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I am currently in a relationship, and am very happy, although the baby is not my current boyfriends.
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She pushes me away.
Q. about 2 weeks ago, i went to spend 3 weeks by my girlfriend. it was perfect. she didn't say once she needed space... life was perfect. now that we seperate from each other, all she wants is her free space. why would she want space after spending 3 ...
A. 12 November 2007: Have you tried talking to your girl about this? Maybe if you tell her how you are feeling she may be able to give you an answer. Hormones may be the answer, but it depends on hw long she has been pushing you away.
If you cant work out your diff... (read in full...)
He says sex feels like a routine, what can I do?
Q. last night my boyfriend asked if we can slow down on the sex .. we live together how do i just ignore my drive whilei am in bed beside him? he said it feel like routine ... ...
A. 25 September 2007: next time you both want sex, try doing something new, to spice it up. Maybe a bit of roleplay, new positions or more foreplay. Once you both find some new things you like (maybe a toy?) then your love life should improve. Make sure you dont force ... (read in full...)
Having sex and not losing virginity?
Q. is there a way to have sex and not losing virginity? What does sex from the back means? is oral sex dangerous? ...
A. 25 September 2007: oral is fun, but you need good technique. Doggy is fab 4 da man, and not so great 4 da gal (in my opinion, some girls love it).
You are no longer a virgin when a guys penis enters your vagina. I have to disagree with what baby duck said because the ... (read in full...)
Abusive boyfriend, no support, but I'm scared to act
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 and a half years. Last night we had a big fall out because he thinks I've been sending him emails - when I haven't! And basically the argument was just that and picking at things till he finally said ...
A. 25 September 2007: oh,baby! look, you need to get out of this relationship. I know you love him and i know how hard it is, but you need someone nice to be the father of your baby. I have miscarried before, and now have a beautiful baby girl, so i am sure you will be ... (read in full...)
I like Michael Jackson... but my friends take the piss!
Q. HI,im back lol after the update on my last question which i stupidly put as an answer i think lol anyways i have yet another question **so glad i found this site haha** anyways ive been a michael jackson fan for like,well for ever -since i was 5,...
A. 25 September 2007: Look,hunni,i am a fan of Micheal Jackson, and i dont let other ppl question my music tastes. I also like Rihanna,slipknot, evanescence, ali g and a whole range of other artists. I think it important for ppl to have a wide variety of music in their ... (read in full...)
How can I make sex better?
Q. i lost my virginity and im happy with it but im kinda sad that now since i lost it i dont have the chance to live my first time again but actually i want to have more sex because it made me feel so happy with my boyfriend and we both enjoyed it but ...
A. 21 September 2007: practise darling. I am sorry to say that for most people, they dont orgasm the first time they have sex. This is because of nervousness, and quite often because it hurts. The more you do it, the more fun you'll have.... (read in full...)
He asked me to marry him, but I'm afraid he'll leave if I stay fat!
Q. i am nearly 8 months pregnant and i love my partner he has asked me to marry him i said yes but im scared i wont lose the baby weight, i've always had an issue with my weight but now its even worse, im 21 but cant go to the gym as i had major ...
A. 13 September 2007: Firstly, you have no issue with your weight, you sound a perfectly healthy size, and when i am was pregnant, i put on 3 stone, of which, 4 n a half months on, i have lost 2.
You may not ever loose all of your weight, however if your B/F loves you,... (read in full...)
Why do some people have to be so rude on DearCupid?
Q. i have a question. why do some people have to be so rude on here. whats the point in asking for help when your just going to get ridiculed half the time and not taken seriously. i believe if they need help, help the person if your just going to ...
A. 13 September 2007: i totallly agree with you, however, soemtimes you have to be cruel to be kind, however there are ways of doing this without being rude!... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Moderators needed!
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING -- many moderators drop out after just a couple of weeks so if you're not committed please don't apply! ...
A. 13 September 2007: Im afraid this has got nothing to do with being a site moderator, however i was wondering if it was possile to add an "Edit my profile" section. My user name is mum2be, and im now a mum, and my blog says im 15, and im now 16. It would be a great way ... (read in full...)
A 27yr old man was persuing me on the internetnet and I called the police. Now my friends make fun of me.
Q. i was online a couple of weeks ago in a chat room and was talking to a whole bunch of people and trying to make new friends. after awhile a man who said he was 27 started talking to me and things were nice. we spent a couple days talking and soon he ...
