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writes:Ohhh pleeeaaaassseeee help meeeee....I am really on the point that i wanna leave him... inside of me is already shouting and crying.... my partner for 6 years is soooo much talkactive and he looove discussion sooo much and this turn us almost everyday into a fight because i cant stand it anymore. I deal with it for 6 years now, but now my nervous system is not that strong anymore. And believe me, i already did all the stragic to deal with it like, sit there listen to him for a while till he is finish, act like im on his topic and even giving some thoughts about it even i am not interested to any of it. I did also talk to him about this not once but many times and it turns only to a huge fight. Im starting to hate him, my love for him is going down because of this always fighting and its all because of his really not interesting talkactive things. Its getting into my stomach already, its pain already. I cant stand it anymore and sometimes just to give my self a little break i go for 3 or 4 days on my other place alone to have a quiet and peace of mind but even that he is following me on phone with calls and if i dont get that call he is on message and if i dont answer it we are exploding like a world war 3 already. I cant anymore my goooooood why i am im this situation! I just wanna love someone and be love, be in a good relationship, quiet, peace of mind, simple, no stress, i dont need to be a millioner, i just want a normal and quiet life grrrrrrrrr..... please lorrrrd grand me that serenity and a courage and more strong and patience to deal with him ppppllleeeaaasseeee..... help meee.... Reply to this Question
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reader, kenny  +, writes (25 November 2021):
 I know its hard, but you know what you have to do while you were writing this post and that is to leave him.
You have been putting up with this for 6 years now, so the chances of him changing anytime soon are slim. All the time you stay with him you are having negative thoughts and feelings and this is unhealthy. You need to leave him now, i feel the longer you leave it the harder it will get.
Confide in family, friends, don't go through this alone. I think that once you have left him and start getting yourself back together you will feel a new sence of life, happiness and freedom.
You know that you need to leave him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2021): Make sure you find a place to live (even if only temporarily), get your finances in order, and leave.
If you're in such misery, your only option is to leave him! Not just sit there and complain about it. If you aren't financially prepared for a big move, or you just can't afford to live alone; maybe you can share expenses with a temporary roommate, until you are financially on your feet.
Why complain about how bad a boyfriend is, if you just stay there and put-up with it? Many women come to DC complaining about horrible relationships; but when each of the aunts and uncles suggest they leave, the follow-up post is usually a list of excuses and reasons why they can't. The biggest of them all is..."but I love him!" That's what I call their disclaimer. They want advice on how to fix or change him. Then you'll have to contact God about that.
Even if you have to stay with your parents, a friend, or a sibling for a while; you'll have to leave. I think you're on the brink of a mental-breakdown. It's making you sick!
If it's your place, and he's not on the lease or mortgage; you'll have to figure-out how to make him move-out. Consult a lawyer. If you rent, don't renew the lease with him on it. Save-up, so you can move. Meanwhile, get some good ear-plugs, noise-cancelling headphones, or go lock yourself in your car... and scream! Screaming in a locked-car, with the music on (optional); it releases so much stress and anxiety!
It's up to you, if you want to stay there and suffer. We can only give you advice, we can't send you a check, provide a moving van, or find you a new boyfriend. You've got to make a decision, come-up with a plan, and execute it.
God bless you, sweetheart! You have my sympathies!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 November 2021):
 OP, this is who he is. This is who he has been ever since you met him.
So what can we tell you other than leave him? Get you peace and quiet?
He sounds exhausting.
And it sounds like you don't enjoy him anymore.
YOU CAN NOT change him. That is now how it works.
So you have to accept this is how he is, if you can't stand it, move on.
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