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writes: Well see my problem is complicated. I have this ex-boyfriend that i was seeing for about 2 months before he left for Louisiana, and me and him only saw each other 2 times before he left. Well me and him were on the phone and emailing each other. One day he thought it would be funny if he sent me a picture of his genitals, and i opened it and it accidentally downloaded. My father decided to go through my computer while i was away for 2 weeks, and he found the picture along with other pictures that people downloaded on my computer without me knowing.Then my dad told me i can't talk to my boyfriend anymore, can't drive, can't talk to boys, go on dates, do anything that has to do with boys. My mother says that i can at least talk on the phone so i do. I recently have a new boyfriend without my dad's knowledge, and we want to see each other but we can't. I don't know what to do to get my dad to trust me again. I think that I am in love with this boy even though i can't see him, and i feel like im holding him back, should we break up, or should i try to convince my dad that i can be trusted with a boy. I feel like he thinks ill have sex or something, but im not thinking about that one bit, my boyfriend knows that i am saving myself for marriage, and he is okay with it. I don't know how to get my dad to see it. Im at the point where i don't care if my dad is with us when we see each other, but i just want to see him. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (17 October 2005):
Your dad must really love you. He really doesn't mean to make your lovelife horrible, he's just protecting his little girl. But he can't tell you who you can and cannot date. Talk to your mother about your dad. Maybe she can sort something out with him and make him realise that you only want a boyfriend to love. Not to have sex with. Good luck to you!!!
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reader, datprincssfrmva +, writes (6 October 2005):
Well thanks for the help.....but yea im 16 years old....and I did break up with the boy that sent me the pics because even though my mother still let me talk to him on the phone, i broke up with him because i realized him sending me those pictures was very disrespecful.
But the new boyfriend i have is different i made sure of that, but i wish i hadn't messed up with the first boyfriend. But i did what my dad said and erased everything off my computer and i still haven't had any other pictures like that on there. And i don't let my friends or family members use my computer when im not home anymore.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (6 October 2005):
 You sound pretty young... or very naive, so I'd be listening to your dad and doing as he says. If you live under his roof and you're under the age of majority, then you have to live by his rules. (If I'm wrong and you're over 18, then you need more help than I can provide here.)
You made a stupid mistake by opening the pic from your boyfriend, (and frankly, he doesn't sound too bright, sending it to you. What did he *think* was going to happen?). I'm also not buying the line that your "friends" downloaded the pics that your dad found. It sounds to me like you're playing with fire and that you're on the brink of getting into some real trouble, by leading guys like your boyfriend on. After all, if you're saving yourself for marriage, why would you be winding up your boyfriend and opening pornographic photos on your computer?
There are a million years between where you are now and your finally settling down with one boy. I suggest you let this guy go and move on to someone with a few more brain cells in his skull.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 October 2005):
 Nobody can truly give you any help with this without knowing just how old you are. If you are 30 then move out if you are 10 then listen and obey your father.
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reader, hotlips +, writes (5 October 2005):
its natural for dads to think of the girls as "daddy's little girl"and they hate it when they see them growing up. i would still kepp in contact with this boy but spend some time with ur dad and let him know that all though ur growing up your still be daddy's little girl.
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