A. 13 September 2007: No, honey you wern't wrong!!!!!! He should not have been doing this, especially as you are so young!!
Dont be embarrased by telling your sister, at least you have soemone you can talk to!
Just remember for next time what a dangerous place ch... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned if my boyfriend messages random girls on the internet?
Q. Should I be concerned if my boyfriend messages random girls on the internet?...
A. 13 September 2007: Ah i see, well you need to tell him how you feel, and if he wont listen to you, then im sorry to say but he not the right man for you... (read in full...)
What exactly is women's "cum"?
Q. I know males "cum", but so do women. But I'm not entirely sure what women's "cum" is. Is it when the women gets wet? Or is it the same as a man, (when they get excited they "squirt" come). What I'm trying to say is, What is women's "cum"? ...
A. 10 September 2007: bollocks, women can squirt love,... (read in full...)
Why aren't I pregnant?
Q. ok so my boyfriend and i have been having sex unprotected since atleast march of this year and almost all the time he cums in me.... i'm not on birth control of any form... should it be taking this long? i mean shouldn't i be pregnant already? Is ...
A. 10 September 2007: Unfortunatley, itt can take months and months to get pregnant. One of the key things for you to do is relx, have sex for the fun of it, rather than to make a baby.... when you both relax, you shld find it easier. all the best
xxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned if my boyfriend messages random girls on the internet?
Q. Should I be concerned if my boyfriend messages random girls on the internet?...
A. 10 September 2007: NO, blokes do it.... but if you are concerned about it, then confront him and say that it's upsetting you.
all the best... (read in full...)
I'm casually seeing my step cousin, now my family have found out they're telling me to back off.
Q. I've been going out casually with my step cousin for the past few years and no one has really knew about it.... trouble is every one has found out and they are all telling me to back off and stay clear of him and not get involved! I think I really ...
A. 14 August 2007: when people say you cant choose ur family... and they are right... unfortunately, he is now family and your family is probably just trying to protect you... (read in full...)
How do people act when they are jealous?
Q. Generally, could people be mean to you if they are jealous of you? Also could they treat you differently than other people? I encountered this before and am quite confused about it. How do people act when they are jealous? please help....
A. 14 August 2007: usually my being nasty....... (read in full...)
Help, im 15 and my Girlfriend is 14. and possibley pregnant...
Q. Hello, i am 15 and my girlfriend is 14 we had unprotected sex, 3 days from now, and i am really worrying about her being pregnant, shes a very shy girl, and doesnt like doctors, injections, and so on... I only put it in 3-6 times and diddnt come....
A. 14 August 2007: you have to face up to the music of having unprotected sex... however, since you did not come, you have probably not made ehr pregnant... learn from your mistake and be careful next time...
if she is pregant, then you should be thinking about ho... (read in full...)
He said that I was rich and was using me for that money and not my looks and my personality, and that really bugged me.
Q. I have never been on a date before, and I have never had a real boyfriend before. The last one I did have only lasted 2 weeks, and he said that I was rich and was using me for that money and not my looks and my personality, and that really bugged ...
A. 14 August 2007: dump him love, anyone who could say anything like this is not worth the effort....
dont worry about him.... (read in full...)
I've been seeing a guy for about a year now. He has no sex drive whatsoever.
Q. I've been seeing a guy for about a year now. He has no sex drive whatsoever. We've had sex a few times that's it. He likes to kiss me and that's where it stops. Is there anything I can do?...
A. 14 August 2007: drop little sexy hints around the house... dress up a bit more revealingly and pinch his bum as he wealks past... he should soon get the message... (read in full...)
Is there a right way to masturbate?
Q. I masturbate, but don't know if I am doing it right I don't really get sexually excited? Is there a right way to masturbate? Am I normal?...
A. 14 August 2007: no... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Anti-spam technology now live :-)
Q. Hi everyone After the recent spate of "spammings" I've introduced some anti-spam measures. I don't want to go into them all in detail here but there are numerous systems in place now to help stop, mitigate and allow you to report spam. The...
A. 14 August 2007: u no i love you... (read in full...)
I'm female, Do I have a hidden desire to date another woman?
Q. I'm a 19 year old woman and the other night I was watching a movie called "Thirteen" and I felt like I kinda wanted to have a girfriend cause I'm bi-curious. Anway way that night I dreamt that I was told by a woman (a women from the movie Thirteen) ...
