My husband's child and the mother from a past relationship are back in our lives...the child stays with us every weekend, and my life is pretty much over!
Q. Two years ago I got married for the second time. My husband has a child from a previous relationship and all the time we have been married and for all the time the child has been born the mother and the child have lived in the US. The child who is ...
A. 5 February 2011: If you want to divorce just because you can't stand his child (did you try to spend some time with child without rejecting him - maybe it would be fun), then you don't love your husband at all. This is not true love. So i think leaving him is not ... (read in full...)
Stripping naked in front of a window?
Q. Can anyone tell me why a woman would strip nacked and flaunt herself in front of the window when she is argueing with her husband ?. I am deeply puzzled as to why she would do this....
A. 9 October 2009: Hah, this reminds me of Jerry Springer show. No idea why somebody would do that. Perhaps because her lacking of right speaking arguments, she shows him her physical arguments just to win the fight. Maybe she thought that her power is in her body. :) ... (read in full...)
Why am I attracted ONLY to older MEN?
Q. Hi there, The thing is I'm not coming here for professional advise, but for some educated opinions, and maybe a parallel to one's own experience (if there are any). I did seek some help on this issue when I was an undergrad and my school therapist...
A. 8 October 2009: I'm not a psychologist or anything like that but i'll try to tell you what i think from my point of view. They said that most of women are looking for a man who is just like their father or totally opposite of him. I think you belong to the second ... (read in full...)
She will think that I don't trust her, but how do I question her?
Q. Hello Friends, I have been in a relationship my girlfriend for past 9 Months. Its a long distance relationship and currently i am living in Washington and she is living in Canada. In these past nine months we have learnt a lot about ea...
A. 7 October 2009: Your problem is jealousy. You should understand your girlfriend - she was lonely in the city and met somebody nice who happened to be a male. It's totally understandable for me that she spend a lot of time with him, because people do need company ... (read in full...)
What is true beauty?
Q. What do you think true beauty means? Someone said I had it but wouldn't explain what they meant. So what do you think that means?...
A. 6 October 2009: Hm, it depends what you meant- visual beauty or inside beauty? These are two different things.
I connect beauty with pure things- like pure heart and soul. Or maybe the beauty is human as itself- true person, not pretending to be someone he/she is n... (read in full...)
Sex still hurts!
Q. how do you know if your cherrie has been completely poped or all the extra skin has broke??? please give me sum answers becouse im 16 iv had sex about 25 or more times w/ the same guy and it hurts every time and i hate it!...
A. 6 October 2009: It was the same with me a couple of years ago. Your skin definetely has broken if you have had sex for 25 times.
I have one a bit unconvencial advice for you: buy yourself a vibrator. It should be the right size for you, just a bit thicker than... (read in full...)
Smiles, eye contact -- does she like me?
Q. Hi, I wanted to know if this girl likes me. We're in the same classes and its only been the third day of the course. She doesn't talk to me, but when she looks at me she always smiles, and I usually catch her looking at me out of the corner of my ...
A. 14 September 2009: Probably she likes you, but she's too shy to do something about it. Why don't you talk to her and get to know her better? It can't be too hard if you're in the same class. Be friends with her and you'll see if she really likes you. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I fell hard for my therapist.
Q. Hi, I went to a psychotherapist last week and when I was filling out the questionnaire in the waiting room he came in and it took me about 5 seconds to fall for him. I immediately knew I was attracted to this man. I even thought about leaving an...
A. 11 August 2009: He probably noticed that you were attracted to him. Especially because he has a job where he supposed to know how people feel or what is the best theraphy for them. These kind of people usually have a talent in reading body language and thoughts. I ... (read in full...)
We didn't have sex before marriage and now I discover husband isn't creative or that interested!
Q. Hi All, Please advice. I have been married to my husband for a year and a half now. I love him. Ever since we have been dating and married I am the one who initiates sex or kissing cuddling etc . We never had sex before marriage. Ev...
A. 26 July 2009: Of course there is not anything wrong with you, your husband is frustrated about sex. Why haven't you had sex before marriage? Probably he think of sex as something dirty and not made for pleasure. I think he should talk with sexologist. He will ... (read in full...)
I really feel that it is love! But the age difference....
Q. Basically, i really love this guy, he tells me he likes me to, sometime i feel like hes leading me on, but hes afraid to let his feelings out because of the age gap between us, im 15 and hes 21, our birthdays are on the same month, mines before his, ...
A. 26 July 2009: Forget the law if he loves you and you love him. Just make sure that you see him in places where no one can see you. And that's kind of romantic, isn't it? Good luck!... (read in full...)
