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writes:Hello, I have a daughter who has recently fell in love with her long time boyfriend. I think that he is a great guy, with some flaws of his past, but who doesn't. Anyway, I like him, but do not like having to share my daughter's heart with him. I was a single mother for many years, but have been married to a wonderful man for almost six years now. My daughter and I are very, very close, in fact, we are the very best of friends and I am not used to having to share her with anyone, not even her biological father(she considers my husband her father)! I feel as if this sounds so juvenile, but it really is hurting me all the same. I don't know what to do about how I feel. I don't know if it's normal or if I'm truly being an idiot. I don't want to push her away because of the way I'm feeling, but I am having such difficulty. I find myself asking, "Why put in any more time with her, when all she is going to do is leave me anyway?" In reality, this is not what I want, but I find myself doing it anyway. What should I do and is what I am feeling normal? Please help soon!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): love is love, something hard to be taken away. Its something mentally by all humans something that defines one person to another in having a relationship. You cannot take apart someone who he or she loves but you sure can discipline he or her before he or she take the next step in a relationship which ends in pregnancy, or other situations.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (30 August 2007):
I love my boyfriend but i dont love my mum any less at all. I still need her and she will always be there for things my boyfriend wont be able to help with.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 August 2007):
 As the mother of two grown and married daughters I can certainly relate to your situation. When my daughters were teens they got really busy with their social life and I felt kinda left out. But now that they are young mothers themselves we've grown very close once again. Trust me the saying is true, "A son's a son until he takes a wife, a daughter's a daughter all her life." Just give it time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): You can still be close with her. And no, you aren't being an idiot. You may not see her as much as you used to, but you can still go out. I love going out with my mom, on Sundays we usually hang out, and I have a baby & am in a relationship with a guy. Make a day to be your special day. My mom also has her own life, she loves gambling. But we still hang out. You will find other things to fill your time and you'll still see her, a mother is one of the most important people in a child's life, especially in a daughter's life. Take it from me.
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