A. 14 August 2007: go wit another girl and see how you feel after.... just be prepared for the consequences... (read in full...)
He lies to me about where he goes and gets mad when I confront him!!!
Q. My Husband and I have been married for 12 years. 4 years ago he had an affair. we stayed together and got past that. He for some reason has continued to lie to me about where he goes, he gets angry when i confront him and turns in on me. This has ...
A. 18 June 2007: i am sorry... but i think you should leave him... let him know how upset you are. all the best
xxx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is becoming obsessive and touching me up when I don't want him to! What should I do?
Q. recently i have just gone back out with my boyfriend again since we have a break away from eachother,as i had not wanted to do well at school and being in a realonship at that time it wouldn't be such a good idea.but now school has finish,we are ...
A. 18 June 2007: Tell him!
tell hime he cant do that
and be firm... dump him if you need to, you shouldnt have to put up with it.
all the best... (read in full...)
I can only get semi hard due to stress. What should I do?
Q. im in a relation ship, and we just started having sex. but ive been under alot of stress and could only get a semi and barley keep it up, the only thing i really want to do is pleasure her, is there anything that i can do to get some stuff off my m...
A. 18 June 2007: Tke some time out before you have sex... just spend the time together, cuddling and being close... this should leave your mind free to think of just her... and the stress should leave. I hop it works for you.... (read in full...)
I am only 11, but I am two months pregant!
Q. (ok my original profile thing iz batman but i did something and made a new profile) alright well i am 11 and now 2 monthes pregnant! im really scared cuz me and my boyfriend r both ganna need to take care of this child 2gether and im still liv...
A. 18 June 2007: aww sweetie... i was first pregnant when i was as young as you, and i have just had a baby 8 weeks ago...(I am 16 now) I could not tell you what to do as it is your desicion, but i think you should definately talk to someone... soon.
Tell your bf h... (read in full...)
I feel a compelling need to win some person like a trophy.
Q. I feel a compelling need to win some person like a trophy and bring it to my family to show it off to other people. My parents treat me as the same and i hate being treated like an object. There is no room for feeling and sympathy, but only for ...
A. 18 June 2007: firstly, you you have done the hardest thing in admiting your problem, now you need to work on it. What i would do is try to get to know the person you want as a friend first... get to know what they like, who they are and who they want to be... ... (read in full...)
I have a problem when it comes to trusting people due to past relationships. Any idea of how I can deal with this?
Q. I don't understand. I am an honest, nice, dependable, loyal person but yet I keep meeting these men who manipulate me and seem to take advantage. They gain my trust then lie or cheat and thankfully I usually catch it early on before it goes to ...
A. 18 June 2007: love, it is nothing you are doing... i think we just have to accept that a lot of men are selfless pigs... but you must remember that there are a lot of guys out there who are lovely.. keep tyring, you will be able to trust again... it may just take ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my bf to use a condomw when we have sex?
Q. hey, Ive resently had sex and it was with my bf and we didnt use a condom and how do i ask him that i want him to use one what shall i say???Please Help Me. xxx ...
A. 30 March 2007: Simply ask him... just say that you know someone who got pregnant young, or you have seen all the stuff on the telly at the moment, and i really dont want to get pregnant, could we please use a condom...
Dont worry, i hate it when people say 'you... (read in full...)
Im 32 still a virgin, I hate it! But why is my BF still with me when were not intimate at all !?
Q. 32 y/o virgin in r'ship. my b'f knows i am, we have tried to have sex in the past altho it took me abt 6months to tell him. becos of me my b/f now hasnt had sex for over 1 yr, we argue alot i think lack of intimate is a big issue as we were drunk ...
A. 30 March 2007: Why on Earth do you hate yourself for being a virgin? You are very lucky to have a bloke that respects you enough to go without sex! You say you have tried, but that it hurts... I am sorry to say it, but the first time always does hurt (unless you ... (read in full...)
Hes fab and hes keen to take me on some dates, but hes bisexual, what if he gets bored of me and wants a guy!?
Q. Hey I met this wonderfull guy he is funny,adorable,gorgeous,beautiful and so sincere but he is bisexual and I have fallen in love with him and I told him that I loved him and he was blown away but this. We are good friends and he said he wants to ...
A. 30 March 2007: Just because your friend is bi, it does not mean that he is any more likely to leave you than if he was straight! If you would normally panic this much about a straight bf of yours going with some other girl, then worry ahead, but bing bi i suppose ... (read in full...)