Should I try to let him know how I feel?
Q. hi, i'm a gay student who has not, as of yet, "come out". I've been interested in loads of guys from school for a couple of years now. However, now that i've left school and am going to uni in September, i have really felt a deep affection for one ...
A. 26 July 2009: I'm glad you've found out that he's gay. That's very nice to hear. At least you end up with livin in dillema. The best advice i could give you is that you should start seeing more gay males. That's the best way to avoid falling for straight... (read in full...)
Should I try to let him know how I feel?
Q. hi, i'm a gay student who has not, as of yet, "come out". I've been interested in loads of guys from school for a couple of years now. However, now that i've left school and am going to uni in September, i have really felt a deep affection for one ...
A. 24 July 2009: I'd suggest you not to tell him directly. First found out if he's really straight and if he has ever have a girlfriend or boyfriend. If he had a boyfriend, then tell him. If he didn't, try to make a conversation about what do he think about gay ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you have never met?
Q. is it possible to fall in love with someone u have never met but just spoken on the phone constantly probably a year ...
A. 24 July 2009: It's possible to fell in love with someone you have never met. Somehow it's better than in real life, because people tend to be more honest with someone they don't know. Besides that, a person in a world around you is surrounded by people who ... (read in full...)
OMG, we danced together!!! Could he like me?
Q. well there's this guy who I posted about several times since last summer who I liked and I thought he liked me because he would always stare at me in the hallways and in class..but when I told him that I liked him, he told me that he had a g/f but ...
A. 7 June 2009: Probably he do likes you, but he was afraid of something. I think the first poster was right - if he do likes you, he would tell you. Staring usually means that he is interesting in you, but that doesn't mean just on love way. Maybe he wants to be ... (read in full...)
What is he thinking?
Q. I asked this question earlier but didnt get the response I needed. I left out some information. I have been dating this guy for 4 mths. Everything was going great. About 2 weeks ago he started talking about falling in love and things were headed ...
A. 5 April 2009: I'm not sure, but i guess that he's a bit scared. Probably he's very sensitive by the nature and his past relationship had hurted him so badly and he might think that your relationship would end anyway. So he had decided that he doesn't need any new ... (read in full...)
I feel cheated when my wife discovered anal sex from porn channel
Q. For the past couple of months, my wife and I have been having a lot of sex. I mean a lot! I'm taking five or six nights a week. I'm not complaining about it by any means. I'm happy that the spark is still there but I did wonder where she had got the ...
A. 12 March 2009: I think you're jealous without any good reason to be. And I think your feelings are very selfish and possesive. Can't see good reason why you feel cheated.
Most of men would be very happy to have a wife who has high sex drive. I really can't see ... (read in full...)
How can guys be so sleazy?
Q. There are these two guys who are like best friends that I know. They both sleep around and when we went to a party once, one of them was having sex with a random girl and his friend joined him after a while and they "double teamed" her. The guys ...
A. 6 March 2009: I agree with Yos very much. He's so true about everything he has been said. You should stay away from them, although i'm almost sure that they wouldn't do with you the same, because you're friend of them.
I have one good news for you: all guys are ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, he's not
Q. Ok so there's this guy I really like, he's 19 and I'm 18. I'm a virgin and I just found out that he's not, but he only did it once when he was a senior and with a girlfriend he had had for over a year. He's a really great and sweet guy and when I ...
A. 24 February 2009: Do you have Christian beliefs? I hope not. Well, when i was virgin and in relationship with my first boyfriend, it's bothering me a bit. When i have my second boyfriend, who was virgin and i wasn't.. Well, what can i say.. sex was horrible at the ... (read in full...)
I've been holding back too much, I want to let myself go and show how I truly feel
Q. There's someone who i really like at my college. The first time i saw his face there was this instant attraction, and finally after a few weeks we began talking and are now pretty good friends. He does know how i feel about him because i told him ...
A. 17 February 2009: Hey, I think you should focus on the party you're invited. Firstly, i'd suggest you to buy new clothes, something that you would look sexy, but not slutty. Make sure that you'll look great, but don't make it too obvious. Make him that you'll notice ... (read in full...)
Why is my name in your mouth?
Q. My ex tells everybody he's over me and hates me. But the thing is he can't keep my name out of his mouth and his friendz keep harrassing me. I would really like to know why my ex can't leave me alone if he says he's over me?...
A. 14 February 2009: He's not over you yet, i'm sure.If he talks about you, that means that he still think about you. Probably he's mad about you, because you left him and he wants to hate you but if you'd give him another chance, i'm sure he'd be with you again. I ... (read in full...)
