to my girlfriend but have found her being a little cold to me since. I find myself now over accommodating for the shakiness in our ...
A. 5 July 2007: Hi, it's time to sit down and clear the air. We've all done it (well i have)Explain that yes you were jealous of what ever it was that happened but had you been sober you would have seen it for what it was and not have reacted in that way. Tell her ... (read in full...)
Help! I think my boyfriend is sleeping with his younger sister!
Q. Help! I think my boyfriend is sleeping with his younger sister! I have no proof, what should I do? They both smoke pot, and talk about porn and things....He has even told me that he thinks his sister looks like Angelina Jolie (v.unlikely) and this...
A. 5 July 2007: Hi, If my partner were to ask me about the relationship i had with my brother in that way i wouldn't just walk away! i'm sure that i would be and act horrified that we were giving that impression and that he needed to ask, i would do everything in ... (read in full...)
We've broken up twice and he's broken my heart; what is he playing at now?
Q. Hi, Long story last year three days before my birthday my bf broke up with me by phone... After three years. I'll admit i was not the best in a relationship i loved him to bits but was clingy. But then again he was not best boyfriend either, picked ...
A. 4 July 2007: Hi, My advice would be to find another one! It doesn't seem that either of you were that committed. Seems like it was a bit of a game for him, he knew how you felt and treated you the way he did because he knew you would put up with almost anything. ... (read in full...)
I met a guy that I can't stop thinking about but he's in a happy relationship
Q. i just met this guy at a friends house, i really like him and cant get him out of my head, but he has a girlfriend for 17 months and he really likes her, i dont feel like going out with friends anymore and i just feel sad all the time, what can i ...
A. 4 July 2007: Hi, Think about what you're doing, you met this guy and you like him, he's in a long term relationship, so it's out of bounds really. Dont put your life on hold, get out there and enjoy your life, this guy can be a mate and when you get to know him ... (read in full...)
We broke up and she'll take my calls, but not see me--what is up?
Q. Hi, Ladies, this is for you please! My ex and i are recently broken up. I called her a few times to invite her out, she took my calls, but didn't see me. She went on a trip last week, and came back last Tuesday. I phoned her then, left a message...
A. 3 July 2007: Hi, sorry but as i haven't a clue why you broke up it's a bit tough for me to assume what your ex is thinking. But from what you've written i would say that she left you and her BAG because she doesn't need either, sorry to be so blunt but it's been ... (read in full...)
He left me as he felt I was pressuring him but he's the only man I've ever wanted to commit to
Q. For the first time in my life I found the man I wanted to marry. I am a successful attractive 38 year old female with a history of dating many nice men in the past but this one in particular stole my heart like no other. He has ended the ...
A. 3 July 2007: Hi, why is it the ones you dont really want wont leave and the ones you adore run for the hills!
I really do feel for you i'm going through much the same, but my ex is alot younger than me and after 6 months i know that i have to move on, it's been... (read in full...)
My marriage in on the rocks and now she is going to go out with her ex, and I am not invited!
Q. my wife and i have been together for near 5 yrs and married for near 2. since then alot has hapend that would put any1 under stress, had a baby, moved home 3 times, i have started my own business that is taking its time getting off the ground, ...
A. 3 July 2007: Hi Noel, dont want to dash all your hopes but i think she has just given up on everything at the moment. It sounds like you've both been through a really rough time and it affects people differently. I'm no expert but i feel your wife may be a ... (read in full...)
He is my best friend as well as my boyfriend but I still feel he flirts too much.
Q. hi i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and i love him so much. recently i found out that he went thru a phase where he thought he didnt want to be together and was flirting with other girls and actually kissed one. then he lied about it. i co...
A. 10 June 2007: Hi, ask him to stop texting her as it upsets you. If he wants you to regain the trust you once had in him then he has to prove to you that he can be trusted.He may quite enjoy knowing that you are jealous, but he has to realise that the relationship ... (read in full...)
Hi is so consumed by his problems, I worry that I will become so unhappy and he wouldn't be able to make an effort to save our relationship.
Q. I have a boyfriend going through a hard time in his professional life - has been for the last two years - it is affecting our relationship too much - he takes his disappointment anger etc out on me - to the point where I feel he is not realisin...
A. 10 June 2007: Hi, i think you are being as supportive as you can be but i think he may need a bit of professional help to overcome his stress but you may find it hard convincing him that he has that much of a problem, however please try for both your sakes. You ... (read in full...)
Should I walk up to him, kiss him, then walk away. I am crazy on him!!!
Q. I am so crazy about this boy and i have been getting so stressed out about it, i am thinking about just walking straight up to him, kiss him,and walking away. Is this a good idea. ...
A. 10 June 2007: Hi, probably not a good idea, you may both end up feeling really embarrassed and not being able to look at each other again.
Why dont you try talking to him, hang around him and his mates and start up a frienship then who knows, he may become your... (read in full...)
Why is it that after a breakup the person who intiates the breakup always wants friendship and then when you offer it to them they do not want it
Q. I am a little confused right now and thank in advance anyone who takes the time out to answer my question. Why is it that after a breakup the person who intiates the breakup always wants friendship and then when you offer it to them they do not want ...
A. 10 June 2007: Hi, In my experience every break up has ended with the words 'we'll remain friends' and for a while this is the case, then as soon as they feel you've got over the break up and are ok with the situation they widen the space that they needed in the ... (read in full...)
Ive started to get really strong feelings for a really close work colleague.
Q. Ive started to get really strong feelings for a really close work colleague. We laugh and flirt with each other all the time, but I think the feelings are all one sided. He says he cares about me very much, and that he wouldnt want to hurt me, but ...
A. 10 June 2007: Hi, you dont have to make him notice you he already has! He obviously thinks a lot of you as a friend to be able to tell you he doesn't want to hurt you, and by telling you that, i think he may have realised that your feelings go a little deeper and ... (read in full...)
I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years now but feel I don't love her anymore.
Q. Hello. I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and we where very much in love. However over the last week i have had feelings that i no longer love her, this hurts and i really want to love her, i can only describe what i am feeling as i ...
A. 10 June 2007: Hi justme86, Ithink in every relationship we all go through a time when we wonder if it is what we really want, very often we imagine what we could do if we weren't with our partner and start to resent them a little. Perhaps this is what you are ... (read in full...)
Ever since she got her new bf my mum seems to hate me!!!
Q. Dear Cupid. My mother seems to hate me, she spends no time with me anymore, doesnt speak to me unless its about anything practical (I.e looking after my younger sister or the washing), regulary has periods of not speaking to me at all. It all star...
A. 10 June 2007: Hi, Does your mum know that you feel this way? if not i suggest you pick a time where you both can sit down and talk undisturbed. You dont want to fall out with her over her problems with her partner, tell her exactly how it has made you feel and ... (read in full...)
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