I don’t know if I should stay with him or not, as the more I’m getting to know him, it sounds like everything is all his way or the highway.
Q. I’ve been dating a man who’s older than me. He was all full on with me at the start, I think I was being love bombed looking back on it and he was seeing a future with me. The first couple of months was difficult for us to see each other as h...
A. 11 October 2021: I think that now the rose tinted glasses have come off you are seeing the real him.
I think all the love bombing in the beginning was to reel you in, get you hooked, now he finally has you your seeing the real him, and the real him is not very app... (read in full...)
My wife wants to quit her responsible job and I'm worried about our future
Q. My wife is 47 and told me she wants to quit her job (which she enjoys) to become a nurse or paramedic. She has a very responsible job currently, it's got a 9-5 workday like mine, but my worry is that it'll be new levels of stress for her that she...
A. 11 October 2021: I think that the two of you need to have a sit down and have a look at your finances and see if it is possible for her to do this.
I think it would be best for her to keep her current job and study to do what she wants, whether it be a nurse or... (read in full...)
My girlfriend in the hospital were the nurses talking to her in a sexual manner?
Q. Do u think my gf saying that in front of me was meaning it w a sexual undertone. She been in hospital for a week from the covid vaccine bs that gave her blood infection and she about died. But she almost done recovering. Or am I being paranoid...
A. 7 October 2021: I don't think there was anything funny going on here, nurses have to adopt and maintain a professional service, if they were seen or heard to be making comments of a sexual nature to patients they could very be having to look for another job.
... (read in full...)
He's more than just a crush but I might put my job in jeopardy – Do I just go for it?
Q. I can’t stop thinking about a guy who goes to the gym I work at. He’s literally dominating my thoughts. The problem is I’m a Personal Trainer so as well as helping run the gym I’m not really supposed to date or be in a relationship with any ...
A. 6 October 2021: It seems like you are crushing on him, crushes don't tend to last forever and can be often short lived and fizzle out over the natural course of time.
By you own admission you take your job very seriously, and also they seem to have a very str... (read in full...)
Is my daughter wasting her time with a man 17 years older 3 kids never married
Q. My daughter is nearly 30 and is seeing a man who is 17 years older. He’s never been married but has 3 kids to two different women. He’s told her he doesn’t want anymore kids or get married. There has been a lot of ups and downs between them (more ...
A. 6 October 2021: Without knowing your daughter, its hard to say whether she is wasting her time or not.
If your daughter has aspirations to get married and have kids then i would say she would be wasting her time as this is not what he wants.
If she is hap... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a neighbor who fixes things asks for gifts instead of money but then when the works is done wants the money too
Q. 16 months ago when I move in to my home I met my neighbor who is a nice friendly guy. We have a shared drive and some tiles were coming loose. He told me he would fix them. I thanked him and asked him to let me know how much he wanted for it. ...
A. 6 October 2021: I think he is out of order springing things on you like this. He has clearly stated on both occasions that he would not want any money for the jobs, just a token gesture like some beer or wine, then he wants money after that, what on earth is with ... (read in full...)
relationships take two and he is doing absolutely nothing to help me
Q. Hi Cupid’s, Wanting some relationship advice about me and my partner. We have a loving relationship and respectful of each other. We have been together 3 years now and it’s going good. My friends always ask me if he is ‘the one’ but I’m unsure. ...
A. 5 October 2021: You are absolutely right, its takes two to make a relationship work, and he is doing absolutely nothing to contribute to this relationship.
I'm not going to say it is wrong to go clubbing, although personally my clubbing days were within the age ... (read in full...)
I'm just ticked off that he ghosted me then texted me like nothings changed.
Q. I met a guy on a dating app and we've been out on 2 dates. I was beginning to like him, then he disappeared after the 2nd date. I texted him last Sunday telling him I had fun and we should go out again. He then suggested we should go see a movie, to ...
A. 5 October 2021: I think he seems like a bit of a game player, blowing hot and cold, and vanishing for long periods of time.
He will pick you up and put you down, he will dangle the carrot and build your hopes up, then let you down the last minute.
You say... (read in full...)
My girlfriend left me for another guy. But am still in love with her
Q. My girlfriend left me for another guy. But am still in love with her. What do i have to do....
A. 5 October 2021: The only advice i can pass on to you in this situation is that things will get easier as time goes on, time is the healer of all things.
We have all been there, and its difficult, but you are young with your whole life ahead of you and soon you... (read in full...)
IF he didnt want me why is he acting like that?
Q. I really like a neighbour he did show a bit of interest but has now backed off and nothing ever developed. however i have recently been seeing someone just for mutual benefit only- i came out of this persons place and someone said hello i turned ...
A. 4 October 2021: He sounds very immature to me, and if it was him that followed you, then called out then hid is rather creepy in my opinion.