Is he playing with me?
Q. There's this guy at school and he keeps on staring at me all the time. Sometimes with a small smile on his face and other times just a blank look. He also sometimes shows-off and flirts with other girls in front of me (he does it purposely). And ...
A. 5 February 2009: I think he do likes you, but he's too shy to show his feelings. Guys at his age are very confused about their emotionals, because all that seems so new and they're not really sure if they're in love or it's just a lust (or maybe at the moments they ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with my boyfriend?
Q. my BF is says am cheating on him when am not. when i go out with my girlfriends he aks me if i got chatted by other guys or did i got drunk.when am not that kind of a girl that would do that. i really like him and am falling for him but am sacred ...
A. 5 February 2009: I'll be a bit dense, but if i were you i'd leave him. Why? Because he's kind of person who is not good to be with, and i don't mean just temporary, but in the future too. This MIGHT come to the physical violence or possesive behaviour and you'll ... (read in full...)
Someone is trying to blackmail me
Q. Hi I have some problems with someone blackmailing me online. He has threatened to post some pictures ( compromising ones) online if i do not do what he wants me to. I do not know what to do. I only know him online. I have no idea of his ph...
A. 5 February 2009: What do he want you to do? Whatever is it, don't do that. I think there are some online pages to report this kind of blackmailing. I hope some of aunts here will give you right link, I just heard that kind of pages exist. There is another one chan... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 2 February 2009: I think that all of us can see why DC have so many visitors. We all have problems, especially in difficult relationship situations and all of us needed advice sometime. And if we know how to help other person who's in troubles, why wouldn't we take ... (read in full...)
Lost and Confused...Aries and Aquarius!
Q. Here is the gist of the story. I met this guy in Cali I don't live there but visit often for the past 10 years. He is a friend of a relative for six years and we've never formally met each other but had to have passed by each other countless times. ...
A. 22 January 2009: Hey, I think you should be with him. It doesn't matter your family, your boyfriend or husband.. Obvioulsy you're not happy together, so why do you try to stay with him. You needed someone else with different character and you found your soul mate. ... (read in full...)
When are my "safe" days???
Q. Hi, I have a boyfriend that I have been dating for 3 years and we started having sex like one and a half years ago. My problem is that I still don't know my safe days so am forced to use emergency pills which I believe are not advisable to use ...
A. 22 January 2009: The best way to not become pregnant is to use condoms (you can buy them in almost every store) or contraceptive pills, which you can get after you visit your gynecologist. I don't know on which planet do you live, that you didn't know that before, ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but he's not big enough for me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a while now, and I really really like him. Everything in our relationship is perfect, except for he has a tiny penis (3" when erect) which cannot satisfy my needs... I don't want to lose him but do ...
A. 17 January 2009: You can't do much, except buy yourself vibrator or some other sex toy. :) I just hope that he can use his penis at the right way. Like first poster here said, tehnique matter too.
Try to find a way, that you'll be satisfied oral at least.
I thi... (read in full...)
I wish I could turn back the clock and undo what I did...
Q. Back in the summer my ex dumped me and started seeing another girl. I was so in love with him it really hurt and for months I hated them both. Deep down I know it wasn't the girl's fault, he didn't dump me for her, she was unaware of what he done to ...
A. 12 January 2009: You should know that it wasn't just your fault at all. It takes 2 people for having sex. What he did wasn't right, he took advantage of you because he probably still had some kind of feelings for you that time.
You can't convince other people that... (read in full...)
Is it the 11 year old that loves him? Or me at 16?
Q. i have sent this problem before but i didnt get any responses, so i decided to try again, because i still need advice :) When I was younger, about 10 or 11, i was best friends with a boy. We grew up together and I think that in some weird way i...
A. 12 January 2009: How did you get in contact with him again? Where dID you talk? Add him on facebook or msn and then you'll see what will happen.
You didn't tell us in what kind of relationship are you two now. I understand you, why you love him, but you should be c... (read in full...)
I'd like my dad to meet my boyfriend
Q. Hey. Ok I might as well tell you a little bit about myself and my situation first. Well, I'm 13 years old first of all however i'll be turning 14 in march of 2009. I don't need you to tell me i'm to young to know what love is. Because thats ...
A. 29 December 2008: Don't worry about age. I remember when I was 13 and madly in love with someone who unfortunately didn't like me back. You have luck, because it seems that your boyfriend likes you or maybe even loves you.
Another example is, my good friend (she... (read in full...)
He talks about having sex with me. Is that all he wants?
