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writes:Is it normal to cry over not being able to do my routine? Very unusual for me, I live with parents but I have a very busy schedule with work etc. I specially took a day off so I could sort my room and myself which means extra time spent on me. I woken up to find bathroom is out of use and that jus ruined my day. My dad is not considerate and just does what he wants when he feels like it. The fact that I couldn’t use bathroom ruined my mood. I shut my door and broke down. I think it was due to fact I had planned my day. And I looked forward to it for nearly one year: work Xmas event. I was finally going to have a laugh. I don’t feel clean, I wanted to go shopping treat myself to something nice simply so I could feel good. I can’t go to an event without a shower. I called local gyms due to covid they are closed. I just gave up and laughed whilst crying at how a grown man faces such stupid problems. Dad on the other hand is clueless and will always be. Not long left until I can afford my place. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2021): Hi
Please don't cry :) you feel stressed and needed to have a cry, nothing wrong with that.
Just try and remember that sometimes no matter what we plan, life may have a different plan, us humans can not control everything. I hope you enjoy your Christmas and have a brilliant New Year. Stay positive and go with the flow a little bit more.
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reader, kenny +, writes (12 December 2021):
 I do understand where your coming from, I enjoy a shower, especially if going to a party, or function its nice to feel clean.
I'm sure gyms are still currently open, i know my local one is still operating, although most gyms are members only, i'm sure you can pay an entry fee and go in and have a shower.
Alternatively is there not other family members, friends, or friendly neighbours who would have kindly let you use their shower?.
Or i assume that you know the people you were going to this Christmas event, could you not have got ready at theirs and used their shower?.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 December 2021):
 Sometimes dumb shit can make us all want to cry or actually cry.
However, if this is not something you have done before, then maybe there is more to it?
I mean, couldn't you have gotten a bowl and pitcher with warm water and then just washed in your room with a washrag? Sure a shower is much nicer, but people did fine with a pitcher and bowl in a pinch. Been there done that! During Hurricane Katrina (and a couple of the following hurricanes) we had no power, so no showers. And it was hot and sticky to boot!
Or called a friend/family member? Asking if you could come by and use the shower.
You CAN go to an event without a shower :) You can get clean without a shower.
However, I totally understand feeling upset and frustrated that you couldn't shower before a night out.
It definitely seems like moving out is going to be SO great for you.
It's OK, OP. It will be OK.
I have cried over dropping an egg while baking (because there were only 2 left and I needed both for the recipe). It seems silly. I could just have run out on a 10 min trip (there and back) and had 12 more eggs but in the situation, I was just upset.
These days, I look for solutions BEFORE getting upset. Because there usually is a solution. Not always the "best" solution, but some workaround of sorts.
Look on the bright side, you will be out of your parents' house soon.
Don't let the little stuff get you down.
If this happens a lot ( the crying over stuff out of your control) then perhaps find a counselor and have a few sessions? If it hasn't happened before, be aware of it. And next time something unforeseen or unplanned happens - take a breath and problem solve first.
It will be Ok.
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