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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and am spending more nights at his than I am at home. Is it too soon to suggest moving in together?On the one hand I genuinely think he'd jump at the idea as we hate being apart but on the other I'm worried he'll think we're moving too fast and I'll end up scaring him off. But more than anything I'm just fed up of living at home. I have 4 younger brothers and a step-brother as well and we all live under the same roof with my Mum and Step-Dad, so as you can imagine it's a madhouse most days. As much as I love all my siblings to death, they can annoy the hell out of me at the same time. I'm 23, I've got a Uni degree under my belt and feel more than ready to fly the nest.I just feel like my relationship with my boyfriend has just gone from strength to strength over the past few months. We get on so well and love each other so much. This would probably be the first real test of how serious our relationship is but I feel ready for it. Waking up next to him, cuddling up on his sofa, cooking for each other etc all just feel so natural and right.It's the little things that I just want as well. Like being able to go to the toilet at night time and not having to worry about how little clothing I had on. Or the novelty of being able to walk around the place naked and it not being an issue. I hate wearing PJ's and am very much a birthday suit kind of girl as it is. But I obviously can't do that if I'm still living at home. I just want that privacy. Having a bit of peace and quiet in the mornings would be nice as well! My little brothers are both up at the crack of dawn every morning charging about the house and bickering over the Xbox and no matter how many times we tell them to keep it down they just never do.Most of the time now I'm away from home for days on end. I just go straight to his after work. I've lost count of the number of times my Mum has messaged recently asking if I'm gonna be there for tea that night and I've said no.Money isn't an issue at all. I do have a really good job and have plenty of savings so am more than happy to pay my way with him. I already pay 'rent' to my Mum and Dad and contribute to things like the food budget as it. I know I'd need to think about other bills like council tax, gas/electric etc but it's no skin off my back really. Work is closer to his place as well, so are a lot of my friends. Everything just feels right about it. It's just that anxiety about taking the next step. I know 9 months isn't a long time at all, but should I broach the subject with my boyfriend?Thanks xxx
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reader, kenny +, writes (26 November 2021):
 I do think that 9 months is a little early, but like you say everything feels right about it, so on that basis go for it.
Its a big move to make, you could get something together, or you could get your own place just you and do something together a bit further down the line.
Its a big step, so just make sure if you do it together then all bills, Mortgage/rent payments are evenly distributed.
Moving out and flying the nest, whether its with someone else, or on your own is an exciting venture, so enjoy it. SO yes broach the subject with him and see what he say's. Im sure he will be excited at the idea.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 November 2021):
 I think 9 months is a bit early - BUT that doesn't mean it won't work out.
Just make absolutely sure that YOU two talk budget, chores, and general house rules and expectations. BEFORE moving in.
Just ask him what he thinks about living together at some point, see what he thinks and feels.
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