Hes fab and hes keen to take me on some dates, but hes bisexual, what if he gets bored of me and wants a guy!?
Q. Hey I met this wonderfull guy he is funny,adorable,gorgeous,beautiful and so sincere but he is bisexual and I have fallen in love with him and I told him that I loved him and he was blown away but this. We are good friends and he said he wants to ...
A. 30 March 2007: Just because your friend is bi, it does not mean that he is any more likely to leave you than if he was straight! If you would normally panic this much about a straight bf of yours going with some other girl, then worry ahead, but bing bi i suppose ... (read in full...)
My baby will only take 2-3oz 4-5 times a day, any advice !?
Q. my baby is 5 months old and will only take 2-3oz of formula milk 4-5 times a day. does anyone have any advise? thanks...
A. 29 March 2007: If this is all your baby wants, and s/he is not loosing weight, then i am sure s/he is getting enough. If you are really worrie,d you could try switching the type of milk you use... aptimal is good, as well as the progress range.
If you are stil... (read in full...)
I dated this guy and now..my best guy friend isn't texting me anymore! Did he like me more than a friend?
Q. does he like me, or just as a friend? there is a guy that i have bee friends with for a few years, and then over the past few months have become close. We have been spending lots of time together, we have been to the cinema together, been o...
A. 29 March 2007: It sounds to me as if you are messing around with his head a bit! First you say you just want to be friensd, then you kiss him and let him spend the night!... If i were him, i would be confused! Get your own head sorted before you try to figure out ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to tell my bf that my first oral experience was with a man when in fact-it was with a woman?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a while so of course, the topic of our sexual histories has come up. I'm a virgin but I've gotten as far as oral sex (performing and receiving)....but with a girl. I'm totally and completely straight, and th...
A. 29 March 2007: The short answer is yes, you were wrong for lying to him. I can understand why you did it, but if you want the relationship to work, you have to be able to trust eachother! I dont suggest you now tell him you lied to him, as this will upset him, but ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Now accepting your articles, tips and stories!
Q. Hi folks, this is Andrew, site guy here. I've added a new link to the main navigation bar called "articles"... I'm looking for anyone who is good with words to share their wisdom :-) All articles will be linked to from your profile page,...
A. 29 March 2007: Thanks andrew!!!!! I hope you get paid lots and lots of money for all this work you do!
xxx... (read in full...)
Shes happy giving me a hand job, I want to take things further but she pushes me away, when's a good time ?
Q. my girlfriend and i have been dateing for 2 months now and shes started to give me hand jobs and so i figured it would be ok to finger her but when i put my hand close to her she moves it but she lets me suck her boobs. what do i do wait for her to ...
A. 29 March 2007: Definately wait for her... she could have a good reason for not letting you too close just yet...
Just be happy you are making slow progress, rather than getting nothing from her at all!... (read in full...)
He acts as though hes not getting his moneys worth out of me!! Every night there is something to complain about! Should I record him to make him see!?
Q. Today I woke up at 8;00, drove to another city (20 min.) for a chiro appointment (1/2 hour) returned home (20.min.), picked up documents and drove to another city (20 min.), saw my banker for a wire transfer (20 min.), drove back to pick up my dog ...
A. 29 March 2007: yes... make him see what a jerk he is being! You will hopefully be able to laugh about it later! (Just make sure that by recording him, you are not going to make him more angry).
Alternitively, you could have a bad day yourself, and start snap... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Now accepting your articles, tips and stories!
Q. Hi folks, this is Andrew, site guy here. I've added a new link to the main navigation bar called "articles"... I'm looking for anyone who is good with words to share their wisdom :-) All articles will be linked to from your profile page,...
A. 29 March 2007: Where do you get your inspiration from? Truly brilliant idea!
when you put the articles on site, will we be able to view them from the same page as we can submit them from?
all the best
xxxxxx... (read in full...)
What exactly does foreplay consist of ?
Q. what kind of stuff is included in foreplay? im a virgin but have a bf he always rubs me to be honest i dont always come, but fake it for him, or after 5 mins he stops cos he knows i wont come, but wen i do, i sometimes get a burning sensation and i ...
A. 28 March 2007: I can't say much about the burning sensation you have... maybe an infection? But as for foreplay, it is exactly what the name suggests... playing before sex. This can invlove touching, kissing, licking, playing games, dressing up, whatever turns you ... (read in full...)
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