Q. dumped my ex because I wanted things my way and got angry when he didn't do what l wanted. l realized my mistake and apologized.I told him l wanted him back.he told me he had moved on and is now dating an ex of his-said I am the one who pushed h...
A. 29 December 2008: Hey, sorry but this guy is an idiot and he's not worth of your love. Why the hell does he think that his temporary girlfriend would agree with that kind of relationship? He probably wants just take advantage of you and use you for sex. He should not ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Or just being friendly?
Q. There's this guy I like at work but I can't tell if he likes me back. He'll tease me over silly things i.e Once I cam late from my break he was teasing me that I was seeing a mystery guy, he know's i'm single or if I'm applying make-up he think...
A. 10 December 2008: Probably he fancys you, but you shouldn't take it all situation seriously. He seems like someone who loves flirting and teasing felmale friends. If i were you, I wouldn't mind about that too much. But if you like him, flirt and tease him back. And ... (read in full...)
Do people believe in Soul Mates?
Q. Hey, I was wondering how many people believe in soul mates? I really think I've found mine... Here's why: - We seem to say exactly the same things at the same time and it could be something really random compared to what we were just talking abo...
A. 7 December 2008: Oh, how lovely relatioship you have! I'm almost jealous :) I do beleive in soul mates and i think that everyone should start looking for them, because everyone need to know a person, who is very much alike them.
I have found 2 guys and 1 girl, whos... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend that I'm not a virgin anymore?
Q. Do I tell my new boyfriend im not a virgin anymore? I told him that I am but I want us to be honest to each other. So what do I do now? Do I tell him i'm not a virgin or do I let him think that I still am? Im 17. He is 21. Im not planning on having ...
A. 7 December 2008: Hey, I think you should tell him. It's not shame that you're not virgin. Don't feel embarras about that. You want honest relationship, so start working on that. If he loves you, he would except you and your past sex life.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
I'm worried about travelling with her family - is this normal?
Q. Alright. Well first, I have to tell you that this is about my girlfriend and me having not really problems, but my head is twisted. Okay. I am only 13 years old, she is 14. She asked me to go back to both of where we are from. This is overseas a...
A. 20 November 2008: You know how to act, as you said you're polite and that's the thing that most parents appreciate. I'd suggest you to go, if that was your girlfriend invitation and if you want to go.
You seems nice guy, so act nice and polite in front of her pare... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my online girl won't like me when she sees me.
Q. hello,i have a question i met this girl online.we have talked for 6months. we know everything about eachother,we know how we look. but i feel scared she aint gunna like me when she sees me. idk... am i being paranoid?...
A. 20 November 2008: What she says when she saw your picture? She knows how you look like and she probably likes the way you look. But you were right, there are always chances. And what if you won't like her? Probably she is a bit paranoid about that too.
You don'... (read in full...)
How do you think he really feels about me?
Q. Trying to understand his feeling.. we dated 20 years ago and recently started seeing each other, but three hours away. I am currently separated. i have visited his home several times, when I’m there it is like I’m the most important person. He ...
A. 20 November 2008: Probably he has serious attentions with you, but as you said he is not sure you will get divorced. Try to understand him and his reaction. If you were him, you would probably react on same way, don't you think so? The second thing is that he is gone ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance I could be pregnant?
Q. i slept with my fiance 4 days after i had my period. is there a chance i could be or get pregnant?...
A. 14 November 2008: If you were not protect with a condom or pills, sure there are chances. But i'd suggest you to buy pregnancy test.
That's the best way to get to know that! Good luck.. with or without a baby :) ... (read in full...)
Because of my vomiting and not eating my boyriend thinks I have an eating disorder. I don't agree.
Q. hey, im 16, female and 5"3 in the last 3weeks ive changed what i eat a lot. it started where i threw up everything i ate, this lasted for 1 and a half weeks during this period itriedd to throw up half of what i ate but i just ended up throwing u...
A. 11 November 2008: Terrible! I think your boyfriend is right. And you know that, but you would deny everytime someone mention it. You should eat more fruit, vagetable, rice, fishes.. You need to go to the social worker or someone who can helps you with your problems, ... (read in full...)
Why won't he show me where he lives?
Q. AM I HARD ON HIM I am 25 years old and I have been dating a 30 year olg guy for five months. The problem is that he doesn't want to show me where he lives. He knows where I live and he visits me every day. I feel like he is hiding somethin...
A. 8 November 2008: Hey.. Probably he doesn't have so nice apartmant/house like you. I think he is just embarrassed of his own place. I can't answer you if he has a wife or not.. do you have any friends in common? Ask them about his wife if you're still not sure. But I ... (read in full...)
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