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what makes me what to help people is where i had help through councilling and where i have helped alot of friends through their problems and really want to help others!!
i have quite some experience in some issuse, and want to help and do not intent to insult any people i reply to just want to help!! and id really love for who ever reads my advice to send me a message with feed back its always nice to know if i helped at all!! all the best, Emz x |
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I'm fed up with people presuming I'm happy when I'm so down. They wouldn't understand me if I told them how I felt. Help.
Q. Im fed up with people presuming im happy when im so down. I know this is my fault because i put on a smiley face and pretend im fine but deep down i feel depressed. I have a great supportive family but if i say anything they would laugh it off and ...
A. 30 September 2007: hi there!
well i know exacly how you feel i self harmed and at the time it gives you a great rush of freedom that you grave!
but it doesnt last for long only the scare lasts longer!
and i know hoe you feel when you say you put the happy fa... (read in full...)
She cheated on me, and I was going to propose! How do I get through this?
Q. me and my girlfriend have just broke up because she has had sex last wendnesday with a random bloke in the toilets of a night club and i was going to propose to her how do i get over this with as little pain as possible?....
A. 29 September 2007: hi there !
im so sorry to hear about that i know how you feel!
what i think you should do is ask her why she did it, as when i had the same done i didnt ask why and it left me wondering if it was something i had done wrong! and that is one of t... (read in full...)
He's only 17, going to get engaged with his GF, but I am falling in love with him!
Q. We'll call him *Dave* He's going to get engaged to his girlfriend but I think she's more interested in the ring. He's only 17 but he's really devoted to her. I've had past relationships which have been abusive and very unbareable as one ex boy...
A. 9 May 2007: awwww i feel for you i have been in your position once and yet its really upsetting, and where he says that your really pretty and things like, he's just being a good friend! what i had to realise is that we cant always have who we want and that he ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fake my sex experience with this guy who is way ahead of me in that area?
Q. Okay so I'm officially dating this guy, it's a secret though. We are crazy about each other, and we've been hanging out everyday afterschool, it's really hard though cause he lives on the otherside of town, were thinking about having sex, he's way ...
A. 9 May 2007: hiya!!!
dont fake it!! tell him he will be alot more caring than what you think he is!! so what you havent had as much experience as him maybe you will learn a few tips of him!! maybe you can ask your guy mates what they enjoy during sex and get ... (read in full...)
This girl I don't know keeps ringing me and I'm fed up. How do I handle this?
Q. i'm 16. a girl is a year younger than me and she keeps ringing me tellin me she likes me. she goes to my school but i dont know who it is. she's seen me play football at school showin of a few skills and apparently loves her pants of at me. i'v...
A. 7 May 2007: try talk to her again or just change you phone number! and be careful who you give the number to thie time! x ... (read in full...)
My confidence with women is gone! Any advice on how I get talking to the ladies, again?
Q. ive recently been dumped but i used to have a lot of confidence with women but now its all gone an i am a bt shy on starting convo with women and nowing if they are interested has any on got any tips...
A. 7 May 2007: after every relationship everyone loses a bit of confidence but you will regain it! why not go out with the lads on a night out on the town, and watch what is going out around you, you will be able to see what men are doing right and wrong when ... (read in full...)
I like my teacher but she has made it clear she can't be involved with students - what do I do?
Q. I think i like my teacher. But Im not sure if she likes me.We have so much in common,the first time i really noticed her her appearence was differnt.Once in a while we will make i contact but its no big deal. On my 17th birthday she smiled and wink...
A. 6 May 2007: well firstly your teacher can go to jail for getting involved with a student so i really advice that you DON'T go there! yes you may have feelings for your teacher but everyone at some point has a crush on one of their teachers its just a stage of ... (read in full...)
He told me things he doesn't love about my character and I just feel so much pressure to change myself!
Q. I have the feeling, I'm fighting for my boyfriends love all the time, but he can just sit there and be lucky, he is loved... Is this normal that a women has to do this? It was me doing the first step, asking him if he wants to be my boyfrien...
A. 6 May 2007: first thing to say is you should never change youself for a bloke a bloke should fall in love with you for who you are instead of who your not!! ive learnt that!! and he should be the one making an effort!! a relationship is a two way thing and from ... (read in full...)
I know I'm not ugly, so why isn't anyone attracted to me? Why is everyone else in a relationship but me?
Q. I feel so sad. It just seems that everyone around me is in a relationship, or at least one person is attracted to them. It makes me feel ugly and unwanted and in some cases, left out... I know i'm not ugly, and it's partly why I don't understand...
A. 6 May 2007: you are too young to worry about this i agree with you!! so what other people are attracted to one another thats life, you shouldnt be worrying about this while you are at school enjoy being single!! and learn to love yourself as one you have learnt ... (read in full...)