If he does like you he certainly has a funny way of showing it. I think that you should let this one go and find someone ... (read in full...)
Unsure whether I want to continue our LDR?
Q. I met a guy online a more than a year ago and we have been together for a year now in a LDR due to COVID restrictions. We have been texting for most of the relationship and have sent voice messages to each other occasionally, but not voice call. At ...
A. 4 October 2021: I would say go with your gut, or womans intuition. You say sometihng just does not feel right, and your probably right.
You have been chatting for over a year now, and you have never spoken.
I think he is dangling a carrot giving you false... (read in full...)
Male virgin's first sexual intercourse
Q. If a male virgin has fullsex for the first time with a woman whereby obviously the woman puts her vagina on his penis,if he does not feel anything because his penis is not erect enough, and the woman pulls off after a couple of seconds,would you ...
A. 4 October 2021: I had to look at the age bracket here, if the age bracket is correct on sure you would know the answer to this question.
If you penis was not actually inserted, and was only on the outside for a couple of seconds of course this is not classed ... (read in full...)
Amazing guy but underwhelming sex
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 2 months and he's amazing. We laugh together the whole time, we have loads in common, he's fun, thoughtful and I find him really attractive. We just click, it's easy and effortless when we're together.I haven't ...
A. 4 October 2021: Not every relationship is all hard core passion and tearing each others clothes off.
From what you have said he sounds like a really nice guy, and you both seem to fit in many ways, you laugh together and you have a lot in common, on top of many ... (read in full...)
My sister's inlaws trashed our apt by the sea and she doesn't want me to talk to them about it
Q. Several years ago my husband and I purchased a 2 bedroom apartment by the sea to use as a holiday home. We let our family and friends use it too when we don’t and we don’t charge them anything - they are responsible for buying their own...
A. 29 September 2021: Absolutely not, i don't think that you are being unfair in the slightest. If it was me i would not want them back either.
I can't believe that they left in such a state, what on earth was they thinking, this is out of order, and rude.
When yo... (read in full...)
Am I been over sensitive?
Q. Am I been over sensitive? My boyfriend of 5 month is constantly hanging up on me in mid flow of a conversation. We can be talking on the phone and he just says bye I’ve got to go and hangs up. It’s really annoying and I have ended up telling...
A. 29 September 2021: I guess there could be many reason's why he does this. He could be at work and his lunch break has just come to an end. He could have someone else trying to call him at the same time he is on the phone to you. He could be married, be in another ... (read in full...)
Should I walk away from the marriage and make some saving and build my own home for my children
Q. I have been married for 6 years and i am 36 years, and we have two children together with my husband. My husband has a child from a previous marriage that i take care of. My husband is 45 and has fairly paying job. We live in a house that is shared ...
A. 28 September 2021: I don't think that you should feel that you are being pushed out of your own home.
I know that you have sat down and spoke to your husband, but maybe you have got to be a little sterner with him and make him realise the implications that this sit... (read in full...)
I met a man online years ago but everything seems to be at my cost
Q. Hello, I met a man online years ago but everything seems to be at my cost. He wants marriage at my financial cost. He wants to move here, at my financial cost. Yes, I went to see him several times in his country at my cost I understand th...
A. 28 September 2021: There have been a few posts similar to this one, and i will go along with the same answer that i replied to the other posts with.
I know its not what you want to hear, but i feel that you have been scammed.
You met a man online years ago... (read in full...)
One of my really good friends just decided to cut me off because she doesn't agree with one of my decisions.
Q. One of my really good friends just decided to cut me off because she doesn't agree with one of my decisions. I think it's a little extreme and hypocritical. The decision is that I'm meeting someone for dinner tomorrow and may be pursuing a physi...
A. 27 September 2021: She is one of your really good friends, which you have probably known for a long time, don't throw away your relationship with her for someone i assume you hardly know from out of town.
This guy could turn out to be a jerk, and you may never se... (read in full...)
What could make a man just walk out on his wife like that and move in with a young couple?
Q. I'm from South Dakota, but have lived in the Bronx for 13 years now, enjoy it here. It's not me who's got the problem in this question, but Mom. Mom told me the other day that Dad's just gone and left her, and left a handwritten note which sa...
A. 27 September 2021: I'm sorry to hear that your Father has just left and gone to live somewhere else, this can't be easy for anyone.
You say he has just left without a trace, only leaving a note?. While he has been living with you all this time has no-one got his ... (read in full...)
How do you put up with a man who you can't ask questions to?
Q. How do you put up with a man who you can't ask questions to? How can there be any proper communication? I'm married for 4 years and at first he didn't mind questions. I'm talking basic questions not silly or uncalled for questions. Exa...
A. 27 September 2021: Sounds like the communication between the pair of you needs to be worked on.
What are your conversations like in person when your not texting each other?.
