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anonymous
writes:i have a colleague at work who is married with a 3 year old kid..i was new and got atrracted to him, i was the only one single in the office and many guys wants to court me, but i fell inlove with this married man and we see each other secretly,we had sex always, even inside his office sometimes but he tells me that he loves his family too much but she enjoyed being with me..do u guys thing that he's just after the sex?
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reader, bemused  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Hi hun.
I think the other posters here are being honest with you. Judging from your age and the undignified and unprofessional behaviour of this colleague...in this case sex is the motivator..yes. You need to wake up. You say that other guys in the office want to court you..might there be..gasp...a single guy among them..a guy you could call your own. There is a concern I have here hun. Could it be that all the other guys want to court you because they are looking for what this married colleague is looking for and the word is out. This is not good or fair to you. You need to end this relationship and probably look for another job and do not repeat this behavior again. Hopefully you were using protection. Hopefully you will take action to protect your heart in future.
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reader, rockelle  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 DUUUH, most extra-marital affairs are primarily about sex. I am surprised that you even had to ask that question. After all, when you are sneaking around with him he isn't making love to your brain.
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reader, tracyann  +, writes (30 August 2007):
Dont be a fool, if he is married and cheating on his wife he is bored at home .. dont let him have his cake and eat it.. he is lying to you.. ps why dont you see a single man so that he is all yours .. all married men that have affairs are full of crap, he wont leave his wife for you. wake up ..
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Hi
In a nut shell er...yes!
Taking advantage of you too by the sounds of it.
Kick the guy to the kerb.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, kenny +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Yes he is most certainly just after sex. He has it with you then crawls back to the marrital bed at the end of it, so he is certainly getting his cake and eat it too.
Invariably married guys never leave their partners, so ultimately you become the mistress, or bit on the side, however you want ot term it. I would give this guy a wide berth from now on, i can only forsee heartache at the end of this. If it becomes really arkward after then leave and get another job somewhere else and start afresh.
All the best x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Of course he is just after sex, sheesh! I'm amazed you had to ask!
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reader, penta +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Yes, he's after sex. He may also like the flirtation, and be flattered that you like him. But he's never going to leave his wife. And you shouldn't want him to -- they have a 3-year-old kid to think about.
In addition to thinking about the kid, you need to think about your career. Your life at this office is over once everyone finds out (and they will eventually if you keep this up).
In addition, you won't be able to fall for anyone who's available while you're with this guy.
Do yourself a HUGE favor and cut him loose. Don't ask him to leave his wife -- you don't want him (if he cheats WITH you he will cheat ON you). Avoid him as much as possible (since you work together) and don't continue this relationship.
Good luck.
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Yup. Most definately. You'd be wise to cut this tie and start dating one of the single guys who is interested in you. Or change jobs. This will never be anything more than an affair and you will end up heart-broken. Good luck.
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