Should we stay together when he goes to university or just break up?
Q. Hey, I was hoping if someone could give me advice. I dont really know what to do. My boyfriend is going off to uni in about 4-5 months. We've been going out for quite a while, and we've been discussing what to do whether to: stay together when he ...
A. 6 May 2007: long distance relationships never work! i think that splitting from the relationship is the best thing to do, it will be hard but the best for both of you! you both will only see each other on holidays like you say and both of you will change while ... (read in full...)
My GF of 8 years still sees her abusive husband all the time, even spends holidays with him! I can't accept this anymore!
Q. My partner has lived with me for 8 years and escaped from an abusive husband to be with me. Over the last four years she has spent holidays with him, phones him everyday, meets up for dinner, drinks etc. She tells me she loves me more than anything...
A. 6 May 2007: i can understand your concern!! it makes me wonder why?? she had a lucky escape from him and yet calls him everyday and other things! so i really feel for you!! you should really talk to her when she gets back and tell her that you cant take it ... (read in full...)
He broke up with and then sent me flirty e-mails.I replied but he won't respond now...what is going on with this guy?
Q. Thanks to all who take the time to look and answer this question. I worked on a campaign last year and met a guy who I have been dating. I thought we were getting along fine but out of the blue he ended the relationship, said we would be 'friends' ...
A. 6 May 2007: hi there!!!
to be honest i think he is being like this so he knows that you are still interested with him!! giving him a sort of ego boost!! i think that you should forget all about him hes wasting your time and giving you false hope! its always h... (read in full...)
I think I may be pregnant with a guy's kid that I'm not even dating! Should I tell him?
Q. My period is 7 days late, and the guy who's it is is still mad at me for something i did a long time ago. I know it would be his because he's the only one i've done it with. I know it's stupid to sleep with someone you aren't dating, but i did and ...
A. 6 May 2007: well he obviously isnt worth it if he is doing this infront of you, or maybe that is just the way he is? n firstly you shouldnt have unprotected sex!! as these things happen and secondly i think you should tell him as its partly his fault as well! ... (read in full...)
I'm 25-she's 18 and I like her! Am I creepy for wanting to date someone much younger?
Q. Hello My name is Trent and I'm 25 years old. I have a good friend named Emily who is 18 years old, and this problem is about her. We met two years ago when I was 23 and she was 16. We were both working at the same pizza place and became frie...
A. 6 May 2007: you shouldn't feel creepy at all!! its human nature!! so theres an age gap but there's an age gap in most relationships! you've only been spending time together at work or outside of work with friends! why not take her out for a meal and see if you ... (read in full...)
She's a fantastic woman..but I just can't get into loving her in a physical way! What is wrong?
Q. I have recently met a fantastic woman who ticks every box that I could possibly think of. She is loving, not at all clingy, makes me laugh, is considerate, loved by all my friends (already), and is someone who I feel that I can open up to about ...
A. 4 May 2007: you say that you know that you wont fall in love with her then you simply wont maybe its being in her company that you like more, you talk to her about this and as a women im sure she will understand and you too may continue to be friends!! good... (read in full...)
I am not his priority..his band and his friends are...what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, i am really sad and brokenhearted by the fact that my boyfriend, the love of my life doesn't have time for me. He always promise me to visit me and he keeps me waiting in vain.. I know he's not cheating with me yet i know that i a...
A. 4 May 2007: hi there!! it's hard to be in a situation like this!! what you need to do is understand his passion for his band as it's unfair to stand in the way of someones ambitions yet i really think that you should talk to him about this as i can tell yo... (read in full...)
I have been seeing this man who is 21 and i am 14 and he is doing some stuff to me that i dont understand and i dont want him to do!!!
Q. I have been seeing this man who is 21 and i am 14 and he is doing some stuff to me that i dont understand and i dont want him to do, 1st he said i like u will u meet me and because ive liked him for ages i meet him, and got in his car because i ...
A. 4 May 2007: your a smart girl to have asked for her n im glad you know what he is doing to you is wrong!! but yet you shouldn't let this happen he is taking advantage of you! this is completely wrong and he should know better!! yer if someone does find out and ... (read in full...)
How can I get closer to this girl, even as friends?
Q. i really like this girl. she doesn't want a boyfriend. i want to go out with her somewhere as friends but that's hard enough. i see her at school. we're 16. any ideas? thanks...
A. 4 May 2007: hi there!
if you want to be friends with her take the plunge and talk to her. dont look at her constantly while in conversation as this will show to her that you are after one thing, listen to her and find things out but also talk about yourself... (read in full...)
Did I go too far too quickly? Now he won't talk to me.