The example that you chose to use, why don't you simply just ask how his day is going... (read in full...)
We broke up 4 years ago so why do I still think of him?
Q. Hello So my ex and I were together on and off since 2012 until 2017. I say on and off because we had HUGE issues alot of the time. He didn't trust me whatsoever so that was the main reason we were off and on. Not to mention he was emotional...
A. 23 September 2021: We all have a past, and we all have had relationships that we look back on, some with good memories, some with not so good memories.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet there, and your lucky to be out of this relationship, keep telling yourself... (read in full...)
How do I get him to show more initiative and text me/ask me out again?
Q. I went out with a guy I met online today, and I think we both had fun. He seems like a shy/awkward/nerdy guy, so I ended up planning our date. We were together for about 3.5 hours. We split everything. He's definately an improvement to a...
A. 23 September 2021: I think the answer to your question How do i get him to show more initiative, and to text you and ask you out is you can't.
He is what he is, we can't change people. You could broach the subject with him and tell him how you would like him to b... (read in full...)
Did I get Ghosted?
Q. Backstory: Woman (42) approached me at a club and I got her # that night. Since, we've exchanged text messages and I've noticed she tends to take a while to respond unless I catch her undivided attention. She has already agreed on a date, but we ...
A. 23 September 2021: I think that she seems to flaky and is showing a complete lack of interest in you.
Could go into many reasons as to the reason why, but i don't really see the point in that.
Maybe a club is not the best place to meet a potential suiter... (read in full...)
I want to confront him and I don't know how. Please help?
Q. I have this guy friend with whom I used to talk every day - be it text or call. We even met a couple of times and the last time we met, he opened up about a lot of things. It was a good meeting and I definitely felt a lot closer to him. But off ...
A. 22 September 2021: I agree with YCNBS and Honeypie, you need to block and delete.
He is being rude and disrespectful, why do you want closure from someone who has decided to ghost you, and for want of better words, is being a dick.
You can see he ok as he has ... (read in full...)
My husband of 3 years is not talking to me for past 4 days now.
Q. Dear cupid My husband of 3 years is not talking to me for past 4 days now. He talks only when he need something essential from me, do not respond when I talk. Eats if I cook, refuse to sit with me, sleeps on the same bed but pushes me away i...
A. 22 September 2021: A marriage /relationship survives on trust, compassion, and communication, he is not giving you any of these, and is being stupid and immature in my opinion.
This relationship is bringing you nothing but upset and heartache and i think your bet... (read in full...)
I'm exhausted and ready to break up with my boyfriend
Q. I am 27 years old and had 3 long time boyfriends. This guy is 4th. I am not a dater..actualy hate this process.I tried but then i discovered that most of my dated are in for sex ..i guess i dont have enough interest in just that. I came from ver...
A. 15 September 2021: They say that you don't really know someone until you have spent a large amount of time with them, such as a vacation.
I believe that going on vacation with him has opened up a can of worms, you are now seeing what your life will be like if you d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend follows attractive women on social media
Q. Hi everyone, something has been bothering me recently - i discovered that my boyfriend had followed a bunch of influencers and celebrities (chinese, japanese and korean models) and when I scrolled through their profiles, I saw that every single ...
A. 15 September 2021: All you can do is talk to him and tell him that you are not happy with him following and liking these people.
I know you not happy with it, but these people are celebrities, and you and i both know that he is never going to see these people i... (read in full...)
My colleague has been distant since my invitation
Q. Hi All, Any advice would be most helpful. I work with a man that's been with the team I work with for a month - we get on incredibly well and there's been a lot of flirting, eye contact and teasing . He's always interested in what I've been doi...
A. 15 September 2021: I don't think that you sent anything wrong in your text, you never just went all out and ask him out on a date, so i'm not sure why he has gone distant.
You simply just asked for a catch up if he is ever in the area, you could of send this to ... (read in full...)
Am I dealing with a narcissist?
Q. Has anyone of you aunts and uncles come across a narcissist? I’ve being dating an older man for over three month. He came across amazing, he’s got a good job, three children and seemed like he had his life sorted. He talked about our future, told...
A. 13 September 2021: I also agree, run for the hills, and don't look back.
The niceness that he showed you in the beginning was not the true him, and it only took him a short while to show his true colours.
His true colours tell you he is not a nice person. Ove... (read in full...)
People are threatening me
Q. People are threatening me. I don't know if I should disclose their details to the police. J have called them and they said it's harrassment. But these are the type of people who hate police and anyone involved with them. They recorded a sensitive ...
A. 13 September 2021: I think that you should call the police and also divulge this information to family and friends as well. ... (read in full...)
I don't find my husband attractive when he shaves his beard!
Q. When my husband shaves his beard I do not find him attractive at all. I have mentioned this to him and when he tries to kiss me and become affectionate I pull back because I do not like how he looks. He looks like another person when he has his ...
A. 9 September 2021: I think its a bit shallow as well, he is still the same person beard or no beard.
Its facial hair, surely it does not take long to grow back.
How would you feel if you changed something about yourself and he never liked it. ... (read in full...)
It bothers me that my bf likes other women's pics on social media
Q. Hello aunts and uncles So my bf and myself have been together about 2 years. He is very active on social media. Always liking womens pics. For some reason it does bother me I think because he has cheated in the past and I've asked him nicely...
A. 9 September 2021: I think that the problem is he has cheated in the past so there is always going to be an element of mistrust. I think had he not cheated in the past you would not be here on DC concerned about him liking pics.
Trust is one of the most importan... (read in full...)
There are far too many red flags. Is this guy worth it?
Q. I’ve been seeing my partner 6 months. I’ve previously been in a business relationships which affected me and my daughter who is 16 so I am cautious. Until I met my partner I was happy with my kids on my own but on times would like company. Generally ...
A. 7 September 2021: They say that love is blind, when in a relationship sometimes we can't see this things that are actually going on.
I think that your daughter has got his card marked. There are just too many red flags here with this guy. Of course he was kind ear... (read in full...)
He drinks too much!So?
Q. My bf drinks too much anytime i talk to him bout it he just whines.he usally come back late,and am worried.should i be? ...
A. 7 September 2021: Assuming that you are older that the age bracket that you chose to put down i would suggest that he obtains some help regarding his excessive drinking.
If he unwilling to do this them maybe its time to end this relationship and call it a day. ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if what he says is true or is he just using excuses not to see me
Q. I wrote on here asking for advice on dating a man with children and where do I fit in at. I’m really starting to think I need to walk away from this situation. I met him for a few hours and he told me his first ex has being diagnosed with c...
A. 7 September 2021: I don't think anything is ever going to change, and this time next year you will still have all the issues that you are having now.
The only way things are ever going to change is if you accept the fact that this relationship is not for you and ... (read in full...)
What can I do about a ranting, shouty husband?
Q. I've been married to my husband for 14 years now, we married when I was 28 and he was 29, and over the past few weeks he's started ranting about every single thing and obsessing over porn. I am mum to an 8-year-old daughter, Katie. I'm an...
A. 7 September 2021: Obviously there is something not quite right with your husband, maybe something he knows about and is not telling you, or an underlying condition.
I think that you should book and appointment with your local doctor and get him checked out, and... (read in full...)
I'm not interested in being his rebound
Q. Hi I used to date a guy briefly years ago and he had alot of baggage I wasn't ready to deal with so I ended things quickly. Recently, he contacted me we have been texting again. He told me he had big feelings for me before and was hurt I en...
A. 7 September 2021: I think that you did the right thing ending things with him when you did.
He say's he needs a distraction to get over a toxic relationship, i would not let this distraction be you if i was you.
When a relationship ends we needs to give ou... (read in full...)
I'm suspicious of my husband's actions and feel stuck and desperate
Q. Dear cupid I am married to my current husband for past 3 years and we have known each other for about 6 years He often hangs out with his friends and crash in their place for about a day or two, this happened thrice in past 2 months. His car ...
A. 7 September 2021: I can't believe that he has the audacity to call you childish, it is blatantly obvious that he is the childish one.
He is showing you a complete lack of respect, and is treating you very badly, i think that you deserve better.
Friends are f... (read in full...)
3 some gone bad
Q. my partner and i decided to have a threesome and i left it up to him to find someone. i find out the day before it is someone he was with previously. i thought i would be ok but when we got to the room we thought a few shots would help calm everyone ...
A. 2 September 2021: I think that it all sounds a bit iffy to me, to wake not remembering anything after only a few shots and some cold medicine, something is not right.
You recall the shower, then your next memory is waking up on the sofa with them in the other ro... (read in full...)
I like this girl but I'm not ready for a serious commitment of any sort.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been seeing this girl for a 2ish years. When we first met we were both pretty adamant that marriage was off the table. I told her I didn't see myself marrying and we continued to see each other. She's slowly made passes about mov...
A. 1 September 2021: I think that after two years of dating she is doing what most woman would be doing at this stage, which is taking the relationship to the next level. I don't find her behaviour odd, i actually find this normal.
I am guessing that she is around t... (read in full...)
How do I move on from this? I feel my boyfriend was really out of line!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, he is generally quite a loving and doting boyfriend but very headstrong and stubborn in his beliefs that results in my concerns always not being heard in the relationship. Recently, as w...
A. 1 September 2021: In the two years that you have been together has he ever given you any reason for you to distrust him?. Do you get jealous if he is even remotely near someone of the opposite sex?.
You may get varied answers on this, but my view is he really n... (read in full...)
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