Q. recently i had an encounter with a guy same age as me, i took it pretty far. It was both our 1st time, we did not have sex but we got very intimate. since then he barely talks to me. did i go to far in that moment? ...
A. 4 May 2007: awww sweety i know how you feel, to be honest i think you should move he obviously isnt a proper man as he wouldn't have gone that intimate on a first date n 9 times out of 10 he wont get in contact he has got what he wanted! im not trying to sound ... (read in full...)
I have sores on my vagina but I don't know what's causing them, any ideas?
Q. Hi, i recently noticed that i had sores on my vagina and i went to the doctor to get it checked out, the doctor thought it might've been herpes and tested it and the results came back negative. The doctor told me that the only thing i can do is wait ...
A. 4 May 2007: hi there!!!
what i think you should do is go to the hospital or you local family health clinic and have some more test done. also i think you that maybe talking to your partner about your concerns can also help take the stress of you or talk to ... (read in full...)
How do I confront my father about his affair?
Q. alright everyone... so i need a bit of advice. I would like to begin by giving you a bit of information... I am an adult in his early 20s. At the present time, I really have not talked to my family (specifically my father) for a bit over a year now ...
A. 4 May 2007: i feel for you i really do i know what its like to have one of your parents be unfaithful and its hurts im not guna deny that!! i am behind you in that you want to confront him as it can wreck a family apart! i think you should meet him just the two ... (read in full...)
I haven't met anyone for a while and feel my life is at a standstill.
Q. Hey. I've been single for coming up to a year now. Its insane! I've had a few on off flings but nothing serious. It's annoying because the amount of times I go out clubbing every week and I also go to college, u would of thought i would have found ...
A. 4 May 2007: awww i feel for you ive been single over a year now n i stil think about my ex its natural!!! i think you should stop looking its always harder that way to find the person of your dreams i stopped looking and then i met my ex and was smitten!! love ... (read in full...)
Is there something I can do to...climax?
Q. Hi. I'm almost 21 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for more than a year and a half now. We are very happy and I believe we are made for each other. The problem is, I can't climax. We sleep together and we've tried so many times, ...
A. 3 May 2007: well why dont you try a different approach to the way u lead up to having sex! why not make things more romantic like making dinner and having a relaxing bath together with candles so then you both are relaxed. or why not change the enviroment which ... (read in full...)
He dating someone else but I can tell..he's not happy! Should I tell him how I feel about him?
Q. i really like this guy. he's smart, kind and sees me 4 the person i really am. the problem is hes seeing someone and i can tell he's not happy. is it the wrong time to tell him how i feel?...
A. 3 May 2007: i feel for you!! i know how u feel! i think that firstly you should talk to him about his feelings for the person he is seeing as you may have misunderstood his body language! for yourself i think you should wait first as this could end up hurting ... (read in full...)
She likes this lad but won't tell him. How do I convince her to just go and tell him?
Q. my best friend really likes this lad and she has to much pride to allow herself to go and tell him. ive tried making her but it doesnt work with her and shes a little cautious as hes of a different racial culture to her! what can i do to convince ...
A. 3 May 2007: i think she should go for it!! women can do loads these day n ages n she should take risks n if he says no then thats a chance she took n she hasnt lost anything n probs will gain more pride as people will see she is independant!! if she likes him ... (read in full...)
Dating 2 months and the feelings are fading, I only tell her I love her as I dont want to hurt her!!
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for about 2 months now and i thought i loved her but im starting to have second thoughts. I started to lose the feelings i thought i had for her. I tryed fixing it by changing some things like spending more or ...
A. 3 May 2007: hi!!
you really shouldn't use the word's "i love you" unless you mean them!! she will get really hurt and feel betrayed! it's easy to say but as easy to hurt someone aswell! i think you need to tell her that you have had time to think it over and... (read in full...)
My sister is being rude and judgemental about my girlfriend, Am I wrong to feel anger towards her ?
Q. I met my girlfriend about a year ago. We have a mutual friend that brought us together. I care about her very much. My sister is making unfair assumptions about her. My girlfriend's cousin that lived in our town was very promiscuous, and...
A. 3 May 2007: you do have the right to be angry but as mitch said it can be she's being protective! but why dont you try and talk all 3 of you and get anything that is on all your minds and from that you will be able to move on from this, but just don't push your ... (read in full...)
Help!!! I'm torn between my boyfriend and his best friend.
Q. I have been going out with a guy for a year and a half, but a few months ago i started to fancy another guy, my boyfriends best friend! i thought if i left it my feelings for this other guy would go away but now i think i am in love with him. i ...
A. 3 May 2007: hi there!!
to be honest i think you should stay well alone from both men involved!! it's hard to be in this situation!!
its not fair on you as you will be constantly in two minds and things will slip which in the end you will get hurt and if ... (read